[quote]fighting_fires wrote:
As far as kman attacking DJ, i think thats a bad idea. The man is has a lot of legitimate posts on this site and he is speaking from experience. Even if for instance youre in law school, it doesnt matter until you practice. Got into an argument with a friend over MY 401K and his only argument was, im in school for business management i know these things.
How about trying to have your 401K managed correctly as a 21 y/o who is just learning about it and figuring it out step by step with real money at stake, other than reading something in a book about a man investing millions of dollars and acting like you know. I dont know it and i can admit that, but its a situation to situation thing.
Apparently this is how DJ situation went, also from this site he seems like a stand up guy, dont go ragging on him being a young father, thats shitty. From what ive gathered communicating with him hes doing very well for himself which is currently well above you and your private school education. I hate when people feel entitled because they go to an expensive school.
As for just giving her the money, makes sense to me. A man has a very slim chance of winning in the court of law against a woman who shelters his children. Court costs, lost wages for being at court, and mental strain all come into account in this situation. See above, my mother didnt want to deal with it and said screw the child support ill take care of them so that we dont have to deal with you and court forever.
To be honest this is a situation where most people dont want to be the one to change it, because well frankly, they wont. and theres too much at stake.
As stated above, my comments may be null because i am young, unmarried, and dont have children. But i have seen this from a childs view which should have some merit. [/quote]
Most of this is more ignorant than what you are trying to make me out to be. I’m sure you read DJHT’s false accusation of what I was trying to say and then sided based on that.
I stated that based on his former situation, yes, it was probably in his best interest to just put up with everything and deal with the system in order to see his kids. My main point was that in this HYPOTHETICAL situation, where one wins 56 million dollars, it is not in the public’s best interest to just settle with your ex-wife (10 years removed!!!), even if it may be in your best interest. The precedent that it sets is far too grave and frankly laughable. I would have fought to the death to not give the bitch a dime, as I see that as the right thing to do and the best thing for society in general. DJHT obviously didn’t see things this way and would have just given the ex 5 million or so just to shut her up, although she was the one that left and deserved none of it.
Would this line of thought cause a lot of trouble? Yes. Would it just be easier to fork over the money? Yes. Would I have done it? No. Far too many people complain about the ‘system’ and ‘injustice’ and whatever buzz word they make up so that they can bitch to their friends, but when put in a situation to do something about it, they turn their backs.
Apparently DJHT, you think that this is the ‘practical’ approach and the ‘adult way’ and I find that line of thought appauling. Maybe you feel like a broken man in regards to this, but don’t put everyone else in that basket. Thank God that many great men (and women) in histroy decided to ACT rather than just see a problem and take your approach of ‘it’s too hard for me individually, I prob won’t make a big difference cuz I’m not that special, what’s the point anyways’. Tell that to people Like MLK Jr., Abe Lincoln, Ghandi, Nelson Mandela and Aung San Suu Kyi. Obviously there are varying degrees to their accomplishments, but with a ‘why do I have to do the dirty work’ initial line of thinking, these people would have never accomplished anything. Self fulfilling prophecy much?
And another thing FF, how the hell do you base my ‘entitlement’ upon where I go to school? I know nothing about you, but I would be surprised if you did not grow up with more opportunities than me. You clearly know nothing about me but based on my private school I have an automatic sense of entitlement huh? I grew up on the southside of Chicago, went CPS k-12, have a blue collar mom who works 60 hours a week and a blue collar dad who has been out of work for 10 years due to medical problems. If working my ass off and realizing that I was smarter than most everyone around me is entitlement then I guess I’m guilty.