I ordered a new carberator for my chainsaw and the UPS guy delivered it this morning. My mom said he must have skipped leg day because his legs were smaller than that pencil 
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The one about those exceptionally festive plates.
If I had like the best cherry pie ever, I would want to have it on one of those plates.
Understandable if you donāt want to share their origin story though. Sometimes itās better to let it run for a while before back filling with the prequel.
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Itās tough to look good in that uniform.
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Damn! This guy has never delivered anything at my house. 
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Heās got a nice package to deliver too
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All we ever get are anorexic ectomorphs. Mom said she thought she was going to have to go unload my new bar when I ordered it because it was kicking the FedEx guyās ass.
Maybe I should stay home and wait for a nice package to arrive?
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Your mom sounds so badass
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My Mom is definitely a badass. I showed her the pic of the UPS guy above and she saidā¦ uh no, HE hasnāt been here. If he would have brought it she would have ran to gate to meet him
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Darker confession:
I was on my way to the grocery store yesterday evening, down a commonly frequented street. In my peripheral vision I saw something red on the ground and when I looked there it was actually a human that layed twisted in a very uncomfortable position on the floor next to some garbage cans.
Now the first thing that crossed my mind, if only for a second, was to keep walking and pretend I didnāt see him. Like apparently anyone else did. I donāt know for how long he had been there but as I said it isnāt an abondoned alley we are talking about.
Obviously I didnāt act on that impulse. I checked if he was breathing, tried to wake him and when he was unresponsive, I called an ambulance. He was intoxicated im some way but stable. Then I waited for the ambulance and guided the paramedics.
So I did everything right but it haunts me that this first impulsive, which was not a cognitive choice, was to just leave the situation. What also disgusted me, was all the people passing me and my unfortunate companion, clearly talking about the man lying unconscious next to the garbage cans but not offering help. Maybe they had the same impulse and acted on it. Two people stopped and asked if they could help. Everyone else was fine with leaving him in the cold.
I am ashamed that my first impulse wasnāt to help and that it needed a cognitive decision for that. I would prefer if the impulse matched what I expect of myself.
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Your response was 100% normal. Iām only on a phone key board so canāt go into it but there are a million studies into why we do this. With competing theories.
Just know this - just about any person thatās ever responded to a cry from help, has had to make a conscious decision to respond. Itās running toward danger. Itās āanti survivalā. Those people that donāt think ānot my jobā are the ones that rush in and die trying to help. They are the horror stories you read of āWhole family killed after they all try rescuing each other from the lakeā.
So well done. Itās a brave man (person) that steps up. You had 0 idea what you were going to find. Thatās scary.
And go easy on your self. You have a self preservation instinct. Thatās fine. You canāt help people if you are dead.
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Thatās really interesting and didnāt think of it in that way. Itās not the first time I helped someone in need but the first time I have consciously noticed and thought about this impulse to just run away.
Good to know I am not the only one who reacts in such a way. I was a bit ashamed tbh.
I guess itās the decision to not act on this flight impulse, that counts.
I would have definitely thought a lot more poorly of myself if I left the man there in hope someone else would do what I ended up doing.
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Thereās some really interesting things Iāve read over the years, one being that if youāre in need of help in a crowded place single someone out point to them call them by some specifics and ask for help, in crowded places almost everyone will assume that someone else will help and itās not their responsibility (the story that accompanied this advice was an unfortunate story of a woman being killed in public, screaming for help with zero assistance).
The flip side of that is fire service training you start basic training with this statement (bad paraphrasing): you are the most important person at an incident, then your team, then bystanders, then the person in need - which sounds pretty weird and callous when you first hear it but it makes sense, if you, your team member or a well meaning passerby jumps in without an adequate rescue plan/ resources/training you just escalate the situation to a far far worse scenario. Your initial pause and conscious decision is the better impulse by far.
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This experience definitely refined my decision to refresh my first aid skills. My last class was ten years ago. When the operator on the phone said āif he stops breathing, perform first aidā I was like āIā¦ will do my very bestā but would not have actually been able to do much of anything.
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This is one of those studies. Its a REALLY odd thing. Another is if someone has a heart attack in a crowed place the chances of them getting help is low than if they have a heart attack in front of a single person. Its called ādisassociated responsibilityā. If there are 100 people watching any one can help. So if he dies its not your anyoneās fault. Where as if you are the only person there to help and they die. Well its hard to avoid the blame.
Iāve read this before. And Iāve been told similar on training courses for rope access rescue and confined space (low level stuff not as intensive as your training).
Never a bad shout. If I had not done a first aid course my son might be dead. He chocked on an apple when he was 2. We got to the whole blue face almost unconscious stage. I had to slap him 12 times REALLY hard to get it out. As luck would have it the instructor at my last course spent a whole hour on chocking and the reality of - if some one is chocking they are about to die. You have 3 mins to save them. So if you have to break their ribs to dislodge what ever is in there - that is fine.
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I remember this one tale, which was that if you as a person are at risk (physical violence from another) and in desperate need of help itās better to yell out that thereās a fire than to yell for people to call for the police. As in, itād be to your direct benefit of other human bodies showed up on the scene. Might not be best for their survival but,,,
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Yeah, my wife called me in one of the first times we fed our kid shredded chicken because he was choking and couldnāt get it out.
THWAP. I hit his back so hard I was worried Iād broken his ribs, but the food shot out in one go. Iāve stayed up to date on CPR certifications for a long time now. We were playing a show in the middle of Richmond at the turnaround point of a big 10K that the city does every year a few years back, and right in the middle of playing āFeelinā Alrightā, a guy collapsed next to us, full on heart attack. Joined in a line of people giving CPR. Thought for sure he was dead when the paramedics arrived - tongue lolling out of his mouth, no breathing - read an article the next day, he survived. Unfortunately, movies give the whole ādo CPR and theyāll just snap out of itā thing, when in fact, youāre just keeping blood pumping long enough for a defibrillator to arrive. Super important skill.
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All I remembered was the tutor telling me - the only thing worse than breaking your kids spine is letting them die in your hands. I by blow 10 I was not holding back.
The basics are quiet simple
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Get help - in the mean time:
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Clear the airways and use chest compressions to keep the heart and lungs going (there is no need for rescue breaths the compressions get the air moving)
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Put pressure on anything leaking blood
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Donāt be. As others have said, itās natural.
Also, your actions speak louder than your impulse.
Does Germany have āGood Samaritan lawsā?
Thereās also a lot to be said about the social and legal incentives. For example in China, thereās been enough cases of scams where the helper ended up getting sued by the families of the victims for āharmingā such that parents even advise kids not to help
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Are you referring to an actual law or the biblical story/ moral? I have no idea to what extend your legally obligated to help but I believe there is a law for that.
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