Dating Advice

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Depression Boy wrote:
OR go do some activities that women love, learn to dance the salsa for example. Girls love that, and very few of them are good at it.[/quote]

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Shall I compare thee to a summers day, thou are more lovely and more temperate…

You cant do this these days, bishes dont get that…

Rough winds do shake the darling leaves of may and sommers leave hath all to short a date…

No dice, I tried.

Should have been darling buds of may…

Oh well.

[quote]Kakarat wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:
I got picked up by two girls earlier tonight. I was immediately hit with a double shit test.

“We were wondering how big your dick is while we were waiting. How big is it?”

For the the first time I was actually aware I was being shit tested during said shit test. And, for that, I am happy.

This also leads me to a question I have for you all; how do you feel about hooking up with girls in LTR’s?

I am almost always against it.

One of the girls is a sexy little thing, but she’s been in a relationship for close to half a decade. I really could not care less what happens to her relationship, but I would feel like much less of a man if I ended their relationship just because I had the power to.

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Well. How big is it?[/quote]
“As big as you want it to be.”
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Exactly what I was looking for. Good on you, BK.

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:
I got picked up by two girls earlier tonight. I was immediately hit with a double shit test.

“We were wondering how big your dick is while we were waiting. How big is it?”

For the the first time I was actually aware I was being shit tested during said shit test. And, for that, I am happy.

This also leads me to a question I have for you all; how do you feel about hooking up with girls in LTR’s?

I am almost always against it.

One of the girls is a sexy little thing, but she’s been in a relationship for close to half a decade. I really could not care less what happens to her relationship, but I would feel like much less of a man if I ended their relationship just because I had the power to.

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Well. How big is it?[/quote]
“As big as you want it to be.”
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Exactly what I was looking for. Good on you, BK.[/quote]

Ach come on:

  1. It rises to the occasion

  2. You want to know how big my dick is? There are ways to go about that, this is not one of them…

or, what I would do

“Depends what it is called upon to do, right now it is shrinking in terror”.

I dont think that would work for most people.

I involves a pause, me mustering her for a while and real disgust.

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:
I got picked up by two girls earlier tonight. I was immediately hit with a double shit test.

“We were wondering how big your dick is while we were waiting. How big is it?”

For the the first time I was actually aware I was being shit tested during said shit test. And, for that, I am happy.

This also leads me to a question I have for you all; how do you feel about hooking up with girls in LTR’s?

I am almost always against it.

One of the girls is a sexy little thing, but she’s been in a relationship for close to half a decade. I really could not care less what happens to her relationship, but I would feel like much less of a man if I ended their relationship just because I had the power to.

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Well. How big is it?[/quote]
“As big as you want it to be.”
[/quote]
Exactly what I was looking for. Good on you, BK.[/quote]

Ach come on:

  1. It rises to the occasion

  2. You want to know how big my dick is? There are ways to go about that, this is not one of them…

or, what I would do

“Depends what it is called upon to do, right now it is shrinking in terror”.

I dont think that would work for most people.

I involves a pause, me mustering her for a while and real disgust. [/quote]
I’d probably say, “Bigger than the last one.” or whatever.

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:
I got picked up by two girls earlier tonight. I was immediately hit with a double shit test.

“We were wondering how big your dick is while we were waiting. How big is it?”

For the the first time I was actually aware I was being shit tested during said shit test. And, for that, I am happy.

This also leads me to a question I have for you all; how do you feel about hooking up with girls in LTR’s?

I am almost always against it.

One of the girls is a sexy little thing, but she’s been in a relationship for close to half a decade. I really could not care less what happens to her relationship, but I would feel like much less of a man if I ended their relationship just because I had the power to.

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Well. How big is it?[/quote]
“As big as you want it to be.”
[/quote]
Exactly what I was looking for. Good on you, BK.[/quote]

Ach come on:

  1. It rises to the occasion

  2. You want to know how big my dick is? There are ways to go about that, this is not one of them…

or, what I would do

“Depends what it is called upon to do, right now it is shrinking in terror”.

I dont think that would work for most people.

I involves a pause, me mustering her for a while and real disgust. [/quote]
I’d probably say, “Bigger than the last one.” or whatever.[/quote]

Not enough.

PUSH BACK!!!

