[quote]vegeta4u wrote:
Hmmm why does your girlfriend want more of YOUR friends over? the only reasons i can come up with for this is because its a new relationship and she wants to get to know what ur like through your friends, or she is bored and trapped with you due to years of anti-social behaviour and wants to get closer to your friends to ‘wind up’ in the sack with them to spice up her life a little, not that anything is more exciting to a woman than holding lectures…LOL.
Maybe you are smarter (on a textbook level) than some of the people around you but guess what? they dont give a fuck, they are too busy enjoying their life to notice the self richeouse judgmental prick stood in the corner of the bars examining every movement of people trying to sum them up as inferior to make himself feel better, when u grow up and wise up you will realise ignorance IS bliss in their case however in yours… it is NOT.[/quote]
If she wanted to bang other guys she could do that without meeting friends of mine, I also indicated she wanted to do couple stuff, you know, TWO or more couples going out to do something as group.
By the way she does not drink or party and holds many of the same views as me. And as for her being bored with me she has had many chances to leave as we have moved 3 times in the past two years due to me and I have not even asked her to follow me and she has despite my telling her to think about her own career.
As for me judging people in bars, so what? Have you never judged a group of people before? If someone wants to get drunk there are much more economical ways to do it then in a bar, and if you want to get laid there are better places to pick up girls too.
[quote]Jerome wrote:
As for your dumb multiple choice comment I haven’t taken a multiple choice test since high school, I went to University for a real degree, (eng), not some cake degree. [/quote]
More condescending statements. It’s starting to become very clear why you have no friends.
Wow a lot of people took out their own insecurities on you in this thread.
I say help or shut up to these people
I am in a similar situation and I’d describe it as seeing things for what they are. A lot of people live in ignorance (Not dumb) just not aware of the way life is. I personally wish I was still ignorant in that way. I think its a result of training and being strict it forces you to look at things in a more logical way.
[quote]malonetd wrote:
Jerome wrote:
As for your dumb multiple choice comment I haven’t taken a multiple choice test since high school, I went to University for a real degree, (eng), not some cake degree.
More condescending statements. It’s starting to become very clear why you have no friends.[/quote]
Why is it condescending? If you’re in a program that gives multiple choice tests I think we can all agree it’s an easy program and is a waste of time and money.
Vegeta whatever his name is was the one who posted a condescending statement by degrading everyone that has been in University, indicating that it takes little to pass.
Well your degree aint doing anything for u friend as you failed to identify the sarcasm in my multiple choice comment, if you can re read my post wivout jerking off to your degree for 1 minute you will see that i clearly stated the point in my posts was to show you anyone can be judgemental, everyones visions of ‘makeing it’ in life are different and as i dropped out of highschool to find work i seem to fall into the ‘‘stupid’’ catagory and thought i would show you just how easy it is to rip into someones lifestyle no matter how important and above the rest of us you feel that you are, you are not. Nobody lives a perfect life.
Now after makeing my point ill give you some advice regarding the thread title, in each post you havent failed to mention how you are educated like it is important and i can only assume you wont miss an oportunity to inform someone of your education offline aswell, when meeting new people beyond the odd small talk of what you do for a living they really dont give a shit how many books uve read and how many degrees youve got. They are looking for people they can socially vibe well with and have a good time, not some emotionally dead nerd that has sex with his gf then sits down and writes an essay about it.
P.S u asked for this i simply posted exactly the same kind of judgemental garbage as you did starting this thread but as you took it to a personal level by calling me ‘‘dumb’’ and yet again waveing around your degree (yawn i can see why people get bored of you fast) like your actually going to do something that matters like find a cure for cancer. but dont worry im sure you and your degrees will be very happy together, quite frankly im glad im not educated if it turns you into an ignorant, socially retarded, pencil pushing noob at life.
From the sound of it you have plenty of opportunities to get friends you just don’t take them. You seem perfectly fine with things the way they are. It’s just your girlfriend that has a problem with it, right? Seems to me she just needs to understand that an active social life is not on your list of priorities right now. But also from what you tend to say about people you have a bit of a knee jerk reaction and just assume people aren’t really worth your time, or you assume so after one conversation. General small talk is no way to gague a person, they’re just being polite and trying to find out what you might have in common.
[quote]E-man wrote:
I’ve got a bit of the same problem going on myself these days. I have friends but not the kind I want. We share very few interests besides the typical getting together to play football or basketball then we seem to part our ways.
I can completely relate to you about the people my age(early 20’s) being lazy or just plain dumb and sometimes a combo of both. I wish cloning was a reality so I could make 5 copies of myself and never have to make another friend again.[/quote]
Seriously? I’m sure you’re a fine individual and all, but would you really want people who are identical to you as friends? That would drive me nuts. Just living with myself all day long is enough for me… I need me some variety.
