Several posts ago you wrote about the prospect of a woman loving you for who you are. Now love doesn’t exist. This is incongruent.
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We can choose to over-ride the primal brain but most don’t.
All women are like this?
Not all but a LOT are. And I sure as hell don’t want to have to put up with any of that BS. End of. Period. Don’t like what I wear, eat, or decorate? Then you can hit the fucking highway.
So you went from wanting a woman to not wanting in a span of a day?
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It’s a love hate relationship. Like I said, we are constantly trying to fight our primal brain and it takes effort. A LOT of it. I never said “I want one NOW” did I?
I was able to get so much accomplished these last 5 years just ignoring it entirely.
If you can get through your 20’s only getting laid a handful of times and accomplishing MOST of your goals, you are a superior being in my opinion. You are driven and can ignore the lesser impulses.
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Who is we?
Many men love and respect our women, or at least like them generally; we’re not fighting off some urge to be with them.
There are women I’ve admired and I respect the role women have in society, despite making some unflattering remarks about them generally, specifically about anti-social female behavior that affects us as a whole.
How does that square for wealthy men I know or am friends with who were with women for the majority or all of their 20s?
They also weren’t acting on impulses with their women. Who behaves like this?
Yes, lifting does build confidence (which is totally awesome), but this^ quote is 1000% spot on. Nailed it @cdep89, and I concur.
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There’s no RIGHT way to do it. Only what works for you. If your wealthy and have a woman, good for you. There’s no meaning to any of this. It’s just a blank canvas with non-existence the final destination for us all.
if you perfer Jacking off, starting a business, and saving money, more power to you.
Btw, that’s ok if you want to do that but it can backfire.
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There are men who had good women in their lives in their younger years who left them because these men stalled and stalled, and such types of women never reappeared later in life.
I vividly remember my now-retired therapist telling me he had men aged 35 and up crying in his office because of such stalling.
And the older people get, the more damage, rigidity, anchors, and obligations they accumulate. That doesn’t make it easy to meet baggage-free people in their most attractive years.
There’s a trope in which some men believe they’re going to build wealth, buy expensive toys, lift weights, pamper themselves, and emerge as a silver fox with beautiful, young, baggage-free prospects. Some men can pull this off. Most can’t.
I’m not saying you do or will fit the above. I’m talking generally.
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Love doesn’t exist. Soul-mates don’t exist.
It might not exist on a chemical level, but the feeling is real and definitely exists. That’s enough for me to say it exists.
You’re very wrong here. Love is absolutely real, you just haven’t experienced it yet. Ask any parent if love is real.
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Yeah, most of my generation definitely feel the need to get approval from Google/Reddit/etc before doing anything. Tbf, it’s tempting when you have millions of voices at your disposal in your phone.
I rank that as a very minor contributor, though. Bigger ones, at least IMO:
- Online dating replacing in-person dating. Guys I know who did amazingly well in-person did much worse online.
- Less spaces outside of bars/clubs/college campuses where approaching someone with romantic/sexual intent is deemed normal
- General increase of internet-caused social awkwardess/anxiety. Best described as “internet-induced autism” haha. (Link in quotes)
- Most people grew up watching their parents’ dysfunctional relationships and divorce. This seems to be the norm now.
- Less jobs than ever give men a middle-class lifestyle. Only a couple of degrees matter at this point.
- And even then, you can’t graduate and truly start life until 25 or possibly later. This often causes guys to stay in “boyfriend mode” perpetually.
- Divorce rape/alimony/child support making most guys scared of marriage
- A normal lifestyle nowadays makes guys end up obese or small but skinny fat. The average guy is not good looking at all haha. So I don’t blame girls for being picky.
- Girls have their own money, so why settle for a middle-class guy? The main thing most guys had was the ability to provide, and now that’s gone.
- Many guys feel like they’re walking on eggshells when talking to women/flirting. This has basically cut a lot of young guys’ charm/charisma by like 90% haha.
I can go on, but it seems to be a shit show. I escaped all of this via sheer luck, so I have no clue what to say when I have a son haha.
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A nice coffee is like $5.
The fact that you need to hemorrhage money to make people want to be around you is both telling and completely unsurprising.
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