Do Men Look at Porn?

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[quote]orion wrote:
Seriously, this is a major power play to make her the only source of sexual release and if you let that happoen she will start manipulating you through at best uninspired and lifeless sex.

You dont have to be a dick about it, but I would make very, very, very clear that is totally up to you when, how and to what you wrangle your very own snake.

I was once told that a man who really cares for a woman does not look at other women, he does not even see them as sexual beings.

I said: What !?! [/quote]

More gold from orion.

OP - your wife is awfully naive, but she’s not alone in that either. I recall one MTV show (!) where the wife kicked the husband out and into porn addiction rehab (?) and they had already four kids together.

So I guess all I’m saying is, it could be worse…

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[quote]orion wrote:
move to Indonesia and marry a 19 year old. [/quote]

I might just spare myself the hassle and do this anyways.

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[quote]RynoSmash wrote:
See, that’s what I have said to her repeatedly. But, she kind of has me by the balls, because I had promised her that I wouldn’t look any more to get her to stop yelling at me.

I typically use private browsing. But I slipped up a few times, and she promptly called me out on it. [/quote]

Thus, this means she checks frequently. May I suggest counseling?

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My current GF hates it. Made a habbit of clearing history.

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Dude porn with women can be a tricky thing. Thats why it is best for these things to come up before getting married. You promised her that you wouldn’t look at porn. (I understand why). She feels like it’s cheating. You went back on a promise. You’re in deep shit right now, and I would start by being honest with your wife and try and talk to her about what’s going on. She might become down to watch it with you. But, if you love your wife and want to have a happy marriage, I suggest you quit looking at porn for a while and talk to her about this. Women are fucking crazy sometimes and I have heard shit like this working it’s way towards bigger problems.

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So porn is cheating and looking at women shouldn’t even cross your mind?

Since when did women have a say in the biological tick of a man?

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Tell her to put out more, and you wouldnt need to be looking at porn.

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I am not saying that all. Maybe I worded it wrong? His wife thinks it’s like cheating. She might be insecure, I don’t know? He promised to not do it, then did it. He either needs to not look at porn, talk to her and in a way she understands ( and changes her mind), look at pron with her. They are married and this is coming up. This can turn into a big problem and I don’t think he should just blow it off if he wants a happy relationship.

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Or op could just show his wife what he has seen while watching porn and piihb

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Yeah, but you still have to navigate the “do you think she’s prettier/hotter/sexier than me?” question. And depending on how you answer, then deal with the “but she’s such a slut! how could you like that?” line of questioning.

But you’ll always lose if you actually try to explain it.

So you’re better off just taking her right then, showing her that you want her, and using her hormonal response to shut her up about it for the time being.

Because the real question is always “but you still want me, right?” And as long as she never questions that, you’re pretty much in the clear.

(This applies to porn and strip clubs – where it’s really just in your head – not actually cheating. Unless you’re dating a porn star or a stripper, and then I’m really not sure what to do.)

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[quote]mbdix wrote:
Dude porn with women can be a tricky thing. Thats why it is best for these things to come up before getting married. You promised her that you wouldn’t look at porn. (I understand why). She feels like it’s cheating. You went back on a promise. You’re in deep shit right now, and I would start by being honest with your wife and try and talk to her about what’s going on. She might become down to watch it with you. But, if you love your wife and want to have a happy marriage, I suggest you quit looking at porn for a while and talk to her about this. Women are fucking crazy ALL THE TIME and I have heard shit like this working it’s way towards bigger problems. [/quote]
fixed

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[quote]LoRez wrote:
Yeah, but you still have to navigate the “do you think she’s prettier/hotter/sexier than me?” question. And depending on how you answer, then deal with the “but she’s such a slut! how could you like that?” line of questioning.

But you’ll always lose if you actually try to explain it.

So you’re better off just taking her right then, showing her that you want her, and using her hormonal response to shut her up about it for the time being.

Because the real question is always “but you still want me, right?” And as long as she never questions that, you’re pretty much in the clear.

