'Don't Get Any Bigger'

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[quote]TD54 wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:
Build the body YOU WANT. WTF.

195 is nowhere near freak status how fucking ridiculous. You’ve reached a goal- kudos to you that’s awesome… achieving physique goals takes so much effort. Now you’re assessing and want more. Why would you hold back on the basis of ANYONES opinion esp. Someone with no standing to assess a built physique. Jesus lord.

Hopefully you’re a teenager or something…[/quote]

I pretty much agree with this, but part of every persons reason to build a better physique is to be more attractive to the opposite sex. No doubt he wants to look good for his girlfriend, most people do.

You personally are dieting and working towards a specific physique goal that society has defined as attractive. People on this site have complimented you a good deal, and that has got to be rewarding/motivating in some way, no? If everyone started telling you that you are looking worse and worse as you lose weight, would you want to continue to lose weight? I don;t think i would.

Again, i agree with you, he should build the physique he wants, but in my opinion, part of what he wants is being defined by others, which is only natural.

Just my 2cents[/quote]

Yes I get it HOWEVER that is THIS SITE.
I have been told by regular dudes in real life bullshit like “woah! gnarly” “woah don’t kick my ass” blah blah blah not every normal dude likes a huge front double bi shot on a chick.

SO yeah.

one more thing I thought of… maybe she is saying it as a compliment? like oh honey you look great! I mean it would be kinda bitchy to suggest he needs to gain weight? just another thought I had on the topic. Like she’s saying it to be sweet and enouraging which is actually good girlfriend action.

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My gf says the same thing. I ignore her.

Depending on where it goes 5 or sometimes even 10lbs wont be noticable, and the odds on you’ll put it on over a period of time. Odds are the change’ll be slow and subtle enough not to scare her, and at the end you’ll be what you want ot be.

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[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]Enray wrote:
I recently hit my goal of being 195 with a defined six pack, but after realizing how not big that is, I was contemplating gaining another 10 pounds. The weird thing is that my girl and every other female who knows about this goal have pretty much unanimously said that I shouldn’t get any bigger, because then I won’t be buff, I’ll be a freak. And to be perfectly honest, I’m probably just gonna focus on strength now instead of getting bigger since I’m far from a purist (the gun show is for the girls). Has any body else heard anything like this and what do you think? Does it change your goals at all?[/quote]

Girls always say that. They will say the same when you get to 200, 220 and so on…that you look fine now but don’t get any bigger. Women like fantasy…and I am pretty sure most live in a constant version of their own Soap Opera in their heads daily so when they think of you “bigger” it involves some insane day dream where you turn into the Hulk and rip their arms off.

I went to a pool party last week and they seem to still like guys with some size on them. If nothing else, you stand out more…which doesn’t exactly work against you.

More importantly, why the fuck would any grown man base his goals in life on what someone else wants?

People like that don’t ever stick with this…so if you are doing this for her or anyone else but yourself, you won’t exactly have to worry about being too muscular for long.

Also, if you are still a kid, please realize that while you attempt to become some replica of a teenaged girls daydreams…they are growing fast and that type only stays cool as long as you look like an extra from High School Musical.

Women like money, your job, your status way more than abs.[/quote]

Good post.

It never, ever hurts to stand out in a crowd.

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A girl telling a guy she likes big muscles is kinda like a guy telling a girl he likes big tits. It may be true, but saying it makes you come off pretty shallow.

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[quote]kakno wrote:
A girl telling a guy she likes big muscles is kinda like a guy telling a girl he likes big tits. It may be true, but saying it makes you come off as pretty shallow.[/quote]

Why? It’s no more shallow than preferring blondes or brunettes or dark-skinned women. It’s only shallow if that is the only thing you are looking for. Plenty of women are physically attracted to me for my size, which is fine; but the ones that get my interest actually stick around long enough to realize I have a brain.

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Coolness.

Black Batman is back.

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[quote]Hallowed wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:
Build the body YOU WANT. WTF.

195 is nowhere near freak status how fucking ridiculous. You’ve reached a goal- kudos to you that’s awesome… achieving physique goals takes so much effort. Now you’re assessing and want more. Why would you hold back on the basis of ANYONES opinion esp. Someone with no standing to assess a built physique. Jesus lord.

Hopefully you’re a teenager or something…[/quote]

I pretty much agree with this, but part of every persons reason to build a better physique is to be more attractive to the opposite sex. No doubt he wants to look good for his girlfriend, most people do.

You personally are dieting and working towards a specific physique goal that society has defined as attractive. People on this site have complimented you a good deal, and that has got to be rewarding/motivating in some way, no? If everyone started telling you that you are looking worse and worse as you lose weight, would you want to continue to lose weight? I don;t think i would.