[quote]etaco wrote:
E-man wrote:
I can completely relate to you about the people my age(early 20’s) being lazy or just plain dumb and sometimes a combo of both. I wish cloning was a reality so I could make 5 copies of myself and never have to make another friend again.
The results wouldn’t be much better than if you cloned five of yourself and bred your own race. Diversity is good for humans no matter how much we may resist.[/quote]
Why is diversity good in your opinion?
Jerome, I know how you feel about the people your age. I’m 18, go to a state university and when I look around I feel outt of place. I don’t drink and I actually have morals unlike my peers. To me school is priority one, but everyone else just parties every night. It is ridiculous, all I hear before class is how smashed someone was the night before.
I have a lot of respect anyone who pays their own way through college. Personally, I don’t pay my tuition and I cannot imagine doing both school and work. I’m not a spoiled slacker though, I keep the grades up and am very thankful I can do school while focusing on other activites such as lifting.
I have the same problem as you, I have not really met anyone worth hanging out with outside of school, except for a few people. To me there is not any point to go out and just make a whole bunch of friends you don’t really even like.
Seriously? I’m sure you’re a fine individual and all, but would you really want people who are identical to you as friends? That would drive me nuts. Just living with myself all day long is enough for me… I need me some variety.
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Seriously.
If there were more of me in my life, the same jokes would keep being made, the other Bauers would keep eating all the food, and all the exercise equipment I would want to use would have another me on it.
[quote]Jerome wrote:
malonetd wrote:
Jerome wrote:
As for your dumb multiple choice comment I haven’t taken a multiple choice test since high school, I went to University for a real degree, (eng), not some cake degree.
More condescending statements. It’s starting to become very clear why you have no friends.
Vegeta whatever his name is was the one who posted a condescending statement by degrading everyone that has been in University, indicating that it takes little to pass. [/quote]
You mean the same way you just started a thread bashing on non educated people? ive already told you those posts where proveing a point that an uneducated person could make exactly the same judgements against educated people… have you clicked on yet?, you need to go back to school and learn the basics because you really are very dumb about things that actually matter, degree or no degree you are an idiot jerome ‘‘or whatever your name is’’
[quote]vegeta4u wrote:
Jerome wrote:
malonetd wrote:
Jerome wrote:
As for your dumb multiple choice comment I haven’t taken a multiple choice test since high school, I went to University for a real degree, (eng), not some cake degree.
More condescending statements. It’s starting to become very clear why you have no friends.
Vegeta whatever his name is was the one who posted a condescending statement by degrading everyone that has been in University, indicating that it takes little to pass.
You mean the same way you just started a thread bashing on non educated people? ive already told you those posts where proveing a point that an uneducated person could make exactly the same judgements against educated people… have you clicked on yet?, you need to go back to school and learn the basics because you really are very dumb about things that actually matter, degree or no degree you are an idiot jerome ‘‘or whatever your name is’’
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I bashed educated people just as much as uneducated people in case you didn’t notice. I also said you don’t need a degree to be educated. Perhaps you should learn to read.
By the way I didn’t title my post “Friends- how to get some?” I only named it “Friends”, the Mods felt the need to change it for some reason. I wasn’t really looking for tips on how to make buddies, just simply some opinions on my thought process, and I guess there aren’t to many people that agree with it.
Also before you try and shift peoples attention onto my posts and before i go to bed, please realize that u was the dick that made a thread about how you feel you and your lifestyle are so much better and smarter than peoples around you.
That is fucking rediculouse, there are people on these boards that arent imature and are a hell of a lot more educated and a shite load more intelligent than you are and they seem to get through the day without having to post threads assuring themselves that they are better than everyone else, infact the majority actually use their education and intelligence to help the lesser intellects which i find very admirable, you i just find arent as intelligent as you think you are but thats not your fault as you have no friends to compare intelligence with and i doubt you ever will have any friends, they say that you develope your social skills through puberty and if you fail to do so at that stage in life you never will. /thread /your wrists
[quote]vegeta4u wrote:
Also before you try and shift peoples attention onto my posts and before i go to bed, please realize that u was the dick that made a thread about how you feel you and your lifestyle are so much better and smarter than peoples around you.
That is fucking rediculouse, there are people on these boards that arent imature and are a hell of a lot more educated and a shite load more intelligent than you are and they seem to get through the day without having to post threads assuring themselves that they are better than everyone else, infact the majority actually use their education and intelligence to help the lesser intellects which i find very admirable, you i just find arent as intelligent as you think you are but thats not your fault as you have no friends to compare intelligence with and i doubt you ever will have any friends, they say that you develope your social skills through puberty and if you fail to do so at that stage in life you never will. /thread /your wrists[/quote]
I think this little school girl just got her period!
Don’t think about “Getting Friends” just be you and if you’re a condescending asshole than you just are look at Dennis Leary.
Focus on you which you probably realize, you get play maybe have an affair.
