[quote]Dex a.t.g wrote:
[quote]Macmade wrote:
You are 16, weightlifting is a life long passion. Figure out why you are training in the first place, don’t get complacent with teenagers’ remarks. Know it within yourself that achieveing your goals is only the bare minimum, exceeding it would be the correct attitude. Is your ultimate goal to be adulated by members of TNation? Success and Excellence comes after Accomplishment. [/quote]
you seem to be the only person here who can look at it logically…ill pose this argument, and i expect you,in good faith,to debate it with me, am not being stubborn, i just want a good debate with you cause you have always given me good advice
first check the difference between the comments when i put the first picture and the comments after i put the second, at first they said you are doing well for a teenager but could be bigger, then did i argue? I took the advice and was willing to get evrybody’s opinion, nobody praised me and i was o.k cause am not looking for praise am looking for advice and what they said seemed very logical to me, then after i put the second everybody started to turn on me, calling me skinny,smaller than high school girls,nonexistant.
I would be o.k with this if it was what i was getting from the begining but why the sudden change in opinions? I know for a fact that am not skinny…lean,yea,small,okay. But not skinny. Personally i am not looking for anybody’s praise, i get enough praise everyday…
i am looking for honest opinion, and beforehand i was taking advice and critism very well cause then you guys were looking at me in a way that i thought was about right, nobody praised me then and i didnt complain. So you answer me this why are the opinions then and now so different? And dont say cause i showed you a more accurate pic cause this one was taken around sept and the one on my user profile was taking early january. And please macmade this message is just for you, your the only person who i want to answer it[/quote]
I know you said you only wanted Macmade to respond to this, but let me just say something important about self-perception (and it’s something you need to think about rather than respond to if you want to get where you want to go). You took your avatar pic yourself, and you wouldn’t have posted it if it wasn’t how you see yourself in the mirror; the posing, distance, lighting, all contribute positively to how you look in that pic. So that’s how you see yourself in your mind’s eye.
The second photo has you standing relaxed without any tricks or gimmicks to fall back on (probably because someone else took it and you couldn’t play around with looking your best). It’s a well-taken, good quality pic, so there’s nothing to suggest that it’s unflattering or doesn’t show you as you or your friends see you.
The second pic is how you really look, and the first is how you see yourself in the mirror. We know how you perceive yourself and the second photo is the most accurate impression of what you really look like - even if you don’t believe that.