[quote]super saiyan wrote:
My wife has none. Same goes for me and female friends. Others can do what they want, that’s just the way we like it. [/quote]
Your wife is Latino. Culture makes a difference here.
You likely risk life and limb talking to female clients and co-workers, let alone any one woman you could call a “friend”.
The fact women post on the internet may put you in danger, from what I understand.
+derek knows what I’m sayin…
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Lol only female friends I have is the wife’s friends. Only male friends she has our my friends.
Safer that way
so my dick does not end up in a field and I get is sewn back on all crooked and shit
Friendships require significant time, energy, and emotional investments. A wife should not be interested in spending ANY significant amount of those very finite resources with any man but her husband. It isn’t about “well maybe she’ll fuck him/he definitely wants to fuck her” even if the second part of that is true 99% of the time. It’s that she shouldn’t want to give that much of herself to another man.
Really, spending too much time and energy, and investing too much emotion in a same-sex friendship (or really anything, like sports teams for example) can be just as bad in that it detracts from the marriage. Personal resource allocation is the issue here, not strictly fidelity.
[quote]MattyXL wrote:
I have learned the hard way not too have close friends of the opposite sex. My wife is Latina as well, she does not tolerate it well at all, I have felt her wrath, I am not ashamed to say I was terrified. I do sometimes wonder if my wife was in a different profession (she is a middle school teacher) if she would have male friends say in a corporate setting and how I would feel if she was going to happy hour with her “buddies” from work. I am generally not very jealous but haven’t really been tested either.
Truth be told, any woman I considered a friend at one point or another I have also thought about fucking too…not saying I would, just saying its fun to think about.
Edit
When we were first married, she did have a lifelong male friend she had went to grade school with that was incarcerated, that would call her from jail, that ended pretty quickly as I know if I was that guy in jail I probably would jack off to any female voice.[/quote]
Me, you and SS need to create a support group for men married to Latina women.
You never know, someday we may have to get a fund for that surgery
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
Friendships require significant time, energy, and emotional investments. A wife should not be interested in spending ANY significant amount of those very finite resources with any man but her husband. It isn’t about “well maybe she’ll fuck him/he definitely wants to fuck her” even if the second part of that is true 99% of the time. It’s that she shouldn’t want to give that much of herself to another man.
Really, spending too much time and energy, and investing too much emotion in a same-sex friendship (or really anything, like sports teams for example) can be just as bad in that it detracts from the marriage. Personal resource allocation is the issue here, not strictly fidelity.[/quote]
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
Friendships require significant time, energy, and emotional investments. A wife should not be interested in spending ANY significant amount of those very finite resources with any man but her husband. It isn’t about “well maybe she’ll fuck him/he definitely wants to fuck her” even if the second part of that is true 99% of the time. It’s that she shouldn’t want to give that much of herself to another man.
Really, spending too much time and energy, and investing too much emotion in a same-sex friendship (or really anything, like sports teams for example) can be just as bad in that it detracts from the marriage. Personal resource allocation is the issue here, not strictly fidelity.[/quote]
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
Friendships require significant time, energy, and emotional investments. A wife should not be interested in spending ANY significant amount of those very finite resources with any man but her husband. It isn’t about “well maybe she’ll fuck him/he definitely wants to fuck her” even if the second part of that is true 99% of the time. It’s that she shouldn’t want to give that much of herself to another man.
Really, spending too much time and energy, and investing too much emotion in a same-sex friendship (or really anything, like sports teams for example) can be just as bad in that it detracts from the marriage. Personal resource allocation is the issue here, not strictly fidelity.[/quote]
I’m the jealous type through and through. If my wife had a dude for a best buddy I would be pissed. I don’t even like her kissing friends husbands on new years eve lol. I know she wouldn’t fuck any of them but it still makes me edgy. As long as you don’t get all neurotic about it a little jealousy is ok. Being indifferent would be worse.
It’s funny though, she is more comfortable standing around a pickup truck in the driveway drinking beer shooting the shit with my guy friends than with the same friends wive’s in the house talking shit. She’s a peach.
The levels of sexism and insecurity in this thread are ridiculous. I’ll let the comments about ‘no man is friends with a girl with no intentions behind it’ slide since that may be the case for some - but if you’re worried about her responding to these guys, you either picked the wrong woman or it’s in your head and you really really need to check yourself. Fuck, I’ve dated girls who were friends with their exes - if anything, it showed me that she could handle past breakups with decency.
Also: if she wants to start an affair with someone, you being an insecure little boy expecting her not to hang out with people who have the same junk as you won’t stop or prevent it. Co-workers, people.
