[quote]print wrote:
[quote]The Other Titan wrote:
Holy shit, wow. I think now would be a good time to point out to you that I’m single and very much heterosexual. Oh fuck, there was that threesome I had once but that definitely didn’t count as a bisexual experience, I didn’t touch the other guy, I swear I didnt. I don’t swing that way. CALL ME!
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Looks like Print’s been taking selfies again.
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
So how do married guys deal with the gorgeous women that seem like they’re perfect for you? Do you do the roledex?[/quote]
Okay dont understand this question.
Are you asking how do married men manage their affairs with gorgeous women? [/quote]
How do they stay faithful, for a life time when that one girl walks by that is just incredible, and you want a taste.[/quote]
Monogomous relationship are over rated. I mean I’ve done it but its so restrictive. I prefer being in an open relationship. It has a lot of advantages.
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
So how do married guys deal with the gorgeous women that seem like they’re perfect for you? Do you do the roledex?[/quote]
Okay dont understand this question.
Are you asking how do married men manage their affairs with gorgeous women? [/quote]
How do they stay faithful, for a life time when that one girl walks by that is just incredible, and you want a taste.[/quote]
Ok so your married. I notice you didn’t say happily. Is there a need in your relationship that isn’t being met Sturg? You’ll come around.
I’m not a man but I’ll answer you from my perspective. If I encounter a really attractive guy, I just imagine that he probably has chlamydia. No, but in all seriousness, some reasons that I stay faithful to my husband include: It is super hurtful; I would be absolutely guilt-ridden; I would feel a total loss of integrity; I took a vow; I am the worst liar and would inevitably get caught; I may get stoned to death. Okay, probably not the latter, but many years ago it would have been a very real possibility.
I think people are more apt to have an affair when some “need” in their relationship is not being met. If I were to find myself interested in someone else, I would take a hard look at my marriage and try to figure out what’s lacking. [/quote]
Ok so your married. I notice you didn’t say happily. Is there a need in your relationship that isn’t being met Sturg?
If your not compatible your are simply not trying hard enough in my opinion. Sometimes you need to stop and take stock in a relationship and remember first why you got into the relationship to begin with, second have you been happy previously, third if not what changed. If you can honestly answer all of those questions with non-selfish reasons
Well this is the update. I actually connected with the other woman today, just to clear the air in a friendly way. They were seeing each other for 9-10 months and he knocked her up. Apparently she aborted. At the same time he was having multiple partners with her and in general. Indiscriminant and exploitive. How did he find time? No fucking clue, other than I know how opportunistic he can be. There’s other things that I recently learned and I can’t say a lot and especially not on a public forum because I don’t feel safe right now. I also had to have a meeting with my boss today ( because our jobs are interconnected and we have to deal with each other on a regular basis). I explained everything and he was super understanding.
Print: I hate to break it to ya, but I had to get out of my business trip to Virginia Beach.
So that’s where I’m at. I know a bit of what his ex wife went through and I have reason to be concerned right now. Thank God I am so blessed with such amazing friends who are supportive and protective of me.
WhiteSturgeon: I’m sorry to see what you went through - thanks for sharing. Sometimes it just helps to feel like I’m not alone.
Wow, I so many things to post on this thread that I am not going to post.
[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:
Wow, I so many things to post on this thread that I am not going to post.[/quote]
Hope you’re doin better man.
[quote]theBeth wrote:
I know a bit of what his ex wife went through and I have reason to be concerned right now. [/quote]
Uh oh, you shouldn’t have said that. Push has saddled up and probably half way to Maine by now!
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
…If two people can’t stand to live under the same roof, chances are that is going to have a profoundly negative impact on their children. Kids are incredibly perceptive… I specialize in working with children and they are generally well aware of the dynamics between their parents - good or bad. [/quote]
This is a common line but I’m not fully convinced that it necessitates divorce.
I could argue that keeping the marriage intact in spite of…spite between the parents would still be more beneficial for the kids overall AND generally speaking.
Again, this line of “We’re splitting up for the children” is oftentimes just an excuse for weak or lazy or obstinate people pulling the plug.
Divorce is deeply injurious to children but the injury isn’t manifested much of the time until years later.[/quote]
I don’t think I was necessarily implying that divorce is always the right answer. I think children can get injured either way. Overcoming something like infidelity in a marriage is very difficult but certainly not impossible. If a couple can overcome a challenge like that it can often make them stronger. Or, maybe that is just a line I feed to couples when they come in for counseling. Hmm, either way, I guess I’m starting to believe it. [/quote]
I understand.
