[quote]Derek542 wrote:
Your so cute PP
Being married into a Latino family with my children being half I can agree with this post by PP[/quote]
Level with us, the wife is standing behind you with a phonebook isn’t she?
[quote]Testy1 wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
Your so cute PP
Being married into a Latino family with my children being half I can agree with this post by PP[/quote]
Level with us, the wife is standing behind you with a phonebook isn’t she?[/quote]
Uh I cant remember now.
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Testy1 wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
Your so cute PP
Being married into a Latino family with my children being half I can agree with this post by PP[/quote]
Level with us, the wife is standing behind you with a phonebook isn’t she?[/quote]
Uh I cant remember now.
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blunt trauma will do that…
Plus, nowadays they use PET bottles.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Testy1 wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
Your so cute PP
Being married into a Latino family with my children being half I can agree with this post by PP[/quote]
Level with us, the wife is standing behind you with a phonebook isn’t she?[/quote]
Uh I cant remember now.
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blunt trauma will do that…
Plus, nowadays they use PET bottles.[/quote]
Testy knows my wife prefers phone books.
Grow up. Get a job. Stop complaining. Stop blaming others. Stop thinking you are ‘too good’ for a ‘dead end job’ just to ‘pay for your rent’. Stop convincing yourself that you are in fact not in control of your own life. Realize that everything you have right now is the result of your thoughts and your actions. Take responsibility and take action to fix your circumstance. Complaining does not fix it nor does it change it. Blaming others does not either. You are CHOOSING to live with your parents. You are choosing to not get a job which you think is beneath you due to your degree(you are 24 with no real work history, you are not as valuable as an employee to employers as you may think currently).
Nobody is going to fix your circumstance nor is anyone saying you have to accept it. What you do have to do is accept that only you can change your situation. This is not my opinion so it doesn’t matter if you do not agree. This is a fact. Until you change either your actions or thoughts(preferably both) nothing in your life will change.
[quote]Waittz wrote:
Grow up. Get a job. Stop complaining. Stop blaming others. Stop thinking you are ‘too good’ for a ‘dead end job’ just to ‘pay for your rent’. Stop convincing yourself that you are in fact not in control of your own life. Realize that everything you have right now is the result of your thoughts and your actions. Take responsibility and take action to fix your circumstance. Complaining does not fix it nor does it change it. Blaming others does not either. You are CHOOSING to live with your parents. You are choosing to not get a job which you think is beneath you due to your degree(you are 24 with no real work history, you are not as valuable as an employee to employers as you may think currently).
Nobody is going to fix your circumstance nor is anyone saying you have to accept it. What you do have to do is accept that only you can change your situation. This is not my opinion so it doesn’t matter if you do not agree. This is a fact. Until you change either your actions or thoughts(preferably both) nothing in your life will change. [/quote]
He should sue his parents, they owe him…
[quote]Aero51 wrote:
My favorite and easiest example: I just got out of school and am looking for a job. I moved back in with my parents to save rent money. Rent is at least $700(no food or utilities) for a garbage place. I have already taken out an extra 10k in student loans, under my name, to avoid going home months ago. The average unemployment is duration is 6 months, so figure I would lose at least $4200 before I land a job if I am lucky. I worked at wall mart over the summer to supplement my income working 30 hours a week taking home no more than 1200 a month. By the end of the month I had no spending money. I could spend those hours looking for a real job. Bug according to some people “building character” is more important than making a real living.
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First off, Waittz, I agree 100%.
This tells me everything I need to know. OP, if rent is 700/mo, 1200/mo is enough to live on in the short term. What do you need spending money for? You just need to keep going, even if it is just subsistence, until you find a better opportunity.
You just got out of school. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t have a friend you can room with. Jobs aren’t that hard to find if you’re willing to pick something “beneath” you. In fact, now’s probably a great time to find a job as a laborer. I got a job as a laborer in 5 min a couple years back and the pay was great. You’re not a student anymore, so they’ll love you even more because you won’t quit come September.
Let me tell you a little story:
I’m 24 too. When I was 19, my relationship with my parents was pretty poor. I was told to leave and I did gladly. I became a father at the young age of 20. I worked 2 jobs for awhile. I remember at one point I had to get up at 5 and didn’t get back to the apartment til 8 because of the long commute. We had barely any spending money, furniture, clothes, etc. Hell, there were a number of weeks where we had to get pretty creative with the grocery bill to make ends meet, since I was supporting 3 people on one income from dead end jobs. But we never went into debt. I always came through and did what I had to do to keep us afloat.
I’m not trying to say I’ve lived a harder life than you or anything like that, but rather trying to make the following point: life’s hard sometimes, but if it matters to you enough, nothing can suppress an indomitable will. Only you can bring yourself down.
And don’t disparage character development. It’s truly an amazing thing that you won’t see until it changes your world for the better. I never thought of having a child so young as a blessing, but now I realize just how shortsighted I was, and how differently I see the world now. I can truly say I was and continue to be enriched by the experience.
Good luck.
I’m sure you didn’t like my long post from page 2 that was echoing a lot of other peoples’ sentiments.
Listen, it’s a fucked up situation. I and most other people have mentioned that over and over again. (you seem to miss those parts, but they’re mostly short, so I’m not surprised)
We’ll tell you the truth because we care (at least that’s me). What good would coddling do you?
I get why you’re upset. I’d be upset in your situation, too.
Being upset to the point where you plainly say that your parents are fucked up is too much. That one statement alone tells us more than most of the rest of your post or any other of your explanations that aren’t doing a good job changing how you look here.
So if you want someone to sit next to you, give you a shoulder to cry on, and say “there there, you’ll be ok” then fine. I’m sure that would help and we’re all emotional creatures (some more than others). If you have a close friend, open up to them. Talk about it with them. You’ll feel better afterward. Then you can start doing something about it instead of bitching and moaning and blaming everyone else but the man in the mirror.
So many people have made so many good points. Everything you need to hear has been said over and over by now.
The issue is that we’re just anonymous internet people who come together mainly because of a mutual love of bettering ourselves, physically. You should already know we’d be geared towards telling you what you need to hear. To me that means we respect you. If I didn’t give a damn, I’d tell you what you want to hear and reinforce your pity party that isn’t going to get you anywhere at the end of the day.
[quote]IamMarqaos wrote:
At 24 you are still a kid?
No.
You can vent, you can bitch and complain but what you can’t do is disrespect your parents in a case where they are dealing with things utterly beyond their control. His mother has dementia, something she didn’t sign up and for and he describes her as fucked up. His father, who has lived with his wife deteriorating for years has cracked under the pressure and he describes him as nuts.
The OP is in a bad spot but I’d feel a lot more sympathy if some love and understanding would have shone through in his post.
Yes, changing his mom’s diapers isn’t something he signed up for either but he seems quite incapable of seeing things from his parents’ perspective. They live it every moment of every day. In the moments she is lucid she is faced with the horror of losing her mind and her husband has to stand on the side lines and see it fucking happen day in day out knowing full well that nothing he does is going to make it go away.
You didn’t ask for my opinion and from your response I gather that you don’t care either but quite frankly, you need to man the fuck up. They are your parents. And while it sucks they need your help, the right thing to do is be there for them and not to disrespect them. And another thing, do it with love and let that shine through and you are going to get laid more often than you can imagine. Women love a giver, a care taker. Right now you don’t come across too well.
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Good post, Marq