[quote]theBeth wrote:
…when you found out someone you had been with for at least a year was cheating on you? Has this happened to anyone? How did you deal with the situation? Did you confront them?[/quote]
I said “okay” and walked out the door. I like to date women (versus girls), so either they used reason to choose to disrespect our relationship or they are not mature enough to date anyone. Either way, I’m not going to convince them to not cheat or I’m not going to put the effort into helping her grow up into a mature adult who has the self-control to not stray…that should have happened before she agreed to go steady.
This is prefaced with the fact that I have never cheated either emotionally, physically, or sexually on any of my girlfriends.
All this being said, it has only happened once and it tore me apart. I wanted to fix the relationship, but I realized I’d made serious mistakes leading up to the situation. I fixed what I could so it wouldn’t happen again.
[quote]theBeth wrote:
…when you found out someone you had been with for at least a year was cheating on you? Has this happened to anyone? How did you deal with the situation? Did you confront them?[/quote]
I said “okay” and walked out the door. I like to date women (versus girls), so either they used reason to choose to disrespect our relationship or they are not mature enough to date anyone. Either way, I’m not going to convince them to not cheat or I’m not going to put the effort into helping her grow up into a mature adult who has the self-control to not stray…that should have happened before she agreed to go steady.
This is prefaced with the fact that I have never cheated either emotionally, physically, or sexually on any of my girlfriends.
All this being said, it has only happened once and it tore me apart. I wanted to fix the relationship, but I realized I’d made serious mistakes leading up to the situation. I fixed what I could so it wouldn’t happen again.[/quote]
Well said. I couldn’t agree more. I realize he made some of my own flaws evident in how I handle challenging relationships and that is probably where I learned the most.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
I don’t care what term one wants to use – we could summon a thesaurus and come up with all kinds of adjectives and nouns – to describe a guy who “allows” his wife to “allow” him whether he can shoot, hunt and possess firearms. I know what he is and I know what the wife is. And I would describe both in pejorative terms.
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If I hadn’t been busy at work I would have said the same.