I’m just hesitant to beat the drum that divorce is the lesser of two evils when the parents can’t get along. There are just too many variables to make that a one size fits all solution. I’m not however saying that’s what you’re advocating.
The variables are:
Drug and alcohol abuse.
Physical abuse.
Mental abuse (and I mean REAL mental abuse).
Blatant and repetitive adultery.
Etc.
I do not believe that just “not being able to get along” or “not compatible” is reason in and of itself to chuck a marriage where children are involved.
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I agree with this.
I’m amazed, however, at how some women will stay with chronic cheaters though. I’ve got a neighbor who caught her husband cheating twice, revealing a total of about five affairs, and they are still together. I’m sure for the kids. I’m all for sticking it out for the kids but at some point I think the damage has to be too great.
By the way, I wanted to help the neighbor woman get even but my wife wasn’t as empathetic to her situation as me.
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
…If two people can’t stand to live under the same roof, chances are that is going to have a profoundly negative impact on their children. Kids are incredibly perceptive… I specialize in working with children and they are generally well aware of the dynamics between their parents - good or bad. [/quote]
This is a common line but I’m not fully convinced that it necessitates divorce.
I could argue that keeping the marriage intact in spite of…spite between the parents would still be more beneficial for the kids overall AND generally speaking.
Again, this line of “We’re splitting up for the children” is oftentimes just an excuse for weak or lazy or obstinate people pulling the plug.
Divorce is deeply injurious to children but the injury isn’t manifested much of the time until years later.[/quote]
I don’t think I was necessarily implying that divorce is always the right answer. I think children can get injured either way. Overcoming something like infidelity in a marriage is very difficult but certainly not impossible. If a couple can overcome a challenge like that it can often make them stronger. Or, maybe that is just a line I feed to couples when they come in for counseling. Hmm, either way, I guess I’m starting to believe it. [/quote]
I understand.
I’m just hesitant to beat the drum that divorce is the lesser of two evils when the parents can’t get along. There are just too many variables to make that a one size fits all solution. I’m not however saying that’s what you’re advocating.
The variables are:
Drug and alcohol abuse.
Physical abuse.
Mental abuse (and I mean REAL mental abuse).
Blatant and repetitive adultery.
Etc.
I do not believe that just “not being able to get along” or “not compatible” is reason in and of itself to chuck a marriage where children are involved.
[/quote]
I agree with this.
I’m amazed, however, at how some women will stay with chronic cheaters though. I’ve got a neighbor who caught her husband cheating twice, revealing a total of about five affairs, and they are still together. I’m sure for the kids. I’m all for sticking it out for the kids but at some point I think the damage has to be too great.
By the way, I wanted to help the neighbor woman get even but my wife wasn’t as empathetic to her situation as me.
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LOL!!! How nice of you to volunteer to help out a neighbor in need!
[quote]theBeth wrote:
Print: I hate to break it to ya, but I had to get out of my business trip to Virginia Beach.
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No worries kid, take care of yourself.
[quote]theBeth wrote:
Print: I hate to break it to ya, but I had to get out of my business trip to Virginia Beach.
[/quote]
It’s my fault isn’t it? Sorry bro.
[quote]The Other Titan wrote:
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
So how do married guys deal with the gorgeous women that seem like they’re perfect for you? Do you do the roledex?[/quote]
Okay dont understand this question.
Are you asking how do married men manage their affairs with gorgeous women? [/quote]
How do they stay faithful, for a life time when that one girl walks by that is just incredible, and you want a taste.[/quote]
Ok so your married. I notice you didn’t say happily. Is there a need in your relationship that isn’t being met Sturg? You’ll come around.
I’m not a man but I’ll answer you from my perspective. If I encounter a really attractive guy, I just imagine that he probably has chlamydia. No, but in all seriousness, some reasons that I stay faithful to my husband include: It is super hurtful; I would be absolutely guilt-ridden; I would feel a total loss of integrity; I took a vow; I am the worst liar and would inevitably get caught; I may get stoned to death. Okay, probably not the latter, but many years ago it would have been a very real possibility.
I think people are more apt to have an affair when some “need” in their relationship is not being met. If I were to find myself interested in someone else, I would take a hard look at my marriage and try to figure out what’s lacking. [/quote]
Ok so your married. I notice you didn’t say happily. Is there a need in your relationship that isn’t being met Sturg? [/quote]
I don’t think you noticed my question.
