Girlfriend Hung Herself

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[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
I understand the comments about photos and what not… Weren’t hookers just show girls at the casino.I’m not a bad person they weren’t hookers… She was more upset with her family then anything, first year away from her parents and was really stressed with university and sick of her parents throwing money at her and not being there for her really got to her.

Not sure how to remove my photo from OP but if a mod sees this can they please do it.

Anyway, she is awake now and moved from ICU trauma to ICU neurology , time for the scans and nerve tests. But it is looking more positive now she can’t speak but she is responding to the nurses and and can look around and move her arms.

As for posting this all on the internet in the close hours after finding out, I can’t really explain how i felt it was so much shock and questions running through my head and wondering if she’d actually make it. My parents aren’t really taking much interest or talking to me about it and I know on these forums are populated with alot of mature people with life experience along with the wide variety of content posted in GAL I figured I would just click new thread and start typing, lots of errors in my OP I didn’t construct it very well but it was actually really great just to type it out and get it off my chest so to speak.

I know the interst is certainly not the best place to turn too, but I wasn’t thinking 100% straight. I don’t regret it either it really helped me and everyone’s support/advice has been helpful.

Thanks
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Well this is all positive so far. I am glad to hear it.

Ignore the BS, you did nothing wrong. When something like this occurs the need to communicate with somebody is strong. In reality this is a very good place to do it. Sometimes your closes friends and family really suck at this kind of thing. People with 1 or 2 degrees separation can have a better, more realistic perspective. People you know well aren’t always the best people to communicate how your feeling.

So while it may be slightly odd, in this being a body building and training website, you recognized a community you have a bond with, but not to close… That’s a good thing, not a bad thing.
I like the pic you posted, it drives the point home. She is a beautiful young lady and it’s so sad that she was in so much pain that she thought death preferable…

So when she recovers, slap the shit out her, then hug her.

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[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
I understand the comments about photos and what not… Weren’t hookers just show girls at the casino.I’m not a bad person they weren’t hookers… She was more upset with her family then anything, first year away from her parents and was really stressed with university and sick of her parents throwing money at her and not being there for her really got to her.

Not sure how to remove my photo from OP but if a mod sees this can they please do it.

Anyway, she is awake now and moved from ICU trauma to ICU neurology , time for the scans and nerve tests. But it is looking more positive now she can’t speak but she is responding to the nurses and and can look around and move her arms.

As for posting this all on the internet in the close hours after finding out, I can’t really explain how i felt it was so much shock and questions running through my head and wondering if she’d actually make it. My parents aren’t really taking much interest or talking to me about it and I know on these forums are populated with alot of mature people with life experience along with the wide variety of content posted in GAL I figured I would just click new thread and start typing, lots of errors in my OP I didn’t construct it very well but it was actually really great just to type it out and get it off my chest so to speak.

I know the interst is certainly not the best place to turn too, but I wasn’t thinking 100% straight. I don’t regret it either it really helped me and everyone’s support/advice has been helpful.

Thanks
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BTW, if you ever find yourself dating somebody who is not a head-case, you’re dating a man :slight_smile:

Keep us posted, or at least me, on her progress please.

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[quote]pat wrote:

[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
I understand the comments about photos and what not… Weren’t hookers just show girls at the casino.I’m not a bad person they weren’t hookers… She was more upset with her family then anything, first year away from her parents and was really stressed with university and sick of her parents throwing money at her and not being there for her really got to her.

Not sure how to remove my photo from OP but if a mod sees this can they please do it.

Anyway, she is awake now and moved from ICU trauma to ICU neurology , time for the scans and nerve tests. But it is looking more positive now she can’t speak but she is responding to the nurses and and can look around and move her arms.

As for posting this all on the internet in the close hours after finding out, I can’t really explain how i felt it was so much shock and questions running through my head and wondering if she’d actually make it. My parents aren’t really taking much interest or talking to me about it and I know on these forums are populated with alot of mature people with life experience along with the wide variety of content posted in GAL I figured I would just click new thread and start typing, lots of errors in my OP I didn’t construct it very well but it was actually really great just to type it out and get it off my chest so to speak.

I know the interst is certainly not the best place to turn too, but I wasn’t thinking 100% straight. I don’t regret it either it really helped me and everyone’s support/advice has been helpful.

Thanks
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Well this is all positive so far. I am glad to hear it.

Ignore the BS, you did nothing wrong. When something like this occurs the need to communicate with somebody is strong. In reality this is a very good place to do it. Sometimes your closes friends and family really suck at this kind of thing. People with 1 or 2 degrees separation can have a better, more realistic perspective. People you know well aren’t always the best people to communicate how your feeling.