I mean, honestly, you dont have to, letting it trickle off your back is probably enough, but if your gut reaction is “oh, this is how it is going to be”, you are probably in a better place.

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:
I got picked up by two girls earlier tonight. I was immediately hit with a double shit test.

“We were wondering how big your dick is while we were waiting. How big is it?”

For the the first time I was actually aware I was being shit tested during said shit test. And, for that, I am happy.

This also leads me to a question I have for you all; how do you feel about hooking up with girls in LTR’s?

I am almost always against it.

One of the girls is a sexy little thing, but she’s been in a relationship for close to half a decade. I really could not care less what happens to her relationship, but I would feel like much less of a man if I ended their relationship just because I had the power to.

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Well. How big is it?[/quote]
“As big as you want it to be.”
[/quote]
Exactly what I was looking for. Good on you, BK.[/quote]

Ach come on:

  1. It rises to the occasion

  2. You want to know how big my dick is? There are ways to go about that, this is not one of them…

or, what I would do

“Depends what it is called upon to do, right now it is shrinking in terror”.

I dont think that would work for most people.

I involves a pause, me mustering her for a while and real disgust. [/quote]
I’d probably say, “Bigger than the last one.” or whatever.[/quote]

Not enough.

PUSH BACK!!!

I mean, honestly, you dont have to, letting it trickle off your back is probably enough, but if your gut reaction is “oh, this is how it is going to be”, you are probably in a better place. [/quote]
Yeah I’ve never done any major push-pull stuff.

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:
I got picked up by two girls earlier tonight. I was immediately hit with a double shit test.

“We were wondering how big your dick is while we were waiting. How big is it?”

For the the first time I was actually aware I was being shit tested during said shit test. And, for that, I am happy.

This also leads me to a question I have for you all; how do you feel about hooking up with girls in LTR’s?

I am almost always against it.

One of the girls is a sexy little thing, but she’s been in a relationship for close to half a decade. I really could not care less what happens to her relationship, but I would feel like much less of a man if I ended their relationship just because I had the power to.

[/quote]
Well. How big is it?[/quote]
“As big as you want it to be.”
[/quote]
Exactly what I was looking for. Good on you, BK.[/quote]

Ach come on:

  1. It rises to the occasion

  2. You want to know how big my dick is? There are ways to go about that, this is not one of them…

or, what I would do

“Depends what it is called upon to do, right now it is shrinking in terror”.

I dont think that would work for most people.

I involves a pause, me mustering her for a while and real disgust. [/quote]
I’d probably say, “Bigger than the last one.” or whatever.[/quote]

Not enough.

PUSH BACK!!!

I mean, honestly, you dont have to, letting it trickle off your back is probably enough, but if your gut reaction is “oh, this is how it is going to be”, you are probably in a better place. [/quote]
Yeah I’ve never done any major push-pull stuff.[/quote]

That is not a push pull.

A push pull is giving her shit and reel her back in in a charming way.

That is a “really bitch!?”

A push back to let her know whats what.

Maybe it needlessly confrontational, but once you have pissed of a few dozend of them you will know that they can do jack shit to you.

Which is a lesson in and of itself.

If she opens with THAT she better have sense of humor or else she shall be kicked into the abyss of irrelevancy.

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Kakarat wrote:
I got picked up by two girls earlier tonight. I was immediately hit with a double shit test.

“We were wondering how big your dick is while we were waiting. How big is it?”

For the the first time I was actually aware I was being shit tested during said shit test. And, for that, I am happy.

This also leads me to a question I have for you all; how do you feel about hooking up with girls in LTR’s?

I am almost always against it.

One of the girls is a sexy little thing, but she’s been in a relationship for close to half a decade. I really could not care less what happens to her relationship, but I would feel like much less of a man if I ended their relationship just because I had the power to.

[/quote]
Well. How big is it?[/quote]
“As big as you want it to be.”
[/quote]
Exactly what I was looking for. Good on you, BK.[/quote]

Ach come on:

  1. It rises to the occasion

  2. You want to know how big my dick is? There are ways to go about that, this is not one of them…

or, what I would do

“Depends what it is called upon to do, right now it is shrinking in terror”.

I dont think that would work for most people.

I involves a pause, me mustering her for a while and real disgust. [/quote]
I’d probably say, “Bigger than the last one.” or whatever.[/quote]

Not enough.

