I feel like even if I were to want a partner, finding one that meets all my (and my parent’s) requirements is next to impossible, especially the ones pertaining to family background
On the flip side, I doubt many people would be willing to put up with me and my family
What are they?
I scrolled to the top of this thread to remember the context and saw your reply #1.
This was literally me yesterday afternoon. One stiff drink, one light beer and the daily special to go, please. I ended up posting on T-nation, playing with kettlebells and pecking away at work all night.
Being salary is fantastic if you manage expectations and perform well.
What would be your point of marriage? (Not being sarcastic.)
Hey, I’m no expert on dating or marriage, but your conditions are pretty wild. If you work on your grappling and striking, as I’ve suggested to you in the past, you could probably find a young son of a rich man and then physically bully him into complying with your list. Especially if that squat of yours continues to go up.
Please refer to one of my other threads for some helpful relationship tips.
Is that all? What about,
"if I get married, I’d never marry a man who does not have at least a masters degree
I’ll also not marry a man who not accept that my parents and brother come before him. e.g., they can and will live with us for some period of time at some point and have a decent control over my finances"
Seems like you have intentionally set extremely high/unrealistic standards for a potential partner with the intention of avoiding a relationship.
Exactly, there’s no point
I have some family friends who’s marriages are glorified business partnerships and it works so who knows
Right now I have no incentive.
lol
Oh, this is more for a potential partner’s sake.
I watched a YouTube video of a woman reacting to “crazy in law” TikToks and one of them involved a new groom complaining that his new mother in law could review his bride’s bank statements. The comments overwhelmingly agreed with the groom
I suppose that the point would be family alliances and accrual of resources, though I don’t know if each family could do that if you are physically separated by over 100 or thousands of miles.
@anna_5588 by the way, I don’t think viewing marriage, a household, in a business-like manner, is bad, and I think one of the reasons the divorce rate is high is because people don’t. So some of your list seems fine to me.
What degrees do Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates have?
I’ll make an exception for crazy successful business person, but I’m not delusional enough to think that someone with such intellect and acumen would want to be with me
I actually don’t think this is too unreasonable.
Almost to the number, that describes my wife. (Not me.)
Some differences. Neither of us were like “we want kids” nor “we don’t want kids”. There was a point where we had the discussion “if we’re going to have kids, this is the time”, and we made a decision. It wasn’t a driving factor in the relationship. If anything, there was a strong “I’m not sure if I want kids”.
We also did the long distance thing for awhile, because my job was in one place and the best opportunity for her was somewhere else. I was able to switch to working remotely, and we were able to be together again. I found new and better opportunities since then anyway.
As far as “not sharing a room”, that’s the only thing that actually stands out.
I will say a king size bed does give each of us our own space. His/her sinks. A very large closet. A lot less overlap and potential for conflict, or need to negotiate, etc. We have our own spaces within the shared space.
Edit: we also have our own bank accounts, and a joint account for a few things. We pay our equal shares toward housing, childcare, utilities, etc. There’s no crazy income inequality or expense-to-income ratio, so a clean 50/50 works fine.
Thanks for the examples. I don’t really think any of those things are necessarily “modern” behaviors or problems – crudeness, crassness, projecting intimidating and false personas, lack of situational awareness, defiance of authority and social norms – those have been around for awhile.
It’s a good list of things to work from as I raise my own children. “Read this, don’t do that” 
Yeah, like for thousands of years probably. I believe all these are more common now, actually quite common, especially in Gen Z.
I wonder how much of it is related to growing up in a world without any concept of privacy.
No ideas like “you don’t say that in public”, “behind closed doors”, even “locker room talk”. Everything was always online and public in some form or another from day one.
With the various social media, the experience of saying something to one person or a thousand people is the exact same. No way to even develop that kind of awareness.
That sounds awesome
My ex is a 125 pound national collegiate champion wrestler. Absolute handful. Im 175 and train with college / a couple world level wrestlers.
At a certain skill level size and strength advantages are definitely diminished