Girlfriend Hung Herself

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[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:
…and maybe change your avatar until things get better… It’s hard to empathize with you while you have a picture of yourself with two hookers. [/quote]

Perhaps your message here would have been more appropriate in the form of a PM, instead of making it public, and therefore MORE obvious.[/quote]

I’m not the one who made it public. That was the OP.

Has he changed his avatar? No.

Have you gone after all the people who told this guy to “hang in there”?
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Looks like a 20-year-old guy posing between some Playboy bunnies/ cocktail waitresses at a club. What exactly does that establish? Put another way, what 20-year-old young man wouldn’t pose for such a pic?

I have a picture of me posing between a couple of shirtless Abercombie and Fitch models hanging in my home office. My family thinks it’s hilarious.

OP, this is a heartbreaking situation. Hang in there.

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OP, I worked with a guy, he seemed fine. He came to work one day and killed himself in the changing room. It was devastating, unsettling…hard to put into words. As others have said, get some professional help. You will only benefit from it, it makes you a strong person to seek help, not weak.
Don’t let those black seeds sprout.

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[quote]Powerpuff wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:
…and maybe change your avatar until things get better… It’s hard to empathize with you while you have a picture of yourself with two hookers. [/quote]

Perhaps your message here would have been more appropriate in the form of a PM, instead of making it public, and therefore MORE obvious.[/quote]

I’m not the one who made it public. That was the OP.

Has he changed his avatar? No.

Have you gone after all the people who told this guy to “hang in there”?
[/quote]

Looks like a 20-year-old guy posing between some Playboy bunnies/ cocktail waitresses at a club. What exactly does that establish? Put another way, what 20-year-old young man wouldn’t pose for such a pic?

I have a picture of me posing between a couple of shirtless Abercombie and Fitch models hanging in my home office. My family thinks it’s hilarious.

OP, this is a heartbreaking situation. Hang in there.
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Your family is pretty sick if they think hanging shirtless models in your home office is hilarious.

But back to the avatar… It is harmless, but I think it’s out of place given the situation.

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[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:
…and maybe change your avatar until things get better… It’s hard to empathize with you while you have a picture of yourself with two hookers. [/quote]

Perhaps your message here would have been more appropriate in the form of a PM, instead of making it public, and therefore MORE obvious.[/quote]

I’m not the one who made it public. That was the OP.

Has he changed his avatar? No.

Have you gone after all the people who told this guy to “hang in there”?
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No, YOU drew attention to what YOU perceived as inappropriate in this situation.
We’re all adults here and can decipher sincerity where called for, thank you.

There was no reason for you to come with your petty judgements into this thread, where the OP felt comfortable in expressing his grief and fears to a warm community of sincere well-wishers.

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[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:
…and maybe change your avatar until things get better… It’s hard to empathize with you while you have a picture of yourself with two hookers. [/quote]

Perhaps your message here would have been more appropriate in the form of a PM, instead of making it public, and therefore MORE obvious.[/quote]

I’m not the one who made it public. That was the OP.

Has he changed his avatar? No.

Have you gone after all the people who told this guy to “hang in there”?
[/quote]

No, YOU drew attention to what YOU perceived as inappropriate in this situation.
We’re all adults here and can decipher sincerity where called for, thank you.

There was no reason for you to come with your petty judgements into this thread, where the OP felt comfortable in expressing his grief and fears to a warm community of sincere well-wishers.

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Who do you feel worse for, the OP or the girl who’s privacy has been invaded? I could really care less about the picture of the bunnies. It was merely an observation.

I wonder how you would feel if your daughter attempted suicide and some kid put her story to her face on the internet. To top it off, I’m sure you would be pleased to see him with his trophy photo next to your little angel’s face. I’m not surprised the family won’t let him see her.

Call me old fashioned.

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Mac85 fuck you and the hole you came out of. Punk-ass bitch.

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[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:
…and maybe change your avatar until things get better… It’s hard to empathize with you while you have a picture of yourself with two hookers. [/quote]

Perhaps your message here would have been more appropriate in the form of a PM, instead of making it public, and therefore MORE obvious.[/quote]

I’m not the one who made it public. That was the OP.

Has he changed his avatar? No.

Have you gone after all the people who told this guy to “hang in there”?
[/quote]

No, YOU drew attention to what YOU perceived as inappropriate in this situation.
We’re all adults here and can decipher sincerity where called for, thank you.

