Started lifting to female attention, but was working two angles:
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With a plan like what how can you loose? ahaha
This is the exact reason I started. It’s funny though, at this point I’d rather set a new PR than pick up a girl lol
lol x2 on not investing a lot into dating while you’re young. That time, energy, and money, is not worth spending on immature relationships when it could be put into your own development as a person
I had been wanting to change my physique for about 1.5 years before I actually decided to do something about it. I was a long distance runner for the 5 years previous and had the body to suit.
I guess the primary motivation to change was to impress girls but the catalyst which actually made me start lifting was a serious car crash. I was largely unharmed by the crash, just a few minor cuts and bruises which was surprising considering how bad it had been (car flipped over forward and rolled 3 times). Subsequent to the crash I had this overwhelming feeling of vulnerability and that I had been incredibly lucky and just wanted to become “tougher” and more resilient.
After about the first 6 months or so of nooby gains the increase in female attention that followed was again the main motivation for another year until I caught the ‘BB bug’. Now it’s all about me.
[quote]Christian Thibaudeau wrote:
90% of the male who start lifting do so for 1 of these 3 reasons:
Eventually the reason will evolve as you develop a passion for lifting itself.[/quote]
Spot on.
[quote]browndisaster wrote:
lol x2 on not investing a lot into dating while you’re young. That time, energy, and money, is not worth spending on immature relationships when it could be put into your own development as a person[/quote]
That’s a good attitude and I commend you, and other young guys, for being smart when it comes to dealing with women - especially at that age - but having relationships can teach you a lot in general, and particularly about what you DON’T want.
Reading all that PUA shit is fine, but reading is still just reading - sometimes you have to deal with a real bitch - for fun, misery, and the experience it brings you…lol… ; )
But avoiding the worst of that behavior is smart.
I started for sport(football), and I credit my coaches for weeding out any thoughts of using football as a tool to impress other people(girls especially). Lifting was about getting bigger, faster, stronger, and just all around better than the dudes I lined up across. I can’t speak for others but I definitely wouldn’t have had the success I did in football if I were in it for other people.
That said, nowadays there is probably a little subconscious want to impress girls and other dudes. There’s a pride in wanting to stay a pretty beast athlete, rather than becoming ‘that guy’ who waxes poetic about ‘back in the day,’ and that’s almost certainly fueled in some part by wanting to be seen favorably in the eyes of others. We all want to be ‘successful’ and being in shape is just one of many forms of success.
[quote]IFlashBack wrote:
[quote]jskrabac wrote:
I was inspired to start this forum after reading something recently on one of the forums about how misguided and absolutely meaningless it is to lift weights for girls.
Why?
I absolutely started lifting to get more female attention and it is and always will be a motivator for the time I spend in the gym. Does this invalidate the intensity I bring to the gym or the kitchen? Or the joy I gain from it? Or the fact that it’s always an ongoing challenge I want to conquer? At the end of it, yes, I do like if more girls notice me and find me attractive for it.
So how about the rest of you? How many are bold enough to admit they were first motivated to lift weights to get more female attention? [/quote]
That was my main motivation. Still is.
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echo that. no doubt about it…
-W-
[quote]Klein709 wrote:
Started lifting to female attention, but was working two angles:
&
With a plan like what how can you loose? ahaha [/quote]
Puck bunnies?!?
Pretty damn good for a Canadian
[quote]SkyNett wrote:
[quote]Christian Thibaudeau wrote:
90% of the male who start lifting do so for 1 of these 3 reasons:
Eventually the reason will evolve as you develop a passion for lifting itself.[/quote]
Spot on. [/quote]
Yep, totally true.
[quote]SkyNett wrote:
[quote]browndisaster wrote:
lol x2 on not investing a lot into dating while you’re young. That time, energy, and money, is not worth spending on immature relationships when it could be put into your own development as a person[/quote]
That’s a good attitude and I commend you, and other young guys, for being smart when it comes to dealing with women - especially at that age - but having relationships can teach you a lot in general, and particularly about what you DON’T want.
Reading all that PUA shit is fine, but reading is still just reading - sometimes you have to deal with a real bitch - for fun, misery, and the experience it brings you…lol… ; )
But avoiding the worst of that behavior is smart.
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thanks brother, to be fair I did have to learn that lesson the hard way with my 2nd relationship! In some ways I wish my first relationship was shitty, so that I could’ve learned earlier haha.
