Dating Advice

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K guys next time i talk to her im gonna go for it.

There are just some things that would complicate your suggestions a Little bit:

After getting rejected, never seeing her/talking to her/being friends with her: shes in my scouting Group, which means i see her once a week at least (if i want to or not). Leaving the Scouts aint no Option (been there forever, got a lot of friends there, like the organization) and being pissed off at her all the time would be retarded in my opinion.

Secondly, its gonna be tricky getting to talk to her alone. At our weekly Meetings we are about 10-20 People (all People i know and like) and lets say i cant really imagine dealing with the rejection in front of a lot of my friends.

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Now that i wrote it, i just realized:

my first Point aint really a Problem.

Getting rejected in front of 10-20 People is whats really my concern.

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[quote]Seppl wrote:
K guys next time i talk to her im gonna go for it.

There are just some things that would complicate your suggestions a Little bit:

After getting rejected, never seeing her/talking to her/being friends with her: shes in my scouting Group, which means i see her once a week at least (if i want to or not). Leaving the Scouts aint no Option (been there forever, got a lot of friends there, like the organization) and being pissed off at her all the time would be retarded in my opinion.

Secondly, its gonna be tricky getting to talk to her alone. At our weekly Meetings we are about 10-20 People (all People i know and like) and lets say i cant really imagine dealing with the rejection in front of a lot of my friends. [/quote]

Nobody is telling you to go ask her out in front of the whole world. It is a private matter between you and the young lady, and that is how you should treat it. Be classy.

As for not seeing her…I am sure that you pay her a whole lot of attention. Even if you try not to, it happens. These guys are not telling you that if you get rejected, that you have to run away. What kind of man would you look like if you did that? Just don’t go out of your way to make her a part of your life if she doesn’t want to be part of your life how you want her to be.

If it goes bad, then you just get to make a joke out of it and hit on her relentlessly so that it becomes awkward as hell. Have fun with it.

If she humiliates you, that looks bad on her, not you. You were respectful, remember?

When life is good, it is fun. When it is bad, make it funny.

Worse comes to worse, if you feel like you are that backward and incapable of doing it on your own, just pretend you are John Wayne. Avoid addressing her as ‘pilgrim’ though. She may not understand what that is all about haha.

Be classy, respectful, and timeless. Pick your moment well and then get it done. You have nothing to loose my man.

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[quote]Seppl wrote:

After getting rejected, never seeing her/talking to her/being friends with her [/quote]

why does this have to happen? Even if she does reject you just smile politely and say something witty. Continue to be friendly and just shrug it off

Just because she’s rejected you once doesn’t mean she always will

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[quote] trivium wrote:
Worse comes to worse, if you feel like you are that backward and incapable of doing it on your own, just pretend you are John Wayne. Avoid addressing her as ‘pilgrim’ though.[/quote]

Lol

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[quote]Seppl wrote:

Getting rejected in front of 10-20 People is whats really my concern. [/quote]

Do you have her no/facebook etc? Have you met up with her one on one yet?

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Aaawwww YIIIISSS!!!

Did it. She said yes. Right now thinkin bout some specific things to ask her out to.
My ideas (i know, the obvious ones): Cinema, coffee, going to the park

As before, any suggestions would be appreciated.

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[quote]Seppl wrote:
Aaawwww YIIIISSS!!!

Did it. She said yes. Right now thinkin bout some specific things to ask her out to.
My ideas (i know, the obvious ones): Cinema, coffee, going to the park

As before, any suggestions would be appreciated. [/quote]

Take her to something that you have skill at. Especially if there will be others around who respect you for it. For instance if you are a great surfer, take her surfing and teach her to surf. Make sure some of your friends will happen to be around. It could be anything though; golf, rock climbing, spelunking, anything you’ve got skill and respect.

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[quote]on edge wrote:

[quote]Seppl wrote:
Aaawwww YIIIISSS!!!

Did it. She said yes. Right now thinkin bout some specific things to ask her out to.
My ideas (i know, the obvious ones): Cinema, coffee, going to the park

As before, any suggestions would be appreciated. [/quote]

Take her to something that you have skill at. Especially if there will be others around who respect you for it. For instance if you are a great surfer, take her surfing and teach her to surf. Make sure some of your friends will happen to be around. It could be anything though; golf, rock climbing, spelunking, anything you’ve got skill and respect.[/quote]

Ehhhhh… that could go either way, I knew a guy that on a first date took a girl out to a bar where he knew a lot of people and he was saying hi and introducing her to a lot of people thinking she would be impressed, but she just thought he was a tool for so blatantly trying to impress her rather then get to know her.