There was no reason for you to come with your petty judgements into this thread, where the OP felt comfortable in expressing his grief and fears to a warm community of sincere well-wishers.

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Who do you feel worse for, the OP or the girl who’s privacy has been invaded? I could really care less about the picture of the bunnies. It was merely an observation.

I wonder how you would feel if your daughter attempted suicide and some kid put her story to her face on the internet. To top it off, I’m sure you would be pleased to see him with his trophy photo next to your little angel’s face. I’m not surprised the family won’t let him see her.

Call me old fashioned.

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I don’t know if you’re old fashioned, but you certainly are confrontational. Your tone in your initial post was not one of concern for the young lady but a personal attack on the OP’s character based on 2 photos he posted on the internet. You then go so far as to say that you understand why the family doesn’t want him there. I have no idea if the OP is a good guy, a bad guy or what, but neither do you and this is an extremely malicious thing to say under the circumstances. If you were genuinely concerned about the lady’s privacy you could certainly have framed your comment much differently than you did. You may even have a point, but your tone is completely uncalled for.

People in their 20’s put pretty much everything on the internet. I don’t particularly like it myself, but I’m not about to assume that they’re all trash because of it, and even if I did this is hardly the place for it.

You then proceed to describe another posters whole family as “sick” based on an offhanded comment about another photo, a photo of shirtless guys (the horror!). Being an uncouth ass does not make you old fashioned, it just makes you an uncouth ass.

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OP, I’m sorry for your troubles and I wish your Girlfriend a full and speedy recovery.

I sincerely hope she gets well physically and is able to find her way out of whatever emotional pain drove her to this.

All the best to you both.

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Mac85, you’re committing the sickest troll job I’ve yet seen. Please go and vent your twisted little ego elsewhere.

OP, I hope your girlfriend is on the mend, and you’re doing okay.

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[quote]batman730 wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:
…and maybe change your avatar until things get better… It’s hard to empathize with you while you have a picture of yourself with two hookers. [/quote]

Perhaps your message here would have been more appropriate in the form of a PM, instead of making it public, and therefore MORE obvious.[/quote]

I’m not the one who made it public. That was the OP.

Has he changed his avatar? No.

Have you gone after all the people who told this guy to “hang in there”?
[/quote]

No, YOU drew attention to what YOU perceived as inappropriate in this situation.
We’re all adults here and can decipher sincerity where called for, thank you.

There was no reason for you to come with your petty judgements into this thread, where the OP felt comfortable in expressing his grief and fears to a warm community of sincere well-wishers.

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Who do you feel worse for, the OP or the girl who’s privacy has been invaded? I could really care less about the picture of the bunnies. It was merely an observation.

I wonder how you would feel if your daughter attempted suicide and some kid put her story to her face on the internet. To top it off, I’m sure you would be pleased to see him with his trophy photo next to your little angel’s face. I’m not surprised the family won’t let him see her.

Call me old fashioned.

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I don’t know if you’re old fashioned, but you certainly are confrontational. Your tone in your initial post was not one of concern for the young lady but a personal attack on the OP’s character based on 2 photos he posted on the internet. You then go so far as to say that you understand why the family doesn’t want him there. I have no idea if the OP is a good guy, a bad guy or what, but neither do you and this is an extremely malicious thing to say under the circumstances. If you were genuinely concerned about the lady’s privacy you could certainly have framed your comment much differently than you did. You may even have a point, but your tone is completely uncalled for.

People in their 20’s put pretty much everything on the internet. I don’t particularly like it myself, but I’m not about to assume that they’re all trash because of it, and even if I did this is hardly the place for it.

You then proceed to describe another posters whole family as “sick” based on an offhanded comment about another photo, a photo of shirtless guys (the horror!). Being an uncouth ass does not make you old fashioned, it just makes you an uncouth ass.[/quote]

Man, I really don’t care about the picture with the models or the bunnies. That’s not what this is about. The comment about the other poster’s family was a joke.

Should I have sent the OP a PM? Maybe. He’s old enough to know that what he did (putting her picture on here) wasn’t in her best interest. What he has experienced with his gf is very unfortunate and he should talk about it with people. He should be talking about it with family, friends, and professionals, not strangers on the internet.

That was my issue with what he did. Believe it or not, I do feel bad for the guy, but I feel worse for the girl. All it takes is one person to see it and now she’s the girl who tried to kill herself. It carries a stigma, especially when you are only 18.

