my fiance and her friends have already said that I didnt need to get any bigger. They said I look perfect being the size that I am now… they also said that 15 lbs ago when I was 195 lol
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Alright, so you are assuming that if you get bigger, your fiance is still going to love the way you look, which im sure she is. What if you didn’t believe that? What if, like the OP, you genuinely thought your fiance would think you look like a freak after adding another 10 lbs? I think that is where the problem lies. The OP needs to know that his girlfriend isn’t going to think he looks freaky if he adds 10 more lbs of muscle.[/quote]
If she leaves you because of weight, then she never really loved you did she? Count yourself fortunate that you found out sooner rather than later and move on.
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I didn’t say she would leave him, just that she wouldn’t like the way he looked, which is completely possible. I’m sure it’s happened before[/quote]
wait so now my fiance is going to leave me? And she’s disliked the way I looked in the past?
shit! Good thing i’m on T-Nation to find out all of this info. thanks for looking out for me guys lol
[quote]TD54 wrote:
The OP needs to know that his girlfriend isn’t going to think he looks freaky if he adds 10 more lbs of muscle.[/quote]
No. The OP needs to realize it’s his damn life and if his girlfriend isn’t going to at least accept his goals (provided they are not harmful or dangerous), he needs to find another one who is more in line with his way of thinking and his outlook.
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I agree with this completely.
[quote]lewhitehurst wrote:
You’re rationalizing him letting himself be punked. I’d rather have had him lie to her and say he isn’t going to get any bigger and go ahead and do it, anyway, than let her decide where he wants and needs to be.
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Not entirely sure what you are saying here. But… All i was saying is that it’s perfectly normal for him to take into account what his girlfriend thinks looks best, because after all, the chances are, OP has defined his goals and how big he wants to get by what he thinks looks best, aka most attractive. Lew, I’m sure your goals are very different than that. For me personally, my goals are strength and physique related. As far as physique goes, there is no doubt my goals are based off of what i believe looks best, which in reality is a combination of what i believe everyone else thinks looks best, if you understand what im saying…
my fiance and her friends have already said that I didnt need to get any bigger. They said I look perfect being the size that I am now… they also said that 15 lbs ago when I was 195 lol
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Alright, so you are assuming that if you get bigger, your fiance is still going to love the way you look, which im sure she is. What if you didn’t believe that? What if, like the OP, you genuinely thought your fiance would think you look like a freak after adding another 10 lbs? I think that is where the problem lies. The OP needs to know that his girlfriend isn’t going to think he looks freaky if he adds 10 more lbs of muscle.[/quote]
If she leaves you because of weight, then she never really loved you did she? Count yourself fortunate that you found out sooner rather than later and move on.
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I didn’t say she would leave him, just that she wouldn’t like the way he looked, which is completely possible. I’m sure it’s happened before[/quote]
wait so now my fiance is going to leave me? And she’s disliked the way I looked in the past?
shit! Good thing i’m on T-Nation to find out all of this info. thanks for looking out for me guys lol
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Hey, here to help man. You’re already looking like a freak, any more muscle and she’s gone. When she does leave, let me know, because i have a much softer, less freaky physique that i’m sure she’ll dig
Last comment on this for the day… I have to get to studying. Physics final tomorrow. Lovely…
Anyway, saying the OP is whipped would imply that his girlfriend is telling him what to do, and he is doing it, AGAINST his will. If his girlfriend tells him to wash the car for no reason, but he wants to wash the car, then that isn’t whipped. If she tells him to wash the car for no reason, and he doesn’t want to wash it, but washes it anyway, then that is “whipped.”
Now… OP wants to gain more size. His girlfriend tells him she thinks he looks best where he is at, and that any more size would make him freaky. At this point, his girlfriends opinion of what looks best is altering his opinion of what looks best. So the OP is now thinking that staying at 195 is most attractive. So he has suddenly reached his goal! And he will stay there because that is what he thinks is most attractive. So he is not being “whipped” because he is doing what he wants to. So… the problem in my opinion lies in the fact that his view of what is attractive is too reliant on what his girlfriend and other girls think looks best.
In my opinion, if he stays at 195, and his girlfriend loves it, he’s not secretly going to want to get to 205, because his initial reasoning for getting to 205 was based off the idea that his girlfriend (and other girls) will find it more attractive.
Hey aren’t people supposed to love each other even death to us apart? i’ve seen people keep loving each other even after their loved ones got: fat/sick/disfigured/dismembered/retarded and it won’t hurt adding 50lbs to your physique.
Yes I get it HOWEVER that is THIS SITE.
I have been told by regular dudes in real life bullshit like “woah! gnarly” “woah don’t kick my ass” blah blah blah not every normal dude likes a huge front double bi shot on a chick.
SO yeah.