Girls find it impressive when you take them to unique places or activities where you can talk and share the experience. Shows that you’re independent in your thinking and value genuine social connections.

If she’s agreed to go on a date with you she’s already impressed with you, now it’s time for you to prove that you just don’t think she’s hot or wanna get in her pants, gotta get to know her.

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[quote]SuperVillian wrote:

[quote]on edge wrote:

[quote]Seppl wrote:
Aaawwww YIIIISSS!!!

Did it. She said yes. Right now thinkin bout some specific things to ask her out to.
My ideas (i know, the obvious ones): Cinema, coffee, going to the park

As before, any suggestions would be appreciated. [/quote]

Take her to something that you have skill at. Especially if there will be others around who respect you for it. For instance if you are a great surfer, take her surfing and teach her to surf. Make sure some of your friends will happen to be around. It could be anything though; golf, rock climbing, spelunking, anything you’ve got skill and respect.[/quote]

Ehhhhh… that could go either way, I knew a guy that on a first date took a girl out to a bar where he knew a lot of people and he was saying hi and introducing her to a lot of people thinking she would be impressed, but she just thought he was a tool for so blatantly trying to impress her rather then get to know her.

Girls find it impressive when you take them to unique places or activities where you can talk and share the experience. Shows that you’re independent in your thinking and value genuine social connections.

If she’s agreed to go on a date with you she’s already impressed with you, now it’s time for you to prove that you just don’t think she’s hot or wanna get in her pants, gotta get to know her. [/quote]

Haha if your skill is going to the bars you’re going to be in trouble.

Otherwise I agree with your post.

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[quote]Seppl wrote:
Aaawwww YIIIISSS!!!

Did it. She said yes. Right now thinkin bout some specific things to ask her out to.
My ideas (i know, the obvious ones): Cinema, coffee, going to the park

As before, any suggestions would be appreciated. [/quote]

Congratulations man.

Not that I have a lot of great advice to give, because I am not an expert (you can go ready my thread haha), but T-Nation is the home of unsolicited advice, so here is my two cents…

I figured it would go well.

Pick something where you and her can talk. You don’t want to be disrupted by people you know, or start your date by criticizing her surfing form.

Pick something you both suck at and then go have a good time being shitty at whatever it is. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Women like that stuff too.

Be careful going to the park. Purses get stolen in the park all the time. Remember, she wants to feel safe. Use your discretion. If the park around you is in the hood, empty, etc…then avoid it.

I always wanted to try ballroom dancing. I think it would be awesome to learn to waltz.

I hope this helped.

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[quote]trivium wrote:

[quote]Seppl wrote:
Aaawwww YIIIISSS!!!

Did it. She said yes. Right now thinkin bout some specific things to ask her out to.
My ideas (i know, the obvious ones): Cinema, coffee, going to the park

As before, any suggestions would be appreciated. [/quote]

Congratulations man.

Not that I have a lot of great advice to give, because I am not an expert (you can go ready my thread haha), but T-Nation is the home of unsolicited advice, so here is my two cents…

I figured it would go well.

Pick something where you and her can talk. You don’t want to be disrupted by people you know, or start your date by criticizing her surfing form.

Pick something you both suck at and then go have a good time being shitty at whatever it is. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Women like that stuff too.

Be careful going to the park. Purses get stolen in the park all the time. Remember, she wants to feel safe. Use your discretion. If the park around you is in the hood, empty, etc…then avoid it.

I always wanted to try ballroom dancing. I think it would be awesome to learn to waltz.

I hope this helped.[/quote]

HOW THE FUCK DO YOU NOT GET LAID ON YOUR OWN, I DONT GET IT!!!??? Hahahahaha

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Taken quite a few girls to the ice skating rink this year, can work well if they arent too great and have to hold your hand to skate around. plus you can teach them a few things and they will love it. can suck arse if they are really uncoordinated though and you just have to hold them up the whole time.