OP, I apologize if my comments made you feel worse than you already did. You sound like you need to talk to someone. Contact your local victim services office and they should be able to get you in touch with a professional who is experienced in dealing with situations such as yours.

All the best.

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Happened to see this. Prayers for her, you, and the family. And yes, seek some sort of help to deal with this. However, a mod really should remove that photo out of respect for her privacy.

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[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Powerpuff wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:
…and maybe change your avatar until things get better… It’s hard to empathize with you while you have a picture of yourself with two hookers. [/quote]

Perhaps your message here would have been more appropriate in the form of a PM, instead of making it public, and therefore MORE obvious.[/quote]

I’m not the one who made it public. That was the OP.

Has he changed his avatar? No.

Have you gone after all the people who told this guy to “hang in there”?
[/quote]

Looks like a 20-year-old guy posing between some Playboy bunnies/ cocktail waitresses at a club. What exactly does that establish? Put another way, what 20-year-old young man wouldn’t pose for such a pic?

I have a picture of me posing between a couple of shirtless Abercombie and Fitch models hanging in my home office. My family thinks it’s hilarious.

OP, this is a heartbreaking situation. Hang in there.
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Your family is pretty sick if they think hanging shirtless models in your home office is hilarious.

But back to the avatar… It is harmless, but I think it’s out of place given the situation. [/quote]

I’d assume that his avatar picture is equivalent of a young guy posing with some bikini models at a car show. I wouldn’t assume that he’s out running amok with hookers.

There are times to assume good will, and to give others some grace. I’d think this would be one of those times.

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[quote]Powerpuff wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Powerpuff wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:
…and maybe change your avatar until things get better… It’s hard to empathize with you while you have a picture of yourself with two hookers. [/quote]

Perhaps your message here would have been more appropriate in the form of a PM, instead of making it public, and therefore MORE obvious.[/quote]

I’m not the one who made it public. That was the OP.

Has he changed his avatar? No.

Have you gone after all the people who told this guy to “hang in there”?
[/quote]

Looks like a 20-year-old guy posing between some Playboy bunnies/ cocktail waitresses at a club. What exactly does that establish? Put another way, what 20-year-old young man wouldn’t pose for such a pic?

I have a picture of me posing between a couple of shirtless Abercombie and Fitch models hanging in my home office. My family thinks it’s hilarious.

OP, this is a heartbreaking situation. Hang in there.
[/quote]

Your family is pretty sick if they think hanging shirtless models in your home office is hilarious.

But back to the avatar… It is harmless, but I think it’s out of place given the situation. [/quote]

I’d assume that his avatar picture is equivalent of a young guy posing with some bikini models at a car show. I wouldn’t assume that he’s out running amok with hookers.

There are times to assume good will, and to give others some grace. I’d think this would be one of those times.

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Agreed. My issue was with the other picture.

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I wish you both the best

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[quote]QuadasarusFlex wrote:
Hang in there bro. [/quote]

Uncalled for…

Stay strong OP

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[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Powerpuff wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Powerpuff wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Mac85 wrote:
…and maybe change your avatar until things get better… It’s hard to empathize with you while you have a picture of yourself with two hookers. [/quote]

Perhaps your message here would have been more appropriate in the form of a PM, instead of making it public, and therefore MORE obvious.[/quote]

I’m not the one who made it public. That was the OP.

Has he changed his avatar? No.

Have you gone after all the people who told this guy to “hang in there”?
[/quote]

Looks like a 20-year-old guy posing between some Playboy bunnies/ cocktail waitresses at a club. What exactly does that establish? Put another way, what 20-year-old young man wouldn’t pose for such a pic?

I have a picture of me posing between a couple of shirtless Abercombie and Fitch models hanging in my home office. My family thinks it’s hilarious.

OP, this is a heartbreaking situation. Hang in there.
[/quote]

Your family is pretty sick if they think hanging shirtless models in your home office is hilarious.

But back to the avatar… It is harmless, but I think it’s out of place given the situation. [/quote]

I’d assume that his avatar picture is equivalent of a young guy posing with some bikini models at a car show. I wouldn’t assume that he’s out running amok with hookers.

There are times to assume good will, and to give others some grace. I’d think this would be one of those times.

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Agreed. My issue was with the other picture.
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Let’s keep that in its proper perspective : there is no way that a photo with no names or location attached, posted on a bodybuilding website, is going to pose a greater chance of a leak than well-wishers leaving messages on her FB page.