So while it may be slightly odd, in this being a body building and training website, you recognized a community you have a bond with, but not to close… That’s a good thing, not a bad thing.
I like the pic you posted, it drives the point home. She is a beautiful young lady and it’s so sad that she was in so much pain that she thought death preferable…

So when she recovers, slap the shit out her, then hug her.[/quote]

Good post, pat.

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Thanks fellas, yeah good post pat thanks you put my thoughts into better words and i had a laugh at the headcase line haha

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[quote]pat wrote:

[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:

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BTW, if you ever find yourself dating somebody who is not a head-case, you’re dating a man :slight_smile:
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QFT

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She was taken off life support and her body managed to stabilize itself and she has regained some form of consciousness but is agitated and has no memory of her own family or events. That was a couple days ago, Family rung me last night with a change of heart and said it would be a good idea if I flew down to see her so my flight leaves in a couple hours. Pretty nervous actually but it will be an experience.

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Great news. Hope it goes well, but try not to be shocked / hurt if at first she doesn’t know who you are or her reaction is unexpected. It won’t be anything personal, but her brain has gone through a major trauma and it could take some time to get back to being herself.

Best of luck to you both.

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Awesome news,wishing everything goes well when you are down there, May it be well with you my friend.

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hope it goes well down there, stay strong brother

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[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
She was taken off life support and her body managed to stabilize itself and she has regained some form of consciousness but is agitated and has no memory of her own family or events. That was a couple days ago, Family rung me last night with a change of heart and said it would be a good idea if I flew down to see her so my flight leaves in a couple hours. Pretty nervous actually but it will be an experience. [/quote]

Glad to hear it. Good luck.

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WOW OP , stay strong man !
As the others here have articulated it far better than me , what can i say other than good luck and we’re happy that we could help you with something.
PS : people have NO FUCKIN IDEA what is REALLY in someone else’s mind , believe me. Most of my major mental problems that seem to torment me all the time are KNOWN ONLY BY MYSELF.
Still working on defeating them every single second. So don’t ever torture yourself thinking that it’s your fault or any other thing like that. Please keep us in touch !

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[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
She was taken off life support and her body managed to stabilize itself and she has regained some form of consciousness but is agitated and has no memory of her own family or events. That was a couple days ago, Family rung me last night with a change of heart and said it would be a good idea if I flew down to see her so my flight leaves in a couple hours. Pretty nervous actually but it will be an experience. [/quote]

Good news… Things appear to be going in the right direction. Thanks for the update.

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RR13, any updates?

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Been here nearly 3 weeks now, initially I was invited down due to the fact many of the doctors had given up and said basically game over.

Been a long last few weeks but she is proving them wrong, she is moving all limbs so much so sometimes she has to be restrained and yesterday was placed in a chair for 2 hours which she seemed to enjoy.

Started following basic commands, wriggle toes, squeeze hand and poke our tongue. So things are seeming alot more positive each day. yesterday morning I think she understood me and started crying a little bit when she heard my voice which is the first genuine sign I’ve seen my self which was really great. She’s just gone in for an MRI scan now and Ill go back later to spend the night by her bed. Just got the internet working at their house so i’ll be able to give a few more updates.

I haven’t spoken to anyone professionally about this yet I know everyone recommended it but im not so sure what i would even say. I think ill just keep going strong till things pan out and play it by ear.

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Glad things are going well, I hope she comes out of it ok.

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Wow! This is gut-wrenching to read. I can’t imagine living it, Rolls.

I hope and pray for her full recovery.
Perhaps something good will come out of this for all involved.

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I feel a little teary reading this. Still, don’t let any little seeds of badness grow. No need to tough it out, I still say talk to somebody, even if it’s only for a few times.

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[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
Been here nearly 3 weeks now, initially I was invited down due to the fact many of the doctors had given up and said basically game over.

Been a long last few weeks but she is proving them wrong, she is moving all limbs so much so sometimes she has to be restrained and yesterday was placed in a chair for 2 hours which she seemed to enjoy.

Started following basic commands, wriggle toes, squeeze hand and poke our tongue. So things are seeming alot more positive each day. yesterday morning I think she understood me and started crying a little bit when she heard my voice which is the first genuine sign I’ve seen my self which was really great. She’s just gone in for an MRI scan now and Ill go back later to spend the night by her bed. Just got the internet working at their house so i’ll be able to give a few more updates.

I haven’t spoken to anyone professionally about this yet I know everyone recommended it but im not so sure what i would even say. I think ill just keep going strong till things pan out and play it by ear.[/quote]

Thanks for keeping us posted. Things sound to be slowly improving, which is good. Hopefully she’ll be back on her feet soon.

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Got to love how doctors and nurses are so eager to pull the plug just to appease the hospital waiting list.

Potentially she can fully recover but time and time again I see or hear about pulling life support from somebody who then makes a full recovery and all they needed was some spark to get them in that direction.