Again, i agree with you, he should build the physique he wants, but in my opinion, part of what he wants is being defined by others, which is only natural.

Just my 2cents[/quote]

Yes I get it HOWEVER that is THIS SITE.
I have been told by regular dudes in real life bullshit like “woah! gnarly” “woah don’t kick my ass” blah blah blah not every normal dude likes a huge front double bi shot on a chick.

SO yeah.

one more thing I thought of… maybe she is saying it as a compliment? like oh honey you look great! I mean it would be kinda bitchy to suggest he needs to gain weight? just another thought I had on the topic. Like she’s saying it to be sweet and enouraging which is actually good girlfriend action.[/quote]

So you collectively take in peoples opinions and that shapes what goal you want to reach, right? I think all of us that are looking to better our physiques do. I’m just wondering why the hell everyone is acting like the OP is whipped for wanting to look good for his girlfriend? We all value others opinions of what does and doesn’t look good, but some people’s opinions are valued more, like a girlfriend. I probably should have responded to someone elses post because your being reasonable about this, unlike some macho men telling OP he’s whipped

And yeah it could definitely be a compliment. I’ll be honest, I have told girlfriends before that i like them just the way they are despite the fact that it wouldn’t have hurt them to lose like 5 lbs. Could be similar to this situation, where the girl is perfectly content and trying to make the boyfriend understand that.

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[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]Enray wrote:
I recently hit my goal of being 195 with a defined six pack, but after realizing how not big that is, I was contemplating gaining another 10 pounds. The weird thing is that my girl and every other female who knows about this goal have pretty much unanimously said that I shouldn’t get any bigger, because then I won’t be buff, I’ll be a freak. And to be perfectly honest, I’m probably just gonna focus on strength now instead of getting bigger since I’m far from a purist (the gun show is for the girls). Has any body else heard anything like this and what do you think? Does it change your goals at all?[/quote]

Girls always say that. They will say the same when you get to 200, 220 and so on…that you look fine now but don’t get any bigger. Women like fantasy…and I am pretty sure most live in a constant version of their own Soap Opera in their heads daily so when they think of you “bigger” it involves some insane day dream where you turn into the Hulk and rip their arms off.

I went to a pool party last week and they seem to still like guys with some size on them. If nothing else, you stand out more…which doesn’t exactly work against you.

More importantly, why the fuck would any grown man base his goals in life on what someone else wants?

People like that don’t ever stick with this…so if you are doing this for her or anyone else but yourself, you won’t exactly have to worry about being too muscular for long.

Also, if you are still a kid, please realize that while you attempt to become some replica of a teenaged girls daydreams…they are growing fast and that type only stays cool as long as you look like an extra from High School Musical.

Women like money, your job, your status way more than abs.[/quote]

This. You guys REALLY need to stop worrying about what some “chick”, who is not going to be in your life 6 months from now, thinks is the best path for you to take with your life. OP, you are only 18; but you need to realize and learn, NOW, that women have a hell of a lot more respect for a man who thinks for himself and can choose his own path rather than someone whose opinions and views change with the wind. In other words, don’t be a typical 18 year old. STAND OUT by being who YOU want to be.

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[quote]TD54 wrote:
I’m just wondering why the hell everyone is acting like the OP is whipped for wanting to look good for his girlfriend?

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Because at the end of the day he is the one looking at himself in the mirror, not her.

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[quote]lewhitehurst wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
I’m just wondering why the hell everyone is acting like the OP is whipped for wanting to look good for his girlfriend?

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Because at the end of the day he is the one looking at himself in the mirror, not her. [/quote]

^^exactly… everyone is acting like his whipped because he is whipped. lol

“I dont want to keep pursuing my goals because my girlfriend says not too” = whipped

also… welcome back Lew

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[quote]gregron wrote:

[quote]lewhitehurst wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
I’m just wondering why the hell everyone is acting like the OP is whipped for wanting to look good for his girlfriend?

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Because at the end of the day he is the one looking at himself in the mirror, not her. [/quote]

^^exactly… everyone is acting like his whipped because he is whipped. lol

“I dont want to keep pursuing my goals because my girlfriend says not too” = whipped

also… welcome back Lew[/quote]

He said his girlfriend and every other girl he has talked to, whatever that means. But assuming there have been a significant amount of girls that said that, his reaction seems pretty normal. Greg, if your fiancée and all of her friends said you look awesome the way you are, but they really thought you would look worse if you got any bigger, would you take their opinion into consideration? I’m not saying the OP should stop bulking because of this, just that his thoughts are pretty reasonable, and are definitely not an indication of him being whipped, in my opinion

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lol @ what the website perceived as a squiggly line over the “e” in finace. Ã?© copyright???