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[quote]SuperVillian wrote:

[quote]on edge wrote:

[quote]Seppl wrote:
Aaawwww YIIIISSS!!!

Did it. She said yes. Right now thinkin bout some specific things to ask her out to.
My ideas (i know, the obvious ones): Cinema, coffee, going to the park

As before, any suggestions would be appreciated. [/quote]

Take her to something that you have skill at. Especially if there will be others around who respect you for it. For instance if you are a great surfer, take her surfing and teach her to surf. Make sure some of your friends will happen to be around. It could be anything though; golf, rock climbing, spelunking, anything you’ve got skill and respect.[/quote]

Ehhhhh… that could go either way, I knew a guy that on a first date took a girl out to a bar where he knew a lot of people and he was saying hi and introducing her to a lot of people thinking she would be impressed, but she just thought he was a tool for so blatantly trying to impress her rather then get to know her.

Girls find it impressive when you take them to unique places or activities where you can talk and share the experience. Shows that you’re independent in your thinking and value genuine social connections.

If she’s agreed to go on a date with you she’s already impressed with you, now it’s time for you to prove that you just don’t think she’s hot or wanna get in her pants, gotta get to know her. [/quote]

Good Point, doing stuff like that feels like more of a showoff to me than anything else.

About going to the park:
Im living in Austria (City got ~250.000 inhabitants) and the park aint anything you could be scared of. Mostly Kids, students, casual People and some Hippies around (drug Dealers are pretty rare and harmless).

“something we both suck at”: very good idea in my opinion

“ballroom dancing”: holy crap, that wouldnt end well i guess. Im not good at dancing (and not really fond of it) and shes dancing once a week since a few years so…

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[quote]Seppl wrote:
“ballroom dancing”: holy crap, that wouldnt end well i guess. Im not good at dancing (and not really fond of it) and shes dancing once a week since a few years so…

[/quote]

If things work out, this will be you in 6 weeks.

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Nevermind, just do what everyone else says, and go get laid. What do I know anyway?

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Gotta love the internet.

Starts thread asking why he sucks so bad at getting girlz

Gives out dating advice in different thread…

LMAO

Now I feel like PX asking someone in the BB forum, “do you even LIFT?” LOL

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[quote]Seppl wrote:

[quote]SuperVillian wrote:

[quote]on edge wrote:

[quote]Seppl wrote:
Aaawwww YIIIISSS!!!

Did it. She said yes. Right now thinkin bout some specific things to ask her out to.
My ideas (i know, the obvious ones): Cinema, coffee, going to the park

As before, any suggestions would be appreciated. [/quote]

Take her to something that you have skill at. Especially if there will be others around who respect you for it. For instance if you are a great surfer, take her surfing and teach her to surf. Make sure some of your friends will happen to be around. It could be anything though; golf, rock climbing, spelunking, anything you’ve got skill and respect.[/quote]

Ehhhhh… that could go either way, I knew a guy that on a first date took a girl out to a bar where he knew a lot of people and he was saying hi and introducing her to a lot of people thinking she would be impressed, but she just thought he was a tool for so blatantly trying to impress her rather then get to know her.

Girls find it impressive when you take them to unique places or activities where you can talk and share the experience. Shows that you’re independent in your thinking and value genuine social connections.

If she’s agreed to go on a date with you she’s already impressed with you, now it’s time for you to prove that you just don’t think she’s hot or wanna get in her pants, gotta get to know her. [/quote]

Good Point, doing stuff like that feels like more of a showoff to me than anything else.

About going to the park:
Im living in Austria (City got ~250.000 inhabitants) and the park aint anything you could be scared of. Mostly Kids, students, casual People and some Hippies around (drug Dealers are pretty rare and harmless).

“something we both suck at”: very good idea in my opinion

“ballroom dancing”: holy crap, that wouldnt end well i guess. Im not good at dancing (and not really fond of it) and shes dancing once a week since a few years so…

[/quote]

Graz.

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[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Gotta love the internet.

Starts thread asking why he sucks so bad at getting girlz

Gives out dating advice in different thread…

LMAO

Now I feel like PX asking someone in the BB forum, “do you even LIFT?” LOL[/quote]

Lol this all mad me laugh too

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Keep it simple and go for a coffee/drink. You’re not there to wow her.
-You’re there to to see if you two get along and to build comfort towards physical escalation down the line.