What’s sad to see is guys repeating that behavior relationship after relationship. A buddy of mine literally gave up lifting, all for a girl that he knows he doesn’t have a future with. That type of behavior + all the liver damage from binge drinking can really put into perspective walkaway’s points.
[quote]MattyXL wrote:
I never did it specifically for girls but getting noticed was and is nice. I did it for confidence, I was a pretty insecure kid, lifting weights and trying to get bigger and stronger gave me confidence that seeped into other parts of my life, I can say with no hesitation that lifting weights has made me a better person. Corny but true.[/quote]
This is me. I was a Fat / pudgy 12 yr old with Madonna Cone titties(Which I later realized was gyno) So yeah, I said fuck that and starting running at first to drop the weight, then getting more and more serious about lifting as the years went on. People were telling me I was “too big” like 20 lbs ago, at this point I just like looking good and all that comes with it but I’m not going to stop. It’s definitely addicting, like a tattoo.
[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
i will admit it’s why i began when i was 16 yes…
however now, i couldnt give less of a shit what girls want me to look like. they all think im “too big” and “intimidating” which is the gayest thing ive ever fucking heard…
i want to look like a mentzer/zane/ray hybrid, and fuck all if im gunna give up that vision to be “appealing” to some drunk blown out whore.
besides, girls would rather be with a penniless asshole who uses and abuses them… (just going on observation of the female breed over the years).
females at my age are nothing but a drain on finances/time/effort. and besides… the media tells them what to find attractive lol[/quote]
When you grow out of the girl phase, I know for a fact that women like strong confident men who can take care of themselves.
[quote]Ginavl425 wrote:
[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
i will admit it’s why i began when i was 16 yes…
however now, i couldnt give less of a shit what girls want me to look like. they all think im “too big” and “intimidating” which is the gayest thing ive ever fucking heard…
i want to look like a mentzer/zane/ray hybrid, and fuck all if im gunna give up that vision to be “appealing” to some drunk blown out whore.
besides, girls would rather be with a penniless asshole who uses and abuses them… (just going on observation of the female breed over the years).
females at my age are nothing but a drain on finances/time/effort. and besides… the media tells them what to find attractive lol[/quote]
When you grow out of the girl phase, I know for a fact that women like strong confident men who can take care of themselves.[/quote]
we should hang out sometime 
[quote]browndisaster wrote:
lol x2 on not investing a lot into dating while you’re young. That time, energy, and money, is not worth spending on immature relationships when it could be put into your own development as a person[/quote]
Code for I can’t get any.
hahaha
[quote]jldume wrote:
[quote]MattyXL wrote:
I never did it specifically for girls but getting noticed was and is nice. I did it for confidence, I was a pretty insecure kid, lifting weights and trying to get bigger and stronger gave me confidence that seeped into other parts of my life, I can say with no hesitation that lifting weights has made me a better person. Corny but true.[/quote]
This is me. I was a Fat / pudgy 12 yr old with Madonna Cone titties(Which I later realized was gyno) So yeah, I said fuck that and starting running at first to drop the weight, then getting more and more serious about lifting as the years went on. People were telling me I was “too big” like 20 lbs ago, at this point I just like looking good and all that comes with it but I’m not going to stop. It’s definitely addicting, like a tattoo.[/quote]
Madonna Cone Titties? AWESOME;)
haha i like this thread
[quote]optheta wrote:
[quote]browndisaster wrote:
lol x2 on not investing a lot into dating while you’re young. That time, energy, and money, is not worth spending on immature relationships when it could be put into your own development as a person[/quote]
Code for I can’t get any.
hahaha[/quote]
it’s possible to hook up without being in a relationship…
[quote]jskrabac wrote:
I was inspired to start this forum after reading something recently on one of the forums about how misguided and absolutely meaningless it is to lift weights for girls.
Why?
I absolutely started lifting to get more female attention and it is and always will be a motivator for the time I spend in the gym. Does this invalidate the intensity I bring to the gym or the kitchen? Or the joy I gain from it? Or the fact that it’s always an ongoing challenge I want to conquer? At the end of it, yes, I do like if more girls notice me and find me attractive for it.
So how about the rest of you? How many are bold enough to admit they were first motivated to lift weights to get more female attention? [/quote]
If lifting for chicks is the initial motivator who is anyone to say that person is wrong? However, in some threads what people think girls want has become the winning argument as far as the better physique. Such as, “girls like big guys that are 15%bf, therfore…”, or “girls like lean guys with abs, therefore…”. That, imo, is not what bodybuilding is about.