NateN wrote:
This may be incredibly rude but I can’t resist. Keep in mind I’m 19 years old and am genuinely confused about this:
Why the heck doesn’t she have any respect for your opinion? Aren’t you husband and wife?!
You’ve never been married, have you?? Just a tip: once you get married, your wife will listen to everyone but you. I’ve lost count of the times when I’ve given my wife advice on dieting, working out, or any other topic, only to have it fall on deaf ears. Then someone else tells her the exact same thing, and she instantly believes it. That’s just the way it works.
You’ve never been married, have you?? Just a tip: once you get married, your wife will listen to everyone but you. I’ve lost count of the times when I’ve given my wife advice on dieting, working out, or any other topic, only to have it fall on deaf ears. Then someone else tells her the exact same thing, and she instantly believes it. That’s just the way it works.
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This is SO true. It doesnt matter if you have a college degree in the topic, she will look to her girlfriends for the answers. Even when they are wrong over and over again, it’s like you’ve become the bumbling fool dad bashed on every comercial, womens talk show or portrayed on every tv show and cartoon today.
It must be something either with the wedding cake that causes this or the industrial solvents used in cleaning our underware.
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I have had similiar issues as you when trying to help my girlfriend eat more and regularly (and exercise) as well as when trying to help friends diet down. I’ve even gone to the level of helping prepare all the meals just to get them going. You might try using your expertise to win them over by thought process.
My brother in law was 255lbs in may and using a diet strategy I set up for him he managed to hit 199 by the new year. Now… don’t get me wrong… he still has to put more effort into his gym work but each step is a new revelation. So you ask how I got him to do it… I basically said… if you give me 2 weeks of solid effort I can show you results… if you like them we will sit down and talk… if you dont… i will leave you alone. So what did I do? I rearranged his diet to be more of the massive eating style principles but with reduced calories. Sure enough in 2 weeks he was down 5+ lbs. He didn’t need to know it was mostly (if not all) water weight but hell… I played his game… they love the scale and nothing suits them better then seeing it improve for no effort. Eventually he is now eating a diet that most T-Men would applaud…
My suggestion is to take it slow… just like curves. If you give someone a diet plan that is 100% perfect… it wont work… they wont follow it… if they will follow it they are already on t-nation. So the best thing is to make each day or week an improvement… tell her that the best thing to do is everyday try to make an improvement… I STILL do this and its amazing what you can do to improve… Sure the things I improve on now are much different but the strategy still applies. You also have to realize that as frustrating as it is… her diet wont be perfect in one day… you need to give her a fix as much as she needs to get healthy. So start small and think LONG TERM. Its all LONG TERM… long term translates into… we have plenty of time to get this done. So… start with protein with everymeal… or even start as simple as… strategized calories. With each success she will open up to a new suggestion.
[quote]trigwu wrote:
My suggestion is to take it slow… just like curves. If you give someone a diet plan that is 100% perfect… it wont work… they wont follow it… if they will follow it they are already on t-nation. So the best thing is to make each day or week an improvement… tell her that the best thing to do is everyday try to make an improvement… I STILL do this and its amazing what you can do to improve… Sure the things I improve on now are much different but the strategy still applies. You also have to realize that as frustrating as it is… her diet wont be perfect in one day… you need to give her a fix as much as she needs to get healthy. So start small and think LONG TERM. Its all LONG TERM… long term translates into… we have plenty of time to get this done. So… start with protein with everymeal… or even start as simple as… strategized calories. With each success she will open up to a new suggestion. [/quote]
It seems to me that starting easy is the key to success here. The “How to Build a T-Vixen” article gave a few somewhat easy guide lines to follow initially. I would have to double check, but something like no candy, no soda, etc.
I think another member put it best- “You only get out of it what you put in it.”
My coworker’s mom is a member of Curves here in Hawai’i. She’s a runaway train when she goes there and when she’s outside of the place. That simple setup they have goin on there is put to good use by her. She’s in her late 60s. She most times outlasts my coworker in the energy department most times now, and he’s 35 lol.
Now in thinking that 3 times a week for 30 minutes is enough for exercise is a good average. And for most people it is enough. There are others, like us here at T-Nation that may need more time to complete our workout of the day. But if you can fit interval sprints, low volume of weightlifting, and some bodyweight work into 30 minutes, does that mean that is a poor workout? It does vary to what kind of “energy” is put into a workout and into the mouth after the workout. But I have not seen too many successes resulting from Curves.
My fiance went to curves while we lived in chciago for about a year. She wanted to workout with me, but our schedules just didn’t click. she thought curves was great and I always made fun of her…nicely anyway! Well, we moved to Dallas and found a resonable gym and we workout there now, and I got her to cancel her curves member ship! I put her through a very simple workout a while back and she was sore as hell! She realized then that curves wasn’t all that great. She’s a teacher so she doesn’t always have time to workout. She’s now starting to like it more and actually goes to the gym without me if our schedules aren’t the same on a certain day! Got her doing deads, squats, benchpress, etc etc…NO MACHINES! She loves it now! I’v actually caught her flexxing in the mirror…LOL! She looks good…NEVER REALLY LOOKED BAD THOUGH! She has more muscle now, and is working at cutting some BF% at the same time. She’ll never go back to cures again!
i find this amusing (in a bad way )! people are always misled into believing they dont have to work to get results . or all they have to do is buy the new miracle ab machine and they will lose the weight . the reason these people dont get results is because they arent willing to be taken out of their comfort zone . all it takes is some hard work and discipline . its funny i can relate in a way . i’m even criticized by those around me for the way i eat and take care of myself…funny thing though …who has the results .