Yeah!
Someone charging too hard in divorce court?
Arbiter steps in and says “Whoa. Ok. Lets all step back for a moment and quit being dicks, okay? Can we agree to that?”
Now if someone wants to keep it up, they’re going to have to admit under oath that they don’t want to quit being a dick.
Yes! Yes yes yes! It solves every single problem. Good thinking!
As a concept, it could be a great boost to effective social change.
“Why did they hit you with the bean bag gun?”
“Ah, I refused to comply with their orders to quit being a dick”
“Ok. Well maybe next time you’ll listen.”.
This is something that gets brought up all the time, but is really more perception than reality. Of course, men are physically stronger. But the degree to which that actually leads to better physical safety is definitely overblown and probably non-existent.
The data shows this. Men are much more likely to be the victims of violent crime than women. Of course, it’s difficult to rule out that this is simply due to men being significantly less careful and more likely to be in dangerous situations because of their own perception of their physical prowess. However, no amount of physical strength is likely to overcome a deficit in numbers, equipment (weapons), or initiative. With proper training and preparation you might be able to significantly increase your own personal safety. But realistically, a lot of that training consists of not being in bad situations in the first place. In other words, men can avoid being the victim of violent crime by learning to not get themselves into dangerous situations, which is basically the same advice we give to women by default.
In general, we need to stop validating fear and the perception of danger as being the same thing as danger. Women aren’t at greater risk of being attacked physically than men. Unarmed, non resisting black people don’t get shot by the police more than unarmed, non-resisting white people. In the US, 7 times more people are killed daily in car accidents than as the result of violent crime. When we entertain misconceptions about perceptions of danger, we encourage people to make irrational decisions that actually increase the danger.
This is right and all your points are right. I was putting myself in the position of a woman and what a woman might perceive considering her stature.
This is definitely true, but I took it as women in general have no fighting chance against a full-grown man unless armed.
100% and being aware of your surroundings. Not having your face stuffed in a phone or distracted.
Depends on what the attackers aim is. They are definitely preyed on more for certain things and as an easy mark compared to men.
I also meant this too.
This is true, but I’d also rather be beat up, than in a situation like Ving Rhames in Pulp Fiction (he gets sodomized if you haven’t seen it). If that was a concern for men, I’d be more careful than I am now.
Agree. Most people are quite poor at evaluating risk / danger. A poor diet is something that should be scary. Police violence, not so much. Statistically, the former is far more likely to kill you (it is likely 1000s of times the risk).
It seems things that kill slowly are not very worrying to most people. Things that are immediate are much scarier, even though they are far less likely to kill you. I think it is some sort of flaw in human thinking. Some people are defensive about their irrationality about these things too (it is almost like they want to worry about them).
Two of them. 5 year old girl, and a boy almost 3. Both are highly emotional little people, unlike their parents.
They’re pretty cool though.
My daughter has been through occupational therapy due to some behavior issues in pre-K; you get her spinning and swinging and spinning and swinging and it keeps her more emotionally balanced. I don’t understand how this stuff works. 
How much violence against women and girls goes unreported?
I think a lot.
The same can be said for men, particularly when it comes to reporting sexual assault. I think the #MeToo and #BelieveAllWomen movements have brought down the numbers. Men are still expected to “suck it up”.
Agreed.
They are also going to get some of it back. (not the sodomy per say…)
I wrestled all through high school, played college ball, and I still roll fairly frequently on the mats.
Every now and then I roll with a female that is trying to learn. Mind you I am 300 lbs, but rolling with them is literally like rolling with a child. Even females that have a lot of experience, they have ZERO chance against a male my size that even has a tiny amount of training.
And I am not some UFC badass or fighter or anything. It isn’t even a challenge. They are so much slower, weaker, and smaller - skill can’t make that chasm up.
As a fellow near 300lb guy I have had the exact same experience. Technique only overcomes raw power up until a certain hard cap. Then it’s completely useless.
My coach used to have the females roll with me just so they could see that size does indeed matter.
The Gracies, at least the older generation, never said women could use bjj to overcome a male attacker. Maybe a woman could put up enough of a fight to survive but most of their rape prevention is based on making smart choices. They even addressed acquaintance rape and preventing that is based on verbal approaches to talk a guy out of it.
I don’t think you even need to be close to 300 lbs to have that advantage. I am twice as strong as most of the female powerlifters in my gym (except one who is a freak with a meet total over 1300). Those women are twice as strong as average women. A fight isn’t exactly the same thing as a deadlift, but being 4X as strong as your opponent is a huge advantage.
There is also just a general athletic ability difference between men and women. Also experience. While I have only been in one real fight, growing up, my buddies and I were wrestling, doing poorly executed jui jistu on each other (it was good enough to put people to sleep though, so we had some of it right), and just a lot more rough housing. I think far more men grew up rough housing with each other. Obviously not the same as formal training, but even a little bit of experience goes a long way against someone with no experience.
100%.
Even a man marginally larger than the female is going to have a massive strength advantage generally.
We are not built the same and weren’t meant to be.
Even the really strong girl with that total I would laugh at on the mats as I pretzeled her.
Anyone here ever roll with a an in-shape, pro mma female fighter and legitimate BJJ and Judo black belt competing at the highest levels of grappling?
Size matters a lot, but don’t fuck up while you’re busy being bigger and stronger. Your curl is not stronger than her deadlift and you still have two carotids.
No, I have not with a female professional, but she’s going to have a very hard time getting there with my size and reach and strength.
Ronda Rousey routinely rolled with an amateur male that is 220 lbs and she could do nothing to him.
I’d gladly take my chances against any female fighter on the planet over even an amateur male.
The key is to stay on your feet and don’t give up your back, but if you fuck up your mistake will be capitalized on very suddenly.
At the time I was about 275 at 6’00 with a deadlift around 600 and about 6 months of consistent mat time.
But yes, there aren’t a lot of women who can do much in the face of a major size and strength disparity. Same is true for men.
I suppose we should return to the subject. Everyone except fourth wave feminists agree that men are stronger than women.