(This applies to porn and strip clubs – where it’s really just in your head – not actually cheating. Unless you’re dating a porn star or a stripper, and then I’m really not sure what to do.)[/quote]

This does work too. But, it’s a bandaid

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]mbdix wrote:
Dude porn with women can be a tricky thing. Thats why it is best for these things to come up before getting married. You promised her that you wouldn’t look at porn. (I understand why). She feels like it’s cheating. You went back on a promise. You’re in deep shit right now, and I would start by being honest with your wife and try and talk to her about what’s going on. She might become down to watch it with you. But, if you love your wife and want to have a happy marriage, I suggest you quit looking at porn for a while and talk to her about this. Women are fucking crazy ALL THE TIME and I have heard shit like this working it’s way towards bigger problems. [/quote]
fixed[/quote]

You are correct with that correction. LOL. Fucking crazy.

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[quote]LoRez wrote:
Unless you’re dating a porn star or a stripper, and then I’m really not sure what to do.)[/quote]

Those types are typically comfortable with their sexuality and are likely to be genuinely interested in the types of girls you like to look at. Also, experience has taught them not to overthink the male mind.

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[quote]polo77j wrote:
I am married

I peruse adult websites

Sometimes occasionally

I am not, nor does my wife think I am, a sexual deviant

Sometimes we look at porn together[/quote]

Oh, for the love of god… THIS.

I am laying beside my wife with TN on my browser at this very moment… along with a few-ish porn blogs right along side of it.

My wife reads chick-lit. Her books contain some shit that’s more deviant than what i’m looking at and it’s AWESOME.

I hide NOTHING.

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[quote]mbdix wrote:

[quote]LoRez wrote:
Yeah, but you still have to navigate the “do you think she’s prettier/hotter/sexier than me?” question. And depending on how you answer, then deal with the “but she’s such a slut! how could you like that?” line of questioning.

But you’ll always lose if you actually try to explain it.

So you’re better off just taking her right then, showing her that you want her, and using her hormonal response to shut her up about it for the time being.

Because the real question is always “but you still want me, right?” And as long as she never questions that, you’re pretty much in the clear.

(This applies to porn and strip clubs – where it’s really just in your head – not actually cheating. Unless you’re dating a porn star or a stripper, and then I’m really not sure what to do.)[/quote]

This does work too. But, it’s a bandaid[/quote]

It is. It’s a step in the right direction though.

Ultimately though, it’s imperative that she understand that you want her, that you’re not going to leave her, that you’re not going to cheat on her.

I’ve not met a single reasonably sane girl who really “gets” what porn does to men. I had some fun times going through some of the gallery sites with an ex though. There was a lot of “I think she’s hot” “really, why?” from both her and me. Now, it kills the mood of looking at porn, but it did make for some rather enjoyable evenings. And more importantly, she got a better idea of how guys see this.

“I thought you liked brunettes” “I do”
“But she’s a blonde” “So? She has nice legs”
“Huh.”

“So what about this girl, she has nice legs” “Eh.”
“You don’t like her?” “Not really. I mean, she’s got a nice smile, but eh.”
“Huh.”

I think a lot of women have this idea that men have an idealized image of what a perfect girl looks like, and they feel like they need to live up to it. When she starts to see that your preferences are really all over the board, and not even consistent day-to-day, it seems to help things go smoother. Because she’ll actually have some context for understanding how much you like her for being her. Especially if you consistently SHOW her that you like her, and want just her.

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some very Beta responses in here lol

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[quote]gregron wrote:
some very Beta responses in here lol[/quote]
I agree. I don’t get why non single guys lose their balls… Assuming they had them.

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Ok, i’m back.

Sorry… I was just looking at some TITS, ASS, and PENETRATION OF VAGINA.

Ah… life is good.

BRB!!

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LMMFAO!!!

I can’t believe that on TESTOSTERONE NATION, this thread got to the second page before someone wrote PIIHB.

What has my beloved site come to?

God I miss the good old days of SAMA… Me, Lew, BG, Push and Cowboy would have given OP a program to put his wife on that would have her back in line in no time…

At the very least one us would have written several paragraphs of entertaining and inspirational material.

But these things are no longer appropriate on TESTOSTERONE NATION. So out of respect to ESTRO… er, TESTOSTERONE NATION’S new cleaner vision of itself, I’ll refrain.

I will say this though: OP, for the love of all that is holy, PIIHB!!!

It’s YOUR penis. Do with it what you will. If she has a problem with it, trade her insecure ass in. And grow a set of balls, OP - don’t lie to your wife just to shut her up, that’s just kicking the can down the road. If it’s an issue she just can’t get over, trade her in for a newer, younger, more secure model. Preferably before you have kids with her.