Doogie's 2024 Transformation Log

I’ve fallen off the last couple of weeks. Depression has set in. I’m in a situation now. So, I’ve been married to my second wife for 7.5 years. Her first husband was a big old ball of shit. Like a really, really shit ball. Abusive, drunk, cheater. He didn’t pay any child support at all for the four boys when the divorce happened. He quit working and his parents pay everything for him so he has no income. Well, my wife was the accountant for his therapy business and committed medicare fraud to feed and house the boys. This was before I met here. I was not aware this had occurred. She has been sentenced to 48 months in federal prison, most likely reporting April 25. She’ll serve at least a couple of years. Her parents have spent obscene amounts of money on criminal lawyers and family lawyers and a specialist to write a report about what is best for the boys. We are fighting for her to be able to transfer her rights to me so nothing changes. Boys would live with me, he would get them every other weekend, and two weeks in the summer. Alternating holidays. Between us, we have 5 boys, the three youngest who are all still at home (7th, 7th, and 5th grade). All three are autistic to a point. The twins are deteriorating primarily because their mom is going to jail and their dad is taking a victory lap, bad mothing her, and telling them that they will have to live with him when she goes away and that I won’t see them at all. One of the twins is having really hard time and is kind of self-harming when he gets overwhelmed (scratching arms, pulling ears and hair, hitting his legs, balling up on the ground crying saying he’s sorry, he’s sorry). Their dad is absolutely not equipped to handle the boys, especially when you factor in that he would be pulling them out of their school which has an amazing special ed support team and sending them to a shittier school in a shittier side of town. Add to all this that I’ve been out of work since the end of September. (but I did get an offer to start a job Monday bending passing the background check.) So I have two paths before me. The day my wife goes to jail, I could pack the boys stuff and give it to their piece of shit dad. I could divorce my wife for not telling me what she had done. I could live a nice, easy simple single life. Or I can fight to keep those boys mine and raise them as as single parent with all that comes along with that until their mother gets out of prison. My head gets mad at being lied to, not being told that there was as chance she could someday be caught and sent to jail and I’d have 3 special needs boys to raise alone. My heart says they are 100% my boys, and even if they weren’t I would never want ANY kid to have to live with that shitstain that is their dad.

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My heart gets what it wants unless my head says a firm “no.” If my head is mixed up, I go with the heart and hope for the best.

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My dude, I’m speechless and I’ve got nothing wise to say here, so I’ll just observe that the world needs more people like you.

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Doug is an outstanding father and he has overcome so much in life. He could be a bitter total reclusive asshole and I would understand. He chooses not to be and raise children. I pray every day for him.

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Doug I don’t know if you’re at your mental limit with this, but I certainly understand how that could distract you from your fitness goals. Take care of your priorities, and make little health changes where you can. That may be the best you can do right now. I’m rooting for you. Take care of yourself where you can.

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3.4.24 weight: 237.2

A. Inc DB Press 3x10
B. Pushups 2x15
B. Inc DB Squeeze Press 2x10
C. Inc DB Curl 3x12
D. Crunches 3xF

Start my new job today.

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3.5.24 weight: 236.2
A. Goblet Squat 3x10
B. Reverse Lunges 3x8
C. Lying DB Extensions 3x10

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3.7.24 weight: 234.2
A. Reverse Inc DB Rows 3x10
B. TRX Low Row 3x12
C. DB Hammer Curl 3x8
D. Crunches 3xF

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3.8.24 weight: 234.2
A. DB Military Press 3x12
B. DB Lateral Raise 3x12
C. DB Shrug 3x10
C. TRX Face Pull 3x12
D. Inc Tate Press 3x10

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3.12.24 weight: ? traveling this week for work. hotel gym is lacking for sure.

A. Pushups 3xF
A. Fly Away Press 3x8
B. Inc DB Curl
C. Captain’s Chair Leg Raises 3xF
D. 1 mile treadmill walk

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3.13.24 weight: ? still traveling. hotel bed does not agree with my back. Feel like an old crippled man today. There was nobody in the hotel gym yesterday, but today that little room was packed.
A Reverse Lunges 3x8
B. Air Squats 3x25
C. Bulgarian Split Squats 3x10
D. Lying DB Extensions 3x12

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The joys of travel. After 9 years on the road I am so thankful to finally be home for good this week. The first of many to come.
Stick to it Doug even if they suck just get on a TM and walk.

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3.19.24 weight: ?
Hotel Gym
A. Inc DB Press 3x12
B. Pushups BWx3
C. Inc DB Curl 3x12
D. Swiss Ball Crunches 3xF
E. 5 Minute Treadmill Walk

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5.16.24 weight: 224.8 (down 20.4 since January 1)
A. Goblet Squat 3x10
B. Reverse Lunges 2x8
C. Bulgarian Split Squat 2x10
D. Inc DB Curl 3x12
E. Crunches 3xF
F. Jumping Jacks x 100
So it’s been a couple of months since I’ve worked out. I was traveling, then I got sick for a couple of weeks, then my wife had to turn herself into Federal Prison and I became a single dad all of a sudden. I’ve adapted and have the kids settled into a routine, so I should be able to be back working out consistently. I took it easy this morning, but I’ll still be unable to walk for a couple of days. We have court next week to see if I can have custody of the boys instead of their POS biological father. Prayers appreciated.

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The 20lbs is fantastic, under the circumstances especially. How are you doing with the drinking with all the stress?

I’m having some wine on Saturday nights. That’s it. I’m tempted a lot of other times, honestly, but keeping it under control.

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Awesome job. How long will she be gone?

Hard to say for sure. She was sentenced to 56 months. The calculators show she should be eligible for a halfway house late August 2025, then home April 2026.

Okay, a long time. Keep your head down and your chin up. Focus on being healthy - you and the kids. Because it’s the only stress management strategy that works without negative consequences.

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I love this message. However…

I’m curious how to physically accomplish this…

You got this @doogie

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