Flame Free Confession III: Even More Flame Free (Part 1)

[mattjp]

@strongmangoals

I assumed American Mustard was sugar and yellow

Is it not? I assumed that was why it was so delicious.

[anna_5588]

Welcome to the club, I was going through a bottle every couple of days back at school

[polo77j]

@mattjp

Is it not? I assumed that was why it was so delicious.

No, that’s French’s mustard

[T3hPwnisher]

I confess that for YEARS I swore I had a sensitivity to pistachios, almonds, walnuts, cashews, etc. Pretty much any type of nut. I had been gradually eliminating them all from my diet.

I have recently learned that I have no such sensitivity: my issue was that I was eating 3-4 times the recommended amount for a serving at a time, which is a LOT of fat to take in all at once.

Once you take in a real serving of the stuff, it’s fine.

…and so SO small.

[Dr_Pangloss]

I have a similar allergy to most foods. When i take in 3-4 times the recommended amount for a few weeks I start to experience swelling around my stomach and face.

[thefourthruffian]

@EmilyQ

I wear a minimizing bra because the man that looks first for this would not be a man I want. He would be a man I would have a hard time trusting.

1. Calling out the humble brag on your big boobs.

2. I think women discounting/devaluing physical attraction as you did is the result of ugly feminist who want to trick the pretty women into hiding their beauty, so as to trick them into giving up a native advantage they can never achieve (or are too lazy to achieve).

[EmilyQ]

Coming from a man who believes all women cheat, given the opportunity.

@thefourthruffian

Calling out the humble brag on your big boobs.

Meh, I don’t think so. At one point I considered reducing, because although I like being feminine, they feel out of place to me for my body type, or did when I was younger. They also reduce my clothing options, and I like clothes very much (and clothes like me, so there is your brag).

“Pretty” and “sexualized” are two very different things in my book, and draw very different responses from the people around them. It has nothing to do with feminism, and I can tell you that women like me (here comes another not-at-all-humble brag) get offered advantages that women who look like they base their value solely on sexuality don’t. Marry vs fuck, and all that.

But let me be VERY clear that I am in no way making any assumptions or judgments about your sister, whom I don’t know and who sounds like she found a good guy, as did you, and let me also note that I live in a very different region of the country with very different expectations of dress and hair/makeup. When I lived in Texas, I was cute, sporty, but definitely not meeting the standard. Living in New England I’m right in the sweet spot.

But even in Texas, I didn’t lack for attention.

[EmilyQ]

@carlbm

I have a hard time with this point of view. The inference is that “because my man was attracted to my tits - the next time he sees a nice pair of tits he might be off”.
However - “your man” WOULD need to be attracted to something. Lets say your sense of humour. Why is he not going to cheat on you when he come across another funny girl?

I acknowledge your logic, and had to think about it. What I came to is that I want a man who wants not just my body or sense of humor or bent for social justice or particular type of looks, but who wants the whole package*, which means that he is into someone uniquely “me,” which other women are not.

*Although truth be told, what I got was a republican who likes the other parts of me well enough that he tolerates the bent for social justice, which he would probably just as soon slice off and get rid of.

[carlbm]

I 100% get what you mean. If the only thing a guy looks is your tits - then its a no go.

[dchris]

@EmilyQ

he tolerates the bent for social justice, which he would probably just as soon slice off and get rid of.

My wife has a strong sense of Social Justice and actually fighting for women’s rights, not just signaling she does. I tolerate her compassion first, realism second, because she has actual real experience (in third-world countries for prolonged time)

[thefourthruffian]

@EmilyQ

Coming from a man who believes all women cheat, given the opportunity.

Many, not all. Just seen it too much.

. . . women who look like they base their value solely on sexuality don’t.

What is up with these absolutes? “All” “Solely” I never said to dress like a tramp and lead with the boobs. I said to add big boobs to the whole package (again, to balance out the theoretical – and I don’t believe-she-has-it Medusa face).

No, have the boobs, and then stick them in a tight sweater. Maybe carry a Bible with a little knitted cover on it.

(Also, for clarity, I live in NM. The Permian Basin (where the oil that makes your car go probably comes from) overlaps West Texas and East NM.)

[SkyzykS]

@T3hPwnisher

Once you take in a real serving of the stuff, it’s fine.

Yeah. I’ve had to dial waaaaaay back on the cashews.

I finished a big container of them one time in about 4 days, then looked at the cals/serving.

So, 32 servings @ 160cals/serving later…

[EmilyQ]

@thefourthruffian

What is up with these absolutes? “All” “Solely” I never said to dress like a tramp and lead with the boobs.

I mean, you kind of did.

@thefourthruffian

go invest in a pair of boobs that is slightly too large for your thin frame. 90% of the guys (including very normal datable guys) won’t be able to look you in the eyes coupled with a thin figure and nice legs.

Then go buy some tight shirts. You could be Medusa.

And I don’t really take issue with it. Just running it through my own frame and experience set and offering what I think is a fair counter balance. Men have never been a problem. I’m not medusa, but neither am I beautiful. I’m feminine, fit, and librarian-ish, so “appealing” would probably be the right word. People trust me. And they should, because I’m trustworthy. I think Anna would do better to develop her confidence than her breasts.

@thefourthruffian

(Also, for clarity, I live in NM. The Permian Basin (where the oil that makes your car go probably comes from) overlaps West Texas and East NM.)

I believe the feminine culture where you are is still closer to what I experienced in Texas than what I have where I am.

@dchris

I tolerate her compassion first, realism second,

I believe my husband practices these values in our lives (where there is some “real stuff”) and vigorously supports me in doing so both personally and professionally, while expressing something different when political arguments erupt. (I don’t get involved in virtue signaling online. What’s the point? With the exception of this place, my social media is an echo chamber.)

[Dr_Pangloss]

OK, I know the site has been glitchy lately but this is hilarious. I never realize @SkyzykS has always had such luck with men. And married, too! Good for him and his husband.

[dagill2]

@EmilyQ

I think Anna would do better to develop her confidence than her breasts

Why is both not an option?

This doesn’t seem to be an either/or situation, trying to devalue any of the assets listed seems to fly in the face of my experience.

[strongmangoals]

@Dr_Pangloss

I know the site has been glitchy lately but this is hilarious

@SkyzykS what’s the best way to develop one’s breasts? Is there a cream?

[SkyzykS]

I was just born very fortunate in that regard.

You know what they say about us Scotsman and our ability to grow nice pair of firm and perkies!

[whang]

[Jewbacca]

[quote=“EmilyQ, post:2855, topic:264067, full:true”
Although truth be told, what I got was a republican who likes the other parts of me well enough that he tolerates the bent for social justice, which he would probably just as soon slice off and get rid of.
[/quote]

I’m back in the States (sadly) and just left a room with giggling married daughters (Bit deep into Covid drinking habit) talking about how they like their husbands wearing grey sweatpants. I did not know this was a thing and I really didn’t want to know. Life of a father, I suppose. But, on topic, no different than a tight sweater.

Regarding you Republican husband. As a Republican, he, too should be into social justice. He just happens to understand how to actually make things better, instead of repeating the stupid ideas that made the problems we have much worse.

[dt79]

@dchris

My wife has a strong sense of Social Justice and actually fighting for women’s rights, not just signaling she does. I tolerate her compassion first, realism second, because she has actual real experience (in third-world countries for prolonged time)

Social justice is good. It’s required. It’s the ideological morons who take it too far.