OP how many girls have blown you off for dates? maybe you say wrong things or you don’t take charge of date plans well. did you meet them in college? college girls have their head up their ass.
-try bars (start by dancing with them)
-or online be cool and they will jump on your dick
Do not wear tight shirts. Wear a shirt that fits correctly. Not all baggy like the hip hop crowd, and not skin tight like a douche.
[quote]HolyMacaroni wrote:
[quote]theBeth wrote:
I don’t really have any advice since I don’t know you or your foibles but here’s my take. I won’t date a man I don’t know. I don’t date men I meet when I go out. If I give someone my number it’s usually because I’m drunk and I don’t mean it. And I don’t answer the calls or texts after. I don’t date dudes at the gym. I’m an utter failure at relationships when I do have them.
That being said, the most attractive quality in a man is absolute confidence. Fake it until you feel it. Carry yourself like you have it. Evaluate your internal values and stick to what’s important to you with unwavering fortitude. That’s the filter that will protect you from the cunts with BPD. Trust me, not dating is better than the alternative sometimes.
I have an awful lot of hobbies and have found that to be a good way to meet people. Also, church. But only if you mean it.[/quote]
are you attractive? if you’re gross I doubt anyone honestly cares[/quote]
Yeah you got me. I’m fairly gross.
[quote]HolyMacaroni wrote:
[quote]theBeth wrote:
I don’t really have any advice since I don’t know you or your foibles but here’s my take. I won’t date a man I don’t know. I don’t date men I meet when I go out. If I give someone my number it’s usually because I’m drunk and I don’t mean it. And I don’t answer the calls or texts after. I don’t date dudes at the gym. I’m an utter failure at relationships when I do have them.
That being said, the most attractive quality in a man is absolute confidence. Fake it until you feel it. Carry yourself like you have it. Evaluate your internal values and stick to what’s important to you with unwavering fortitude. That’s the filter that will protect you from the cunts with BPD. Trust me, not dating is better than the alternative sometimes.
I have an awful lot of hobbies and have found that to be a good way to meet people. Also, church. But only if you mean it.[/quote]
are you attractive? if you’re gross I doubt anyone honestly cares[/quote]
Quite attractive.
[quote]HolyMacaroni wrote:
[quote]theBeth wrote:
I don’t really have any advice since I don’t know you or your foibles but here’s my take. I won’t date a man I don’t know. I don’t date men I meet when I go out. If I give someone my number it’s usually because I’m drunk and I don’t mean it. And I don’t answer the calls or texts after. I don’t date dudes at the gym. I’m an utter failure at relationships when I do have them.
That being said, the most attractive quality in a man is absolute confidence. Fake it until you feel it. Carry yourself like you have it. Evaluate your internal values and stick to what’s important to you with unwavering fortitude. That’s the filter that will protect you from the cunts with BPD. Trust me, not dating is better than the alternative sometimes.
I have an awful lot of hobbies and have found that to be a good way to meet people. Also, church. But only if you mean it.[/quote]
are you attractive? if you’re gross I doubt anyone honestly cares[/quote]
And people on here think I’m a prick? Look at this clown.
[quote]The Other Titan wrote:
[quote]HolyMacaroni wrote:
[quote]theBeth wrote:
I don’t really have any advice since I don’t know you or your foibles but here’s my take. I won’t date a man I don’t know. I don’t date men I meet when I go out. If I give someone my number it’s usually because I’m drunk and I don’t mean it. And I don’t answer the calls or texts after. I don’t date dudes at the gym. I’m an utter failure at relationships when I do have them.
That being said, the most attractive quality in a man is absolute confidence. Fake it until you feel it. Carry yourself like you have it. Evaluate your internal values and stick to what’s important to you with unwavering fortitude. That’s the filter that will protect you from the cunts with BPD. Trust me, not dating is better than the alternative sometimes.
I have an awful lot of hobbies and have found that to be a good way to meet people. Also, church. But only if you mean it.[/quote]
are you attractive? if you’re gross I doubt anyone honestly cares[/quote]
And people on here think I’m a prick? Look at this clown. [/quote]
holymac is a pimp. He plays by a different set of rules
Take tren, they can smell it on you.