PUSH BACK!!!

I mean, honestly, you dont have to, letting it trickle off your back is probably enough, but if your gut reaction is “oh, this is how it is going to be”, you are probably in a better place. [/quote]
Yeah I’ve never done any major push-pull stuff.[/quote]

That is not a push pull.

A push pull is giving her shit and reel her back in in a charming way.

That is a “really bitch!?”

A push back to let her know whats what.

Maybe it needlessly confrontational, but once you have pissed of a few dozend of them you will know that they can do jack shit to you.

Which is a lesson in and of itself.

If she opens with THAT she better have sense of humor or else she shall be kicked into the abyss of irrelevancy.[/quote]
Oh okay. Got it.

Shit test: “so how big is it?” within an hour of meeting her, prior to first venue change.

I usually just smile and unzip while saying something like, “just promise me you won’t run away” or “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours”. That way you flip the shit test back to them, cuz unless they are really drunk, most girls are not going to reach into your pants in a public venue. Not saying it hasn’t happened, but it’s rare. But when a girl you just met reaches inside your pants and grabs your dick, is that REALLY the girl you want to go home with? You’d have to double wrap your junk. I mean easy is easy, but personally I’m all about the chase. Most of the time when you unzip, it just shuts them down and you can laugh at them. Then you can bust their balls all night about, “you had your chance but chickened out”. At that point, it’s very easy to lead the interaction where you want it to go.

All shit tests should either be radically exceeded with a “you asked for it” kind of smile OR completely blown the fuck out of the water with an over the top shut down. WHATEVER you do, DO NOT do what she WANTS you to do. Having said that, use some common fucking sense - not every thing is a shit test. I’ve known guys who take every single request a girl makes - even very reasonable requests - and treats it like a shit test. CALIBRATE your response to the girl, the situation, her attitude and the request. But always err on the side of being funny and laughing at her. The older I get, the more tolerant I get so most of the time I just ignore it as if it never happened.

If it’s a blatant one, a very good “all encompassing shit test destroyer” is this: “well look at you! Trying that girlfriend shit on me already!” Then put your arm around her, pull her in so that you and she are both following the direction of your finger, and point to a random dude and say, “see that guy over there? I think you should go try that shit on him.” Then make the introduction. LITERALLY just pass her off to a random dude. Force her to have an awkward conversation with him, and then rescue her from the conversation by whispering in her ear, “have you learned your lesson yet?” and then just take her by the hand and lead her away. Then resume the conversation as if NOTHING unusual just happened. Works every fucking time.

[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Shit test: “so how big is it?” within an hour of meeting her, prior to first venue change.

I usually just smile and unzip while saying something like, “just promise me you won’t run away” or “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours”. That way you flip the shit test back to them, cuz unless they are really drunk, most girls are not going to reach into your pants in a public venue. Not saying it hasn’t happened, but it’s rare. But when a girl you just met reaches inside your pants and grabs your dick, is that REALLY the girl you want to go home with? You’d have to double wrap your junk. I mean easy is easy, but personally I’m all about the chase. Most of the time when you unzip, it just shuts them down and you can laugh at them. Then you can bust their balls all night about, “you had your chance but chickened out”. At that point, it’s very easy to lead the interaction where you want it to go.

All shit tests should either be radically exceeded with a “you asked for it” kind of smile OR completely blown the fuck out of the water with an over the top shut down. WHATEVER you do, DO NOT do what she WANTS you to do. Having said that, use some common fucking sense - not every thing is a shit test. I’ve known guys who take every single request a girl makes - even very reasonable requests - and treats it like a shit test. CALIBRATE your response to the girl, the situation, her attitude and the request. But always err on the side of being funny and laughing at her. The older I get, the more tolerant I get so most of the time I just ignore it as if it never happened.

If it’s a blatant one, a very good “all encompassing shit test destroyer” is this: “well look at you! Trying that girlfriend shit on me already!” Then put your arm around her, pull her in so that you and she are both following the direction of your finger, and point to a random dude and say, “see that guy over there? I think you should go try that shit on him.” Then make the introduction. LITERALLY just pass her off to a random dude. Force her to have an awkward conversation with him, and then rescue her from the conversation by whispering in her ear, “have you learned your lesson yet?” and then just take her by the hand and lead her away. Then resume the conversation as if NOTHING unusual just happened. Works every fucking time.[/quote]
Nice. I’ve thought of the former before but never the latter.