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Sorry to break it to you Hallowed but the reason those guys say this to you is not because they don’t like the way you look. You are not nearly big enough to be “gnarly” or whatever… Basicaly, they are hitting on you. Trying to make you feel bad about your physical appearance so that its easier for them… ie. they are trying to make you validate your worth to them thereby giving them the social upperhand in the interaction.
my fiance and her friends have already said that I didnt need to get any bigger. They said I look perfect being the size that I am now… they also said that 15 lbs ago when I was 195 lol
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STFU you are all beefy and icky and no girl would ever suck your
cawk.
If you are over 200 lbs you will never, ever get a blowjob.
Yes I get it HOWEVER that is THIS SITE.
I have been told by regular dudes in real life bullshit like “woah! gnarly” “woah don’t kick my ass” blah blah blah not every normal dude likes a huge front double bi shot on a chick.
SO yeah.
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Sorry to break it to you Hallowed but the reason those guys say this to you is not because they don’t like the way you look. You are not nearly big enough to be “gnarly” or whatever… Basicaly, they are hitting on you. Trying to make you feel bad about your physical appearance so that its easier for them… ie. they are trying to make you validate your worth to them thereby giving them the social upperhand in the interaction.[/quote]
Yes I get it HOWEVER that is THIS SITE.
I have been told by regular dudes in real life bullshit like “woah! gnarly” “woah don’t kick my ass” blah blah blah not every normal dude likes a huge front double bi shot on a chick.
SO yeah.
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Sorry to break it to you Hallowed but the reason those guys say this to you is not because they don’t like the way you look. You are not nearly big enough to be “gnarly” or whatever… Basicaly, they are hitting on you. Trying to make you feel bad about your physical appearance so that its easier for them… ie. they are trying to make you validate your worth to them thereby giving them the social upperhand in the interaction.[/quote]
Yes I get it HOWEVER that is THIS SITE.
I have been told by regular dudes in real life bullshit like “woah! gnarly” “woah don’t kick my ass” blah blah blah not every normal dude likes a huge front double bi shot on a chick.
SO yeah.
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Sorry to break it to you Hallowed but the reason those guys say this to you is not because they don’t like the way you look. You are not nearly big enough to be “gnarly” or whatever… Basicaly, they are hitting on you. Trying to make you feel bad about your physical appearance so that its easier for them… ie. they are trying to make you validate your worth to them thereby giving them the social upperhand in the interaction.[/quote]
Funny how you can realize all that completely devoid of context.
My first reaction was that dudes were just being playful with her while acknowledging she has more muscle than an average chica. Either could be right.
Yes I get it HOWEVER that is THIS SITE.
I have been told by regular dudes in real life bullshit like “woah! gnarly” “woah don’t kick my ass” blah blah blah not every normal dude likes a huge front double bi shot on a chick.
SO yeah.
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Sorry to break it to you Hallowed but the reason those guys say this to you is not because they don’t like the way you look. You are not nearly big enough to be “gnarly” or whatever… Basicaly, they are hitting on you. Trying to make you feel bad about your physical appearance so that its easier for them… ie. they are trying to make you validate your worth to them thereby giving them the social upperhand in the interaction.[/quote]
Funny how you can realize all that completely devoid of context.
My first reaction was that dudes were just being playful with her while acknowledging she has more muscle than an average chica. Either could be right.[/quote]
That is exactly the same as what I said… Whether they are doing it intentionaly or not is irrelevant… They may say: “I was just teasing her” but the effect is the same… Its still flirting.
Yes I get it HOWEVER that is THIS SITE.
I have been told by regular dudes in real life bullshit like “woah! gnarly” “woah don’t kick my ass” blah blah blah not every normal dude likes a huge front double bi shot on a chick.
SO yeah.
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Sorry to break it to you Hallowed but the reason those guys say this to you is not because they don’t like the way you look. You are not nearly big enough to be “gnarly” or whatever… Basicaly, they are hitting on you. Trying to make you feel bad about your physical appearance so that its easier for them… ie. they are trying to make you validate your worth to them thereby giving them the social upperhand in the interaction.[/quote]
Yes I get it HOWEVER that is THIS SITE.
I have been told by regular dudes in real life bullshit like “woah! gnarly” “woah don’t kick my ass” blah blah blah not every normal dude likes a huge front double bi shot on a chick.
SO yeah.
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Sorry to break it to you Hallowed but the reason those guys say this to you is not because they don’t like the way you look. You are not nearly big enough to be “gnarly” or whatever… Basicaly, they are hitting on you. Trying to make you feel bad about your physical appearance so that its easier for them… ie. they are trying to make you validate your worth to them thereby giving them the social upperhand in the interaction.[/quote]
Its cute when puppies try to neg grown women.[/quote]
Ad Hominem arguments, in the other hand, are not cute.