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[quote]TD54 wrote:
Greg, if your fianc�?�©e and all of her friends said you look awesome the way you are, but they really thought you would look worse if you got any bigger, would you take their opinion into consideration?[/quote]

my fiance and her friends have already said that I didnt need to get any bigger. They said I look perfect being the size that I am now… they also said that 15 lbs ago when I was 195 lol

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[quote]gregron wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
Greg, if your fianc�??�?�©e and all of her friends said you look awesome the way you are, but they really thought you would look worse if you got any bigger, would you take their opinion into consideration?[/quote]

my fiance and her friends have already said that I didnt need to get any bigger. They said I look perfect being the size that I am now… they also said that 15 lbs ago when I was 195 lol

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LOLz

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[quote]gregron wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
Greg, if your fianc�??�?�©e and all of her friends said you look awesome the way you are, but they really thought you would look worse if you got any bigger, would you take their opinion into consideration?[/quote]

my fiance and her friends have already said that I didnt need to get any bigger. They said I look perfect being the size that I am now… they also said that 15 lbs ago when I was 195 lol

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Alright, so you are assuming that if you get bigger, your fiance is still going to love the way you look, which im sure she is. What if you didn’t believe that? What if, like the OP, you genuinely thought your fiance would think you look like a freak after adding another 10 lbs? I think that is where the problem lies. The OP needs to know that his girlfriend isn’t going to think he looks freaky if he adds 10 more lbs of muscle.

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Wow, my squiggly line over the “e” is turning into quite the shit show after being quoted a few times, lol. What is it now… A???A??A?A?

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[quote]TD54 wrote:

[quote]gregron wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
Greg, if your fianc�??�??�?�©e and all of her friends said you look awesome the way you are, but they really thought you would look worse if you got any bigger, would you take their opinion into consideration?[/quote]

my fiance and her friends have already said that I didnt need to get any bigger. They said I look perfect being the size that I am now… they also said that 15 lbs ago when I was 195 lol

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Alright, so you are assuming that if you get bigger, your fiance is still going to love the way you look, which im sure she is. What if you didn’t believe that? What if, like the OP, you genuinely thought your fiance would think you look like a freak after adding another 10 lbs? I think that is where the problem lies. The OP needs to know that his girlfriend isn’t going to think he looks freaky if he adds 10 more lbs of muscle.[/quote]

If she leaves you because of weight, then she never really loved you did she? Count yourself fortunate that you found out sooner rather than later and move on.

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[quote]TD54 wrote:
The OP needs to know that his girlfriend isn’t going to think he looks freaky if he adds 10 more lbs of muscle.[/quote]

No. The OP needs to realize it’s his damn life and if his girlfriend isn’t going to at least accept his goals (provided they are not harmful or dangerous), he needs to find another one who is more in line with his way of thinking and his outlook.

You’re rationalizing him letting himself be punked. I’d rather have had him lie to her and say he isn’t going to get any bigger and go ahead and do it, anyway, than let her decide where he wants and needs to be.

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[quote]Loudog75 wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:

[quote]gregron wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
Greg, if your fianc�??�??�??�?�©e and all of her friends said you look awesome the way you are, but they really thought you would look worse if you got any bigger, would you take their opinion into consideration?[/quote]

my fiance and her friends have already said that I didnt need to get any bigger. They said I look perfect being the size that I am now… they also said that 15 lbs ago when I was 195 lol

[/quote]

Alright, so you are assuming that if you get bigger, your fiance is still going to love the way you look, which im sure she is. What if you didn’t believe that? What if, like the OP, you genuinely thought your fiance would think you look like a freak after adding another 10 lbs? I think that is where the problem lies. The OP needs to know that his girlfriend isn’t going to think he looks freaky if he adds 10 more lbs of muscle.[/quote]

If she leaves you because of weight, then she never really loved you did she? Count yourself fortunate that you found out sooner rather than later and move on.

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I didn’t say she would leave him, just that she wouldn’t like the way he looked, which is completely possible. I’m sure it’s happened before

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[quote]TD54 wrote:
What if, like the OP, you genuinely thought your fiance would think you look like a freak after adding another 10 lbs? I think that is where the problem lies. The OP needs to know that his girlfriend isn’t going to think he looks freaky if he adds 10 more lbs of muscle.[/quote]

girls/women just dont really know any better.

I dont genuinely believe that because Im not a young kid like the OP… I know better than that lol