Dominant Women

CargoCapable · September 8, 2012, 7:30pm

Well I did call her. It’s going to be a no go. She was highly defensive in her dom role.

I should give more background perhaps:

I barely know her. We met through a mutual, female friend. I’ve only seen her a few times in group situations and she is very normal on the outside. Normal job, makes small talk, no sign of her bullshit. And she is hot. Blonde, petite, round butt, firm big boobs.

We casually talked a little and exchanged contact information. All I knew was a sexy chick was hooked and I was going to reel her in.

I called her and we met for a volunteer “keep Houston beautiful” day. She had mentioned environmental crap and likes beautification initiatives around the city and shit like that so I suggested it. Still no sign of the crazies.

After, we went for coffee at a local wanna be Bohemian place, her suggestion. A casual suggestion I thought though I’m sure now it was her trying to gain “control”.

This is where we started having a conversation that led to the OP.

Anyways, I called and asked her to go out again. She was defensive from the beginning and jumped all over my suggestion. She said I could take her out but, like she already said, she picks the place and so it began again.

I told her politely I would like to go out on more even terms, maybe even pick up some fucking trash again (didn’t actually use fucking) but she was already so defensive over my previous challenge she wouldn’t let her guard down at all and her voice got all strained and weird.

I told her to forget it and hung up.

I think this is the end of the story.

CargoCapable · September 8, 2012, 7:22pm

[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:
OP, let me ask you this. How do you feel when you imagine her fucking other guys? Jealous? Are you turned on? Or just don’t care?[/quote]
Don’t care.

Gettnitdone · September 8, 2012, 10:43pm

This is the end of the story. This is about you - if you’re enjoying the challenge then continue. Otherwise, you’re just wasting your time and energy or something not worth it.

CargoCapable · September 8, 2012, 11:07pm

[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:
This is the end of the story. This is about you - if you’re enjoying the challenge then continue. Otherwise, you’re just wasting your time and energy or something not worth it. [/quote]
Yeah but if she calls and says something crazy or I see her out some where I will update the thread.

Cortes · September 9, 2012, 3:34am

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Oh, and you’re not even trying to hide your identity anymore, eh?[/quote]

Seriously. When you make it this easy to figure out who you are, why do you bother changing handles so often?

CargoCapable · September 9, 2012, 3:43am

@chushin:

In context it certainly is.

@ cortes:

I don’t understand.

@ everybody, no smoking.

Cortes · September 9, 2012, 4:05am

Cleaning up trash in Houston?

I understand quite well.

CargoCapable · September 9, 2012, 4:09am

I dont understand.

Aren’t you from Dallas originally?

Cortes · September 9, 2012, 4:11am

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
I dont understand.

Aren’t you from Dallas originally?[/quote]

Laredo, later D/FW.

Why do you know?

CargoCapable · September 9, 2012, 4:14am

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
I dont understand.

Aren’t you from Dallas originally?[/quote]

Laredo, later D/FW.

Why do you know? [/quote]
Evidently I didn’t. Probably lurking a pwi thread or something.

Cortes · September 9, 2012, 4:33am

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
I dont understand.

Aren’t you from Dallas originally?[/quote]

Laredo, later D/FW.

Why do you know? [/quote]
Evidently I didn’t. Probably lurking a pwi thread or something.[/quote]

Ok. Well, have fun in Houston, guy.

on_edge · September 9, 2012, 4:41am

CC, You’re not still acting like your not HG are you? I got the impression you threw in the towel on that and gave up the pretense.

Anyway, so why aren’t you posting as HG anymore? Clearly you didn’t get booted or the mods would have stepped in and nixed this ID too. So what’s the deal?

CargoCapable · September 9, 2012, 4:46am

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
I dont understand.

Aren’t you from Dallas originally?[/quote]

Laredo, later D/FW.

Why do you know? [/quote]
Evidently I didn’t. Probably lurking a pwi thread or something.[/quote]

Ok. Well, have fun in Houston, guy.
[/quote]
Will do dude. I like it here.

orion · September 9, 2012, 9:09pm

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
I dont understand.

Aren’t you from Dallas originally?[/quote]

Laredo, later D/FW.

Why do you know? [/quote]
Evidently I didn’t. Probably lurking a pwi thread or something.[/quote]

Ok. Well, have fun in Houston, guy.
[/quote]

Surely there are a lot of guys in Houston.

For the next handle I suggest Texasdude.

Cortes · September 10, 2012, 3:37am

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:

[quote]Cortes wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
I dont understand.

Aren’t you from Dallas originally?[/quote]

Laredo, later D/FW.

Why do you know? [/quote]
Evidently I didn’t. Probably lurking a pwi thread or something.[/quote]

Ok. Well, have fun in Houston, guy.
[/quote]

Surely there are a lot of guys in Houston.

For the next handle I suggest Texasdude.[/quote]

Heh.

CargoCapable · September 17, 2012, 1:26am

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
@ pangloss:

In a dating/relationship scenario (never an interest) she would order for you. Dress you, direct your life in general.

Sexually I have no idea what her whole sexuality encompasses but I’d say we were in between your examples. I was not tied up and totally helpless and while she was “responsible” for her own orgasm, she was responsible for mine too and as mentioned it wasn’t a tease and denial, prolong the pleasure thing. It was a power trip for her to refuse activity leading to mine. Ultimately I got off but I would bet her “boyfriends” eventually lose that “privilege”. It was highly irritating.

@ Frankie:

she was hot, the sex was frustrating as mentioned but ultimately ended well. There won’t be a repeat and a relationship was never considered.[/quote]

How big is she? Maybe I’m not able to generalize beyond my own experience, but all of the men I’ve slept with have had a considerable strength advantage over me. I may, and often do, start out in the role of aggressor or tease, but at some point generally the dominant option is removed if I’m teasing or lingering too long. Or talking! Sometimes that happens. lol

Couldn’t you just…take over, and get off when you were ready?
[/quote]
Petite. And yes, I could but again this wasn’t a tease and denial scenario. Legitimate “no” lines would’ve been crossed. Maybe she’s in to the rape fantasy (i’m not) and missed it but considering her relationship parameters I doubt it.

Whatever her issue is, it did not settle my ennui ;)[/quote]

So, are you saying that in the middle of it, if she declared “oh no, you’re not doing that right now,” or however she verbalized her control, and you said “oh yes I am,” she would have removed her consent and declared the situation nonconsensual?

I can only imagine that this would, if anything, worsen one’s ennui. It would mine, if I had both random hookups and a general sense of dissatisfaction with life. But of course these two things feed one another, so I don’t have either one. :)[/quote]
In paragraph one, yes, exactly.

I disagree random sex creates dissatisfaction in life however, it merely satisfies a natural urge. Unless you encounter a highly irritating personality clash.[/quote]

I’m not suggesting that it creates dissatisfaction, but rather that it does nothing to create satisfaction. Random sex itself is neutral, however the pursuit of it requires a focus of energy in a direction that does not increase emotional well being. It’s a masturbatory exercise to some extent.[/quote]

Yep, I’m in love alright![/quote]
Does your wife read your comments and if she did, would previous conversations cut out of existence in a certain forum be advantageously missing from an inappropriate fraternization standpoint?

Steak and clouds are pretty benign, yes?

CargoCapable · September 17, 2012, 2:30am