[quote]vegeta4u wrote:
Also before you try and shift peoples attention onto my posts and before i go to bed, please realize that u was the dick that made a thread about how you feel you and your lifestyle are so much better and smarter than peoples around you.
That is fucking rediculouse, there are people on these boards that arent imature and are a hell of a lot more educated and a shite load more intelligent than you are and they seem to get through the day without having to post threads assuring themselves that they are better than everyone else, infact the majority actually use their education and intelligence to help the lesser intellects which i find very admirable, you i just find arent as intelligent as you think you are but thats not your fault as you have no friends to compare intelligence with and i doubt you ever will have any friends, they say that you develope your social skills through puberty and if you fail to do so at that stage in life you never will. /thread /your wrists[/quote]
I don’t recall ever saying I was overly intelligent or smarter than everyone else, and I said more than once that you don’t need a degree to be educated, so I don’t see why you keep going on about it. In fact my original post stated that I thought that most, not all, people MY AGE, (20s), who have no education are stupid, this does not include people who are older and have had meaningful work experience.
Now let’s think about this for a minute; you have a 20 year old who has no schooling and has had little to no meaningful work experience, I bet you anything that they are no different than a highschool kid mentally. Maybe its different in your part of the world but where I’m from that’s how it is, I go back home to visit the folks and see half my high school mates still living off their parents.
Now on the other spectrum you have kids in University, most there because of mommy and daddy, many who’ve had no job before, let alone any physical work to build mental and physical fortitude, most of whom spend their first 2 years partying and whining when they make shit marks, and then comes graduation, and now you’ve got yourself a class of graduates who think they deserve to start at 50k+/year, even though most of them have had zero meaningful work experience and have little employable skills.
Am I the only one that almost choked on his own vomit laughing at this comment?
I’m impressed, there’s some very insightful posts on this topic. I think it comes down to how bad you want friends that share a good number of your own interests. Just like anything else they’re out there BUT you have to be out there looking for them. Ask yourself how bad do you really want to make quality friends? Is it worth sacrificing some of your standards (drinking for instance) to meet new people? Nobody is saying you have to get shitfaced everytime you go out and nothing gets me more pissed off than how fucked up someone got the previous night but sometimes you just gotta go with the flow.
I sometimes try to take the attitude approach Arnold had in the movie Twins. He was highly educated(much more than even you) but he was experiencing many new things for the first time and was open to new ideas which made him a fun and interesting person.
Not to detract from the subject but your GF sounds pretty awesome(post some pics for further verification). If I were you and had a smart, sexy(giving you the benefit of the doubt), compatible woman I’d be doing A LOT more with her such as planning trips, going to concerts, romantic weekends, etc. to keep myself occupied rather than trying to find friends to no avail. Maybe if you spend more intimate time with her she won’t give a damn how many friends you have. But that’s just my opinion.
Reality check bro
You don’t have any friends but it doesn’t seem like you want to have many when you talk down everyone your age. Buck up and realize theres always someone who thinks the same thing about you and there is no point in judging people so severly. All you’ll end up with is no social life.
[quote]Jerome wrote:
malonetd wrote:
Jerome wrote:
As for your dumb multiple choice comment I haven’t taken a multiple choice test since high school, I went to University for a real degree, (eng), not some cake degree.
More condescending statements. It’s starting to become very clear why you have no friends.
Why is it condescending? If you’re in a program that gives multiple choice tests I think we can all agree it’s an easy program and is a waste of time and money.
Vegeta whatever his name is was the one who posted a condescending statement by degrading everyone that has been in University, indicating that it takes little to pass. [/quote]
If you didn’t mean to be condescending, then it’s a misunderstanding, but realize that many people will read that as condescending.
You bring up education a lot, and if that’s what’s important to you – great. You have priorities. However other people in life are going to have different priorities. That’s doesn’t mean they don’t possess the qualities that make a good friend.
Also, understand that it may take more than a couple meetings, or interactions, with a person to realize whether they can be a friend or not. I have several friends that I wasn’t sure I would get along with at first, but now do. However, these people wouldn’t be my friends now if I decided I didn’t like them after our first meeting. Sometimes it takes opening up to new and different people.
I get invited out with friends quite a bit and decline mostly. I work with very nice people, but on the whole, we don’t share the same interests. I find myself frustrated when I do go out, wanting to talk about anything of meaning, I love to learn and I appreciate knowledge…nobody seems to really say anything. They talk, and they talk, and they talk some more, but ultimately say…nothing. It’s tedious.
I usually find myself longing to come home, listen to music (which is a very big part of my life as I sing and write lyrics) and cruise around the internet… reading . I do have a boyfriend, and he is an engineer. Somebody mentioned earlier that the ‘social status’ of a man is important to a female, I can assure you it isn’t to this female. I think your girlfriend will be fine once she does finally meet a few friends in your new location, and wont lean on you to provide a few so much. Hang in there.