[quote]on edge wrote:
It seems like a lot of the advice given boils down to Be Yourself and Be Confident. Well, JSK is 26 years old and has never been on a date. I’m pretty sure he’s not going to have confidence and if he pretends to have confidence he’ll come across as phony. Catch 22.
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Well said. Thanks for understanding.
[quote]
I think our boy needs to try to be genuine without being awkward if at all possible. Of course he’s got to be meeting girls or all the strategizing in the world will be for naught. Hey JS, how about taking up some activities that you’d be likely to meet some chicks? Volleyball league, climbing wall, martial arts, camp counselor, hang out in a TJMax. Heck, my 12 year old and I started going to a table tennis club of all places and there’s a couple chicks there I’d go for if I was under 28 and single.
Oooh, how about get a weekend job as a barista in one of those drive thru kiosks? You’d get to hang out with a couple of hotties all day in close quarters.[/quote]
I will take this advice.
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
Approach (50) girls with the mentality that you are just there to approach and LEARN for the next approach…don’t approach with the goal of getting a date/number…be ready/prepare for failure, this should take some pressure off.
Once the pressure is off you can really be yourself and the rest will fall into place[/quote]
Nice. Takes the pressure off.
[quote]therajraj wrote:
A big thing for you when you approach will be developing a sexual vibe.
A lot of guys when they talk to women simply telegraph nothing more than being a friend offering a polite conversation.
You have to not be afraid to assert your sexual desires upon a woman - through your eyes, body language, flirtatious conversation and touching.
Also the first 50 approaches will be an extremely mental grind for you. You’re going to feel anxiety not only before you approach, but after you will feel pretty mentally drained doing this constantly. Things will be amplified by the harsher rejections.
Just remember, it’s in your best interest to stick through it
[/quote]
This is definitely a big part of it. I am not comfortable being sexual at all. I’m really afraid of coming across creepy or perverted if I do this and end up just being a huge gentleman.
[quote]CircaThursday wrote:
OP how many girls have blown you off for dates? maybe you say wrong things or you don’t take charge of date plans well. did you meet them in college? college girls have their head up their ass.
-try bars (start by dancing with them)
-or online be cool and they will jump on your dick[/quote]
I’ve never really counted. Maybe 25? I’m not sure what it is. Maybe I can hunt down a text exchange and post it on here…lol. No discretion whatsoever.
[quote]jskrabac wrote:
[quote]therajraj wrote:
A big thing for you when you approach will be developing a sexual vibe.
A lot of guys when they talk to women simply telegraph nothing more than being a friend offering a polite conversation.
You have to not be afraid to assert your sexual desires upon a woman - through your eyes, body language, flirtatious conversation and touching.
Also the first 50 approaches will be an extremely mental grind for you. You’re going to feel anxiety not only before you approach, but after you will feel pretty mentally drained doing this constantly. Things will be amplified by the harsher rejections.
Just remember, it’s in your best interest to stick through it
[/quote]
This is definitely a big part of it. I am not comfortable being sexual at all. I’m really afraid of coming across creepy or perverted if I do this and end up just being a huge gentleman. [/quote]
Nice guy =/= gentlemen
A good way to stop being shy is to remind yourself that no one gives a fuck about you and they won’t even remember most of what you say.
[quote]therajraj wrote:
[quote]jskrabac wrote:
[quote]therajraj wrote:
A big thing for you when you approach will be developing a sexual vibe.
A lot of guys when they talk to women simply telegraph nothing more than being a friend offering a polite conversation.
You have to not be afraid to assert your sexual desires upon a woman - through your eyes, body language, flirtatious conversation and touching.
Also the first 50 approaches will be an extremely mental grind for you. You’re going to feel anxiety not only before you approach, but after you will feel pretty mentally drained doing this constantly. Things will be amplified by the harsher rejections.
