I haven’t read any other posts, but I think you already know the answer you’re looking for.
Bottom line, you want to stay in the gym. If you fight, you won’t be allowed back (at least in any commercial gym in the US. You’d have to be pretty tight with the gym owner to stay).
Do you give a fuck about what this guy thinks of you? No. Who cares if you don’t fight him? Only him. Don’t give him the satisfaction.
be a good guy and offer to spot him on the bench press and smash the bar onto his chest. how about that one?
[quote]bigpapapump wrote:
be a good guy and offer to spot him on the bench press and smash the bar onto his chest. how about that one?[/quote]
Too easy
my dear goodfellow,there have only been a handful of times where I deemed it worthy to hurt someone:
1.A guy hitting a girl(i seriously wanted to kill him,that shit’s not right)
2.They had a weapon and threatend me
3.A guy just pissed me off on the wrong day(bad move on my part,he had 40-60lbs on me…im still not sure why I decided to get my ass kicked that day,what’s worse is my coworkers/boss’ decided to watch)
4.a guy was bothering a friend of mine and would not stop(she pointed him out,i put him against the wall and scared him,he left)
there have been too many times I’ve been challenged to a fight for my taste. Most of the time I use emotional pain instead of physical pain. A bone will heal,a bruise will fade, but an emotional scar stays with someone till the end 
I suggest learning how to make someone feel like they’re in hell verbally,I quite enjoy it.
I’m sorry to say this, but you already gave 2 years of your life for these guys. It is obvious that you are afraid of them otherwise this post wouldn’t have been written.
You need to finish this one way or another. Problems like these haunt you and your family for years to come. I ask you…do you want to have a family? I don’t know how old you are, but imagine having children and meeting these assholes with your children. Would you put up with this crap in front of them?
There are more important things in life than a gym membership. IMHO you need to settle this once and for all.
Unfortunately people who are quiet and shy are the ones that get picked on the most. People tend to think that nothing will happen until someone snaps and all hell brakes loose.
You are not a woman that can “verbally” scar someone…man up and do what you should have done 2 years ago. Defend your right to walk with your face held high!
Next time he is benching heavy, walk by and rip a fart in his face. He will get distracted, fuck himself up, and have nobody to blame.
What is he going to say to cops?
It really sounds like you did the right thing. As someone else said, you probably have to change your outlook on life, but have faith you did what was right. Don’t listen to all these calls for you to fight, fighting wouldn’t help anything and might land you in serious trouble.
You probably do want to give management a heads up in case something happens the next time.
You did the right thing, don’t forget that.
Another poster suggested a boxing/mma/something classes. This sounds like a good idea if you want/feel-you-need them.
Also you should take some pride in your actions man. You had some piece of shit in your face and you brushed him off and kept on lifting. Seriously, you showed him you are the bigger/better man. And that’s the truth.
'But here is what I tell you. Do not fight against an evil person.
“Suppose someone hits you on your right cheek. Turn your other cheek to him also.” - Matthew 5:39, The Bible
Sound advice thousands of years ago, still valid today. It REALLY sucks that people like this exist. If you retaliate, chances are you might get beat down (more humiliating), jail/fines/lawyer, and prove nothing.
He’s an idiot that is trying to see how far you will go before you break. Don’t break. It takes a stronger man to not do anything. Keep lifting, hold your head up high, stay confident.
[quote]TheDudeAbides wrote:
'But here is what I tell you. Do not fight against an evil person.
“Suppose someone hits you on your right cheek. Turn your other cheek to him also.” - Matthew 5:39, The Bible[/quote]
The RIGHT OF NATURE is the Liberty each man hath, to use his own power, as he will himself, for the preservation of his own Nature; that is to say, of his own Life; and consequently, of doing any thing, which in his own Judgement, and Reason, he shall conceive to be the aptest means thereunto.
Hobbs will tell you that if you have one right in this world, it is to perpetuate your existence. If one of these guys slugs you and “shit gets real” the worst thing you can do is try to shrug off and ignore a real threat. If you need to, fuck his world up. If it’s appropriate, break his nose, punch him in the trechia, or kick him in the balls.
Every man will agree that the only time you can kick someone in the balls is if you’re fighting to save a life. That’s pretty much the only time you should be fighting someone anyway (excluding sparring/sanctioned competition/wrestling and whathaveyou)
i can’t get enough of the paintball shooting scheme. it sounds like so much fun; stake out, hide somewhere that no one will see you, make it real quick and be over with it. it would hurt him, but wouldn’t impare him, just scare him. don’t aim for anywhere that could potentially mess him up, aka face or crotch. that’s just really mean, but anywhere else yeah!
I think you handled the situation fine, but you need to get some more confidence. I’ve had the chance to fight many people over the last 6 years and only once have I taken the challange. You have your priorities straight. I tell ya, if someone inteterrupted one of my workouts to give me shit about something petty, I would have yelled at them. Fight them? Probably not.
But, if this guy gives you any more shit and touches you, give him a decent beating. I had a guy come up to me and start calling me a dirrty jew and other jewish slang and I calmly looked at the guy and asked “Did you just try to insult me and my people?” and the guy responded with a yes and a solid push. He also ended up with a broken nose, a black eye and damn lucky he didn’t break his back when I threw his slimeball ass threw a wooden wall.
bottom line is, stand up for yourself, and don’t take shit from other people. If you do that, people will respect you more then they would if you had gotten into a fight over something petty.
But when the cards are dealt just right, man up.
Nice handle on the situation to the OP.
No reason to physically fight in that scenario, even though it would feel nice to hurt the guy.
You took the high road and avoided fighting with some chump who’s out to prove something.