Bully Back in School

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[quote]Elkhntr1 wrote:
If you aren’t afraid of him what I would do is the next time you run into him staying very calm engage in converstation with him. As you remain smiling and calm ask him if he remembers back to when he used to subject you to his bullying.

With your attitude only and remaining very calm and controlled you should be able to convey to him what a small pathetic worm he was then and sounds like now.

That’s what I would do if it bothered me to that degree and I was confident that I could now whip his ass. [/quote]

I like this advice best. It obviously bothers you enough that you should confront him to get it out of your system. You don’t necessarily need to f*ck him up however; just let him know you remember and watch him squirm.

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These replies are soooo f-ing great (even though they are sooo varying). I can’t let stuff like this go either (I was actually blessed with being the biggest kid in my grade and my older brother was the bench champion and the arm wrestling champ as well so I wasn’t bullied at all). I did however slam a couple of bullies into the closest wall when I caught them picking on the helpless kids.

With THAT out of the way, I’d give him a brief but thorough run-down of your past together, then when the lightbulb goes on, ask him if he wants to continue where he left off… when he backs down (he will) then you’ve got him and you can walk away.
If NOT then let him hit you first and take care of business. After all, you were provoked.

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I was bullied by this kid in highschool when i was much smaller. I banged his sister in the ass 2 years after we graduated, which really pissed him off. That’s my bully story.

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You were both “kids” at the time.

Maybe if both of you have grown up, you can move past it without following any of the really stupid advice that was offered in this thread.

It’s quite common for someone that was a huge thing in your life to not remember you, because really, what were you to him but some kid he bullied?

In short, he doesn’t know who you are at this point and you don’t know who he is either…

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If you didn’t know, people do change. Some people that picked on me don’t do shiot to me. They know that is was years ago and they have matured. Be the bigger man and just step down. Sometimes its harder to step down than step up. If he still wants to mess with you, then tell him to BRING IT!

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[quote]Iron John wrote:
“Living well is the best revenge”[/quote]

Well, yeah, living well is pretty good, but this sort of advice always feels like it is coming from someone who never, really got bullied. Not picked on a little but really bullied.

You know that girl in school who was always the tiniest girl in class. The one that was like a foot and a half shorter than everyone else? Well, allow me to introduce myself. The only girl who was shorter than me was shorter because she was a hunchback and couldn’t stand up straight, and that is not even a joke.

On top of it, I wore glasses, and we were dirt ass poor.

I got bullied by this mean as fuck chick from grades 3-8. She used to hound me. Before school, after school, at recess, she used to steal shit out of my locker, beat me up, she spread fucked up rumors about me and on and on and on.

But the thing about that bitch that I hated the most was that she had the nicest dog, a black lab, that she had to walk after school and I used to see her kicking the shit out of that dog.

So living well is great.

But I would still love to catch that fucking whore in dark alley because she ain’t two feet taller anymore. And I am not a scared, introverted 8 year old anymore. I don’t want to gloat, I don’t want to act cool, I don’t want look all hot and smug (although that’s just a given ;)), I don’t want to cut her to ribbons with my razor sharp wit.

I just want to beat her til her fucking eyeballs pop.

Then light her on fire.

Obviously, I would not actually do any of this shit, but it sure is fun to think about when she pops into my memory from time to time.

Sabrina

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Knock him out. Pull his pants down and stick a tree branch in his ass and take some pictures. Print out multiple copies and tack them to all the poles and walls in your neighborhood. That should take care of it.

DB

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Re : bullies

Yup, make the fucker pay

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Sabrina, you’re so cool.

Seriously, everyone likes to play the I am such an advanced person, I am above anything like that, but to deny some satisfaction in letting someone know that they can no longer hurt you in a controlled non violent method can be satisfying… To deny that is to deny being human.

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Yeah, non violence.

I’ll probably just settle for blowing her husband at our high school reunion in a fashion from which he’ll never recover, then spitting his load in her hair on my way out.

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For what it is worth, some of us do grow out of wanting to hurt others because we have been hurt. It is a choice, I’ll admit, but a liberating one.

I have been bullied, alot as a kid, and since I grew up in Detroit, the real Detroit, I can assure you that much of that experience is above and beyond what many have had to endure from “bullies.” It’s in the past, however, and I’m not the prisoner of the past.

In spite of it all, I believe that until you move on, you are never free.

I see that many on this forum are not now, nor will ever be, free. I’m truly sorry.

For those that think “Living well” is a platitude not worthy of the time it takes to write it, I say - until you learn to deal with yourself, your pain, you are still being bullied by