Supposing he never posted a pic of his GF, people would still know who she was from his photo.
He’s just a young guy in an unfamiliar situation who didn’t know where to turn, so he just needed somewhere to articulate his thoughts. The internet isn’t the ideal place to do it, but sometimes it’s the only place for some people…

And you can’t turn around and say his avatar pic wasn’t important to you after implying he’s been knocking around with hookers. Whether you meant it as a joke or not, that’s potentially an extremely damaging remark with no basis in fact. All you’re doing is making a horrible, messed-up situation worse.

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I understand the comments about photos and what not… Weren’t hookers just show girls at the casino.I’m not a bad person they weren’t hookers… She was more upset with her family then anything, first year away from her parents and was really stressed with university and sick of her parents throwing money at her and not being there for her really got to her.

Not sure how to remove my photo from OP but if a mod sees this can they please do it.

Anyway, she is awake now and moved from ICU trauma to ICU neurology , time for the scans and nerve tests. But it is looking more positive now she can’t speak but she is responding to the nurses and and can look around and move her arms.

As for posting this all on the internet in the close hours after finding out, I can’t really explain how i felt it was so much shock and questions running through my head and wondering if she’d actually make it. My parents aren’t really taking much interest or talking to me about it and I know on these forums are populated with alot of mature people with life experience along with the wide variety of content posted in GAL I figured I would just click new thread and start typing, lots of errors in my OP I didn’t construct it very well but it was actually really great just to type it out and get it off my chest so to speak.

I know the interst is certainly not the best place to turn too, but I wasn’t thinking 100% straight. I don’t regret it either it really helped me and everyone’s support/advice has been helpful.

Thanks

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Glad the forum was able to supply the support you needed. It’s good to hear that her recovery is going well.

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[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
I understand the comments about photos and what not… Weren’t hookers just show girls at the casino.I’m not a bad person they weren’t hookers… She was more upset with her family then anything, first year away from her parents and was really stressed with university and sick of her parents throwing money at her and not being there for her really got to her.

Not sure how to remove my photo from OP but if a mod sees this can they please do it.

Anyway, she is awake now and moved from ICU trauma to ICU neurology , time for the scans and nerve tests. But it is looking more positive now she can’t speak but she is responding to the nurses and and can look around and move her arms.

As for posting this all on the internet in the close hours after finding out, I can’t really explain how i felt it was so much shock and questions running through my head and wondering if she’d actually make it. My parents aren’t really taking much interest or talking to me about it and I know on these forums are populated with alot of mature people with life experience along with the wide variety of content posted in GAL I figured I would just click new thread and start typing, lots of errors in my OP I didn’t construct it very well but it was actually really great just to type it out and get it off my chest so to speak.

I know the interst is certainly not the best place to turn too, but I wasn’t thinking 100% straight. I don’t regret it either it really helped me and everyone’s support/advice has been helpful.

Thanks
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I don’t think you need to explain yourself at all. Most people, even those like me who think people often give away to much information or identifying pictures, understand and don’t see any problem with the posts you have made. You are going though some seriously deep shit and you’ve handled yourself very well in al these posts.

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[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
I understand the comments about photos and what not… Weren’t hookers just show girls at the casino.I’m not a bad person they weren’t hookers… She was more upset with her family then anything, first year away from her parents and was really stressed with university and sick of her parents throwing money at her and not being there for her really got to her.

Not sure how to remove my photo from OP but if a mod sees this can they please do it.

Anyway, she is awake now and moved from ICU trauma to ICU neurology , time for the scans and nerve tests. But it is looking more positive now she can’t speak but she is responding to the nurses and and can look around and move her arms.

As for posting this all on the internet in the close hours after finding out, I can’t really explain how i felt it was so much shock and questions running through my head and wondering if she’d actually make it. My parents aren’t really taking much interest or talking to me about it and I know on these forums are populated with alot of mature people with life experience along with the wide variety of content posted in GAL I figured I would just click new thread and start typing, lots of errors in my OP I didn’t construct it very well but it was actually really great just to type it out and get it off my chest so to speak.

I know the interst is certainly not the best place to turn too, but I wasn’t thinking 100% straight. I don’t regret it either it really helped me and everyone’s support/advice has been helpful.

Thanks
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To be clear, I didn’t mean for my comment about her photo to be a lecture. You’re not exactly dealing with calm circumstances by any stretch of the imagination. You’ve gone though something traumatic, and it’s not beyond my understanding. Take care of yourself, be patient with the family, and do everything with the long term in mind.