[quote]MattyXL wrote:
I have learned the hard way not too have close friends of the opposite sex. My wife is Latina as well, she does not tolerate it well at all, I have felt her wrath, I am not ashamed to say I was terrified. I do sometimes wonder if my wife was in a different profession (she is a middle school teacher) if she would have male friends say in a corporate setting and how I would feel if she was going to happy hour with her “buddies” from work. I am generally not very jealous but haven’t really been tested either.
Truth be told, any woman I considered a friend at one point or another I have also thought about fucking too…not saying I would, just saying its fun to think about.
Edit
When we were first married, she did have a lifelong male friend she had went to grade school with that was incarcerated, that would call her from jail, that ended pretty quickly as I know if I was that guy in jail I probably would jack off to any female voice.[/quote]
Me, you and SS need to create a support group for men married to Latina women.
You never know, someday we may have to get a fund for that surgery[/quote]
This sounds like a great idea, I need to know Im not alone
There has to be a clear delineation between Girlfriends and Wives. There is too much invested or should be too much time invested in husband wife relationship then, for the most part BF GF relationships. A girlfriend of a couple years does not IMO have the same importance then a wife in my case for over a decade. If she started to have a pal that was a guy, it would be out of the ordinary, peculiar and alarming. This has nothing to do with jealousy, or being a little boy it has to do with wondering why my wife is obtaining or seeking male companionship from someone other than me.
I have made the mistake of having friends that were girls, when I was married, it was a very bad choice, it made my wife uncomfortable (and scary) and while we would all like to think that it shouldn’t matter we are human beings and even the most confident in themselves person may be uncomfortable with situations like this, and if you know it makes your significant other uncomfortable you should respect that and end whatever relationship there is, if you don’t maybe there is a deeper rooted problem.
There seems to be a lack of understanding in this thread.
Men are made to be confrontational in nature. If a man is not, I find him suspect (read: he is passive-aggressive).
There is a difference between not trusting and being jealous.
There is a difference between not trusting and wanting respect from your SO.
One, if a man is confrontational I see no issue with this. If he can’t control himself and goes crazy, that is an issue. But, merely confronting and getting in a fight (or, being aggressive) is inherent to maleness. We’re made to protect and provide.
Two, if a man is flirting/hitting on your SO, and you confront him about it. That is a healthy romantic relationship with your SO, and if you say your SO should handle it…yes, that is great that she can handle it, but do you lack the back bone to stick up for your SO? Again, if you break a bottle over the dude’s head because he bought your wife a drink…might want to go see a shrink. But, if you get in a fight with your SO because of a dudes actions, even though she acted above reproach…that’s not a healthy romantic relationship. You have trust issues to figure out and probably should not be dating her. If she didn’t act above reproach, egged on the other man’s behavior…that is on her and getting upset about it again is not unhealthy.
Three, if your SO insists on spending time one-on-one with the opposite sex and investing in them, there is an issue. If your SO is investing in them, then it doesn’t seem like she is committed to you. Why would she put effort into a relationship that should end when you get married? If your SO is serious about your relationship, meaning that you’re discerning if you should get married, then she should be investing in you not other relationships that are going to lead to a dead end (read, with the opposite sex). [/quote]
If there is so little trust in your relationship that you think you partner is going to fuck any guys that she is friends with then you have a really shitty relationship as it is.
[quote]nighthawkz wrote:
The levels of sexism and insecurity in this thread are ridiculous. I’ll let the comments about ‘no man is friends with a girl with no intentions behind it’ slide since that may be the case for some - but if you’re worried about her responding to these guys, you either picked the wrong woman or it’s in your head and you really really need to check yourself. Fuck, I’ve dated girls who were friends with their exes - if anything, it showed me that she could handle past breakups with decency.
Also: if she wants to start an affair with someone, you being an insecure little boy expecting her not to hang out with people who have the same junk as you won’t stop or prevent it. Co-workers, people.[/quote]
Exactly, so by your logic…I shouldn’t date women that will invest in other dudes besides me if we’re seriously dating…thanks for making my point.
[quote]EClay wrote:
If there is so little trust in your relationship that you think you partner is going to fuck any guys that she is friends with then you have a really shitty relationship as it is.[/quote]
[quote]EClay wrote:
If there is so little trust in your relationship that you think you partner is going to fuck any guys that she is friends with then you have a really shitty relationship as it is.[/quote]
Lol @ the lack of reading comprehension in this thread.
I’m not sure anyone else really brought this up yet. I think this is the video posted in a thread last year on this site. Bottom line you can’t be friends, so being married makes that conclusion even stronger.