[quote]Testy1 wrote:
[quote]theBeth wrote:
Print: I hate to break it to ya, but I had to get out of my business trip to Virginia Beach.
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It’s my fault isn’t it? Sorry bro.
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I’ve been BroBlocked.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]print wrote:
[quote]Testy1 wrote:
[quote]theBeth wrote:
Print: I hate to break it to ya, but I had to get out of my business trip to Virginia Beach.
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It’s my fault isn’t it? Sorry bro.
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I’ve been BroBlocked.[/quote]
Does this mean we’re on again, Print?[/quote]
Have you done what I’ve asked?
[quote]The Other Titan wrote:
[quote]The Other Titan wrote:
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
So how do married guys deal with the gorgeous women that seem like they’re perfect for you? Do you do the roledex?[/quote]
Okay dont understand this question.
Are you asking how do married men manage their affairs with gorgeous women? [/quote]
How do they stay faithful, for a life time when that one girl walks by that is just incredible, and you want a taste.[/quote]
Ok so your married. I notice you didn’t say happily. Is there a need in your relationship that isn’t being met Sturg? You’ll come around.
I’m not a man but I’ll answer you from my perspective. If I encounter a really attractive guy, I just imagine that he probably has chlamydia. No, but in all seriousness, some reasons that I stay faithful to my husband include: It is super hurtful; I would be absolutely guilt-ridden; I would feel a total loss of integrity; I took a vow; I am the worst liar and would inevitably get caught; I may get stoned to death. Okay, probably not the latter, but many years ago it would have been a very real possibility.
I think people are more apt to have an affair when some “need” in their relationship is not being met. If I were to find myself interested in someone else, I would take a hard look at my marriage and try to figure out what’s lacking. [/quote]
Ok so your married. I notice you didn’t say happily. Is there a need in your relationship that isn’t being met Sturg? [/quote]
I don’t think you noticed my question. [/quote]
I saw it, I just didn’t acknowledge it. I honestly can’t tell if you’re trolling or if you are genuinely a bit ___________. I’m trying to think of a word that is along the lines of “obnoxious” but not quite as harsh. I’ve got it now, “off-putting”.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]print wrote:
[quote]Testy1 wrote:
[quote]theBeth wrote:
Print: I hate to break it to ya, but I had to get out of my business trip to Virginia Beach.
[/quote]
It’s my fault isn’t it? Sorry bro.
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I’ve been BroBlocked.[/quote]
Does this mean we’re on again, Print?[/quote]
I bet it was Print’s nudy picture of him on the can, a few pages back that peaked your interest.
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
[quote]The Other Titan wrote:
[quote]The Other Titan wrote:
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Airtruth wrote:
So how do married guys deal with the gorgeous women that seem like they’re perfect for you? Do you do the roledex?[/quote]
Okay dont understand this question.
Are you asking how do married men manage their affairs with gorgeous women? [/quote]
How do they stay faithful, for a life time when that one girl walks by that is just incredible, and you want a taste.[/quote]
Ok so your married. I notice you didn’t say happily. Is there a need in your relationship that isn’t being met Sturg? You’ll come around.
I’m not a man but I’ll answer you from my perspective. If I encounter a really attractive guy, I just imagine that he probably has chlamydia. No, but in all seriousness, some reasons that I stay faithful to my husband include: It is super hurtful; I would be absolutely guilt-ridden; I would feel a total loss of integrity; I took a vow; I am the worst liar and would inevitably get caught; I may get stoned to death. Okay, probably not the latter, but many years ago it would have been a very real possibility.
I think people are more apt to have an affair when some “need” in their relationship is not being met. If I were to find myself interested in someone else, I would take a hard look at my marriage and try to figure out what’s lacking. [/quote]
Ok so your married. I notice you didn’t say happily. Is there a need in your relationship that isn’t being met Sturg? [/quote]
I don’t think you noticed my question. [/quote]
I saw it, I just didn’t acknowledge it. I honestly can’t tell if you’re trolling or if you are genuinely a bit ___________. I’m trying to think of a word that is along the lines of “obnoxious” but not quite as harsh. I’ve got it now, “off-putting”. [/quote]
The only type of trolling I do is when fishing for sturgeons. I’m a clever bastard I know. I have been called things worse than obnoxious. Though I have to admit you’ve really hurt my feelings bad. You can make this up to me by posting a picture of yourself in a bikini.
