I’d consider the income a foregone conclusion. You’re very likely going to be a good earner, and as others have said, its not that expensive.
Its all the other stuff that comes into play.
Bearing in mind the Richard “The Iceman” Kuklinski was by all accounts a good and loving father.
When I’m 43, one of my children will be older than I was when she was born.
Well I am on strike two - no kids from strike one.
My brother is 64 this year, my mother will be 85. She was twenty four when she had me, I am the last of three. She graduated from college pregnant (and married) with my oldest brother. Philosophy degree, Miss Sunnyvale.
My sister in law was a grandmother at 36, her mother was a great grandmother at 54. Long Island Sicilians. She had three kids, and they are all some sort of struggling.
My son will turn eighteen at the end of May, I will turn 61 at the beginning of September, and my daughter will turn 21 five days later.
I regret not having kids younger, but, I did not make the mistakes my parents made and my kids are way more settled than I was. I was fit enough to play with my kids, but my daughter played team sports and my son drifted into intellectual stuff. He was about eight when he told me that we are all dying, some of us are just on a different schedule.
I am glad I had my kids when I was older. I had greater wisdom to raise them, and they have done well.
I had my son at 40.
My younger years were nuts, so kids were a no-go. I had the idea that I should be 10 years sober before having kids, so that put me at 40.
I also wanted to be established in a marriage and have a home of our own to bring him in to, all of which happened.
I’d love to have the energy and health of my 20’s, and the life experiences of my 40’s too, but that just isn’t reasonable.
He’s a good kid. He’ll have a much better start on life than I could have ever imagined.
I have a neice and nephew who are older than me.