“Conversational Japanese” by Living Language is a good, basic, Japanese Conversation book. If you are interested in Spanish, French, German…etc., I am sure they have something to fit your need. Good luck.
Great thread.
This goes along with the “being quit a catch” thread in SAMA.
My piece of advice would be get out there and get to know yourself.
OP, either because of how you are, or how you were raised, you appear to thrive tightly regulated, controlled, predictable environments (academia and BoyScoutz for example), where expectations are made clear, someone tells you exactly what you need to to, and if you do x,y and z, you get an A, or a badge or whatever, and within that little world, that is success.
People don’t work like that, and it requires a little more intuition and adaptability. People won’t always react the way they “should”. Some of these books give great advice, but the specific stuff won’t work all the time. What will work all the time is having real confidence in yourself (not convincing yourself you deserve it because you got a smiley face on your paper), and getting an intuitive grasp on human-human interactions.
[quote]Spartiates wrote:
Great thread.
This goes along with the “being quit a catch” thread in SAMA.
My piece of advice would be get out there and get to know yourself.
OP, either because of how you are, or how you were raised, you appear to thrive tightly regulated, controlled, predictable environments (academia and BoyScoutz for example), where expectations are made clear, someone tells you exactly what you need to to, and if you do x,y and z, you get an A, or a badge or whatever, and within that little world, that is success.
People don’t work like that, and it requires a little more intuition and adaptability. People won’t always react the way they “should”. Some of these books give great advice, but the specific stuff won’t work all the time. What will work all the time is having real confidence in yourself (not convincing yourself you deserve it because you got a smiley face on your paper), and getting an intuitive grasp on human-human interactions. [/quote]
nevermind … I was wrong
[quote]polo77j wrote:
[quote]Spartiates wrote:
Great thread.
This goes along with the “being quit a catch” thread in SAMA.
My piece of advice would be get out there and get to know yourself.
OP, either because of how you are, or how you were raised, you appear to thrive tightly regulated, controlled, predictable environments (academia and BoyScoutz for example), where expectations are made clear, someone tells you exactly what you need to to, and if you do x,y and z, you get an A, or a badge or whatever, and within that little world, that is success.
People don’t work like that, and it requires a little more intuition and adaptability. People won’t always react the way they “should”. Some of these books give great advice, but the specific stuff won’t work all the time. What will work all the time is having real confidence in yourself (not convincing yourself you deserve it because you got a smiley face on your paper), and getting an intuitive grasp on human-human interactions. [/quote]
nevermind … I was wrong[/quote]
About Southpark?
If I went to high school with op I bookcheck him every day.
then put my arm around his shoulder at the urinal
call him during his class while I’m at lunch so his phone gets taken away
throw powerade bottles at him
um, point out that his shirt has a logo on it bigger than a quarter and get him sent home for dress code violation
we definitely had guys like you in our high school op…they got their asses kicked regularly
they’d always be like “its ok, in 10 years you’re gonna work for me”
at which point we’d respond “yes, fucking your wife for you”
they’d get pissed and cry then we’d end up in the office laughing with our dean…rocking our varsity jackets (mine was black with chains on it)
[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
If I went to high school with op I bookcheck him every day.
then put my arm around his shoulder at the urinal
call him during his class while I’m at lunch so his phone gets taken away
throw powerade bottles at him
um, point out that his shirt has a logo on it bigger than a quarter and get him sent home for dress code violation
we definitely had guys like you in our high school op…they got their asses kicked regularly
they’d always be like “its ok, in 10 years you’re gonna work for me”
at which point we’d respond “yes, fucking your wife for you”
they’d get pissed and cry then we’d end up in the office laughing with our dean…rocking our varsity jackets (mine was black with chains on it)
[/quote]
… I hear you slit your wrists
[quote]PhatAznGuy wrote:
[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
If I went to high school with op I bookcheck him every day.
then put my arm around his shoulder at the urinal
call him during his class while I’m at lunch so his phone gets taken away
throw powerade bottles at him
um, point out that his shirt has a logo on it bigger than a quarter and get him sent home for dress code violation
we definitely had guys like you in our high school op…they got their asses kicked regularly
they’d always be like “its ok, in 10 years you’re gonna work for me”
at which point we’d respond “yes, fucking your wife for you”
they’d get pissed and cry then we’d end up in the office laughing with our dean…rocking our varsity jackets (mine was black with chains on it)
[/quote]
… I hear you slit your wrists
[/quote]
Yeah, so?
[quote]jdinatale wrote:
You mad because I actually achieved something meaningful my youth? What were you out doing when you were a teen? Drinking or smoking? Because when I was a teen (still am) I was out doing 200 hour community service projects, helping other people, learning life skills, and serving my community.[/quote]
And yet, ironically, here you are on an internet forum, asking people on suggestions for books that will aid you in becoming more social.
“Life skills” my ass.
[quote]Spartiates wrote:
[quote]polo77j wrote:
[quote]Spartiates wrote:
Great thread.
This goes along with the “being quit a catch” thread in SAMA.
My piece of advice would be get out there and get to know yourself.
OP, either because of how you are, or how you were raised, you appear to thrive tightly regulated, controlled, predictable environments (academia and BoyScoutz for example), where expectations are made clear, someone tells you exactly what you need to to, and if you do x,y and z, you get an A, or a badge or whatever, and within that little world, that is success.
People don’t work like that, and it requires a little more intuition and adaptability. People won’t always react the way they “should”. Some of these books give great advice, but the specific stuff won’t work all the time. What will work all the time is having real confidence in yourself (not convincing yourself you deserve it because you got a smiley face on your paper), and getting an intuitive grasp on human-human interactions. [/quote]
nevermind … I was wrong[/quote]
About Southpark?[/quote]
no, my good man, I am NEVER wrong about South Park
First rule, you have nothing to prove to people,fuck your achievements(not being harsh, this applies to everyone) when starting a conversation or a thread, do not list them, you will look foolish and needing approval. instead, simply ask ‘hey anyone know any good books on social interaction/communication skills?’ < better.
Also Do not use them as an ice breaker unless it is some sort of relevant knowledge, or people will think you are a smug snob. Instead strive to achieve something as visible as a powerful physique, then it will serve as an ice breaker without you saying a word.
and being humble about your achievements is much more appealing to people.
most importantly: Double your pussy intake. 100% serious, this will solve everything.
[quote]FuriousFists wrote:
most importantly: Double your pussy intake. 100% serious, this will solve everything.[/quote]
2 * 0 = 0
[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
…rocking our varsity jackets (mine was black with chains on it)[/quote]
I love the shit you say, dude. Keep it up.
[quote]anonym wrote:
[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:
…rocking our varsity jackets (mine was black with chains on it)[/quote]
I love the shit you say, dude. Keep it up.[/quote]
This guy is fucked…
But, nothing wrong with a wrist slitter
I recommend “Never Eat Alone” by Keith ferrazi…changed my view about personal relationships. It is not about “being social” it is about putting yourself out there in whatever it is your trying to achieve. People remember when you go out of their way for them.