I appreciate the detailed response angry chicken.

Orion, I responded the way I did only because the other girl in the car is my good friends semi-ex girlfriend. I don’t know what the deal even is. If it were a different girl I’d like to believe I would have been more aggressive. “It’s pretty big. Do you guys think you can handle it?”

Other girl may also not be in a relationship after all.

Yo guys and gals

I got a problem. Im 20 years old and i now got my first real crush on a gal.
Never had a gf yet, although thats not really whats itching me.

Its just that i have no idea how to tell her.
Most of my friends cant really help me, cause it sort of just happened (drunk, making out,…) when they hooked up with a gal.
I can talk to her pretty normally, but I dont know. Theres just nothing Happening.

suggestions would greatly appreciated

by the way, if i Sound like 12 year old teenie, thats exactly how dumb/immature i felt when i first realized having a crush on her.

[quote]Seppl wrote:
Yo guys and gals

I got a problem. Im 20 years old and i now got my first real crush on a gal.
Never had a gf yet, although thats not really whats itching me.

Its just that i have no idea how to tell her.
Most of my friends cant really help me, cause it sort of just happened (drunk, making out,…) when they hooked up with a gal.
I can talk to her pretty normally, but I dont know. Theres just nothing Happening.

suggestions would greatly appreciated

by the way, if i Sound like 12 year old teenie, thats exactly how dumb/immature i felt when i first realized having a crush on her.
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If you love her, then run to her.

That’s my advice.

Solid thread bump…

I was gonna make a thread like this, but more complicated regarding life and what not.

[quote]Seppl wrote:

by the way, if i Sound like 12 year old teenie, thats exactly how dumb/immature i felt when i first realized having a crush on her.
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Awwwww…

There’s nothing happening because you won’t make a move.

Make a move or she’ll be gone soon.

[quote]Seppl wrote:
Yo guys and gals

I got a problem. Im 20 years old and i now got my first real crush on a gal.
Never had a gf yet, although thats not really whats itching me.

Its just that i have no idea how to tell her.
Most of my friends cant really help me, cause it sort of just happened (drunk, making out,…) when they hooked up with a gal.
I can talk to her pretty normally, but I dont know. Theres just nothing Happening.

suggestions would greatly appreciated

by the way, if i Sound like 12 year old teenie, thats exactly how dumb/immature i felt when i first realized having a crush on her.
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Dude, just go ask her out.

Save yourself the trouble of waiting around. Just go get resolution immediately.

That doesn’t mean be an idiot and so something stupid or offensive, but just go let her know you like her and then let it go.

Completely not worth fretting about. (I may just be saying this though because I don’t think I’m ever going to find/have a nice/meaningful relationship. That is why I love the gym so much. It never lets me down. Only I let myself down in this realm.)

Also, avoid participation in childish games. Girls your age don’t know what the hell they want, and you are in for a world of confusion if you think that most girls out there want to be around nice, well kept, soon to be successful young men.

I personally cannot compete with a truck and a minimum wage job at this point in my life, and I am 24. Just show up, look clean/cut/shaven, smell nice, don’t say anything offensive/idiotic, and if it works it does, if it doesn’t then it doesn’t. Dust off your boots and move on to the next one…

“But Trivium, she is the only one like her…”

Trust me there is always a next one…

Just go for it. If she says friends, tell her no and move on. It does you no good to have a girl you want more from, but have to sit around and watch pick other guys over you.

[quote]Seppl wrote:
Yo guys and gals

I got a problem. Im 20 years old and i now got my first real crush on a gal.
Never had a gf yet, although thats not really whats itching me.

Its just that i have no idea how to tell her.
Most of my friends cant really help me, cause it sort of just happened (drunk, making out,…) when they hooked up with a gal.
I can talk to her pretty normally, but I dont know. Theres just nothing Happening.

suggestions would greatly appreciated

by the way, if i Sound like 12 year old teenie, thats exactly how dumb/immature i felt when i first realized having a crush on her.
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Get used to it, it’s going to be rare for someone to be really obvious about being into you. All you can do is make a move and learn from it.