Just remember, it’s in your best interest to stick through it
[/quote]
This is definitely a big part of it. I am not comfortable being sexual at all. I’m really afraid of coming across creepy or perverted if I do this and end up just being a huge gentleman. [/quote]
Nice guy =/= gentlemen
A good way to stop being shy is to remind yourself that no one gives a fuck about you and they won’t even remember most of what you say.[/quote]
lol
[quote]HolyMacaroni wrote:
[quote]theBeth wrote:
I don’t really have any advice since I don’t know you or your foibles but here’s my take. I won’t date a man I don’t know. I don’t date men I meet when I go out. If I give someone my number it’s usually because I’m drunk and I don’t mean it. And I don’t answer the calls or texts after. I don’t date dudes at the gym. I’m an utter failure at relationships when I do have them.
That being said, the most attractive quality in a man is absolute confidence. Fake it until you feel it. Carry yourself like you have it. Evaluate your internal values and stick to what’s important to you with unwavering fortitude. That’s the filter that will protect you from the cunts with BPD. Trust me, not dating is better than the alternative sometimes.
I have an awful lot of hobbies and have found that to be a good way to meet people. Also, church. But only if you mean it.[/quote]
are you attractive? if you’re gross I doubt anyone honestly cares[/quote]
KABOOM!!! Holymac is back.
she’s a butch lesbian with short hair and thick neck (srsly)
[quote]jskrabac wrote:
[quote]therajraj wrote:
A big thing for you when you approach will be developing a sexual vibe.
A lot of guys when they talk to women simply telegraph nothing more than being a friend offering a polite conversation.
You have to not be afraid to assert your sexual desires upon a woman - through your eyes, body language, flirtatious conversation and touching.
Also the first 50 approaches will be an extremely mental grind for you. You’re going to feel anxiety not only before you approach, but after you will feel pretty mentally drained doing this constantly. Things will be amplified by the harsher rejections.
Just remember, it’s in your best interest to stick through it
[/quote]
This is definitely a big part of it. I am not comfortable being sexual at all. I’m really afraid of coming across creepy or perverted if I do this and end up just being a huge gentleman. [/quote]
dont worry about being sexual until 3rd date. Talk to girls online or friends of friends or at bars. Text them.ask them if they like coffee or frozen yogurt. Take them out. Everything has steps of progression.
I agree with what others have said. Stop using the label of “date”…just pick an activity and ask if she wants to join you. I think the D-word is making you scared. We all have a natural inclination to go out and do something fun like see a movie. Ask if she wants to see it with you. BTW “Gravity” with Sandra Bullock is pretty awesome.
[quote]CircaThursday wrote:
-try bars (start by dancing with them)
[/quote]
dancing is where it’s at:
http://totalfratmove.com/Φkt-member-from-georgia-tech-sends-rapiest-email-ever/
[quote]gtl wrote:
[quote]CircaThursday wrote:
-try bars (start by dancing with them)
[/quote]
dancing is where it’s at:
http://totalfratmove.com/Φkt-member-from-georgia-tech-sends-rapiest-email-ever/[/quote]
Ignore this OP.
This is your typical male-sexuality shaming crap.
It’s just like falling asleep
the harder you try
the less likely it is to happen.
Best advice on dating I ever got was to stop trying.
Stop worrying about it altogether.
Focus on your own life and accomplishing other goals.
Women like men who are ambitious and outgoing.
The more experiences and accomplishments you have under your belt
the more attractive and interesting you will be
as well as having greater confidence from having an incredible life.
In short
Be the person you’d like to have in your life
and then you will have that person in your life
OP, I have seen you post something about texting a few times. I struggled to get any real action giong for myself for a little bit even if I was able to get a girl’s number. I started realizing that my issue was with texting.
In the beginning, it’s fun and you can joke and flirt for a while by sending text messages back and forth but unfortunately it never stays that way. I think girls operate by a word limit or something because even if the conversation is still readily the same, for some reason there is a falloff. It may be you sent 1 text too many or just that your timing was bad but it always unravels.
One of the biggest things I would advise you to do is to keep your texting to a minimum. Get the girls number, CALL her for a date, and then go on the date. If you do have to get involved texting, keep it short like you are busy or something. Leave the joking, flirting, etc for the date. Plus, a benefit of this is you will have quite a few things to talk about in person that you may have already spilled the beans on earlier.
I can abso-fucking-lutely guarantee you that if you happen to notice any of the same habits as I described here happening to you that making the transition will be immediately ratchet up your chances of going out on dates. I speak from experience in the matter