Oh dear. And I usually do so well on tests. But more like…multiple choice let’s-see-if-you-read-the-materials kinds of tests.
On a more serious note, in keeping with “keep the goal the goal,” I have committed to doing the best I can during family events, but not prioritizing my fitness over the social aspect. My stepdaughter struggles with weight and always has, and it’s a hot button issue for her. I’ve finally beaten my husband into shutting TF up about my habits in his family’s presence because they have such a different food culture. Very Italian. My stepdaughter does the “resist food as best I can and then eat calorie-dense stuff” weight management system. She has never asked for advice, so I don’t offer it. She’s super strong and would THRIVE in strength pursuits, but…not my lane.
Meanwhile my own daughter is the only one of my 4 children who doesn’t care about fitness. She has food allergies, so eats well, but has no interest in exercise. During her teens, she called me anorexic. I am the LEAST anorexic person I know. I do, however, dig activity, and can be compulsive on that front.
Neither daughter is obese, but it’s sensitive nonetheless. My daughter is apple shaped, and has grown up with a Barbie shaped mom. It’s been tough. No one is fitness shaming me, but their own insecurities are apparent and I love them and don’t want to be a source of pain. Better that they just think I have a “fast metabolism,” which has been true in the past (age has changed that). That my fast metabolism came from the morning’s 5 mile run is beside the point.
So I’ll do my best. The problem I’ve faced in the past has been that once I start eating yummy stuff, e.g. chips, it’s hard to stop because I am such a volume eater. I’m hoping the reta will help with that. It seemed to during their stay two weeks ago.
I just tossed half a bag of chips, along with the French onion dip. I can sit in front of the TV and while watching and Athletics game put most of the yummy stuff down my pie hole. Enjoy your trip though, a day or two of family won’t mean the sun will turn into a red giant. Will there be fried chicken?
No, the worst of it will be the chips and snacks, though there will be burgers and dogs for one lunch. Stepdaughter will probably bake cookies and/or muffins. She makes gluten free muffins that my daughter, who is allergic to wheat, can eat - which is such a lovely blended-family thing, how can I not eat one and rave about how good?
I’ll bring fruit and whatever else I find that fits the occasion and might help me keep to the straight and narrow. A lot of the food is fine - we’ll have grilled ribs and chicken and steak. The breakfast burritos, which are beloved by all, are big tortillas jam-packed with eggs, bacon, sausage, tater tots, and cheese - are a mixed bag of horror and joy. (I should take a pic for the food porn thread.)
I’m starting to really like the way I look. This won’t steal it away from me. It just makes the process take longer. But it’s not like my opportunity to work on it is time-limited, unless of course it IS, in which case I have bigger problems.
I actually did this before bowling last weekend. Just chomped down some meat while I was getting ready.
Camping is an all weekend thing out in the woods, but hopefully we’ll be active.
It’ll be okay.
@T3hPwnisher, deviled eggs are a good idea. I’ll have to see how cooler space is for this weekend, but I definitely need to start making them for home get togethers - because you’re right, everyone loves them.
I agree. A problem I have, though, is that there are a LOT of these situations in my life. Between us, my husband and I have 6 kids, and we like to come together for big fun. It’s a huge blessing - really the joy of my life - but the level of fitness I would like to achieve is best created under less chaotic circumstances.
“Keep the goal the goal.” I’m trying to figure out how to make the goal fit the two mutually exclusive priorities. I’m getting there, though, I think.
Edit: by not letting poor-behavior time with the family derail my diet and training, and not letting my diet and training derail my fun. That my kids want to come to my house or our land or have us at theirs and it’s treated like an actual party with all the fixin’s, is actually the REASON I want to maintain myself. I want to say “yes” to every fun scheme. Camping, kickball, tubing, hikes, sledding, and also over eating Mexican food or getting tipsy if that’s the vibe.
Friday, August 8
Weight 148.something (I meant to come back to record it, but forgot until after I’d had coffee.)
CG Max day 23/50 - squat/lateral raise/front raise, rear step fwd tilt lunge/flies, banded bridge/supine rows - with 2 mile walk/run.
It’s been 8 days since I lifted, and I had this weird, but familiar, sense of dread or intimidation or something going into it. I don’t know why that happens when I don’t do it for a while, but it happens in other contexts, too. Like…how can I possibly drive to my cousin’s place in Brooklyn because George Washington Bridge and NYC(!!!) - even though I’ve done it several times and it’s always been fine, and even pleasant.
I’ve taken to thinking about what @SkyzykS said about my pleasant schedule last year (or something along those lines) and it’s helpful. Because it is a pleasant routine! I was smiling during our walk today and felt good training. Okay, I just searched and here it is:
Two mile walk with the dog, a really nice 69° good morning world walk. Mostly wanted to log weight. It’s certainly coming down. Not like I’d hoped (after following the results of muscular 200+ lb men) but I’m not logging food and I’m letting some treats in.
Planning to work out this morning, but wanted to post that I had a rough day yesterday. Huge DOMS from Friday and nausea every time I ate, which actually happens with some regularity, though not all the time. I need to figure out whether I’m trying to eat too much at a time, or what. I felt like I had the flu and spent the day pretty much on the couch, with Saturday having been problematic as well. I hit the farmer’s market (we’re heading into peak tomato and corn season) and an art in the park thing and couldn’t get home fast enough to drop into a nap after being out in the sun for like an hour total, plus the earlier walk. Woke up unsatisfied after an hour, but pulled it together for a “date” with the husband (screened porch, music, wine, made a nice dinner together), during which dinner I was afraid I’d fall asleep. DID fall asleep at around 7:30 on the couch and slept until 6:30 yesterday morning.
I was going to speculate that the (for me) relatively quick weight loss is messing with me, but in reviewing what I just wrote, I’ll go ahead and say “was sick.”
That sounds like illness. You WILL get nauseated from eating too much of the glp-1, but not flu like stuff.
I would estimate that in general I eat about 60% of what I used to in each meal. Much more than that and I don’t feel good at all. I do probably have small snacks like grapes or cheese sticks between meals more often than I used to.
I think I’ve found it better to under eat at my meals so I don’t get nauseated, and just fill the gaps with little snacks if I get hungry between meals. It was a totally new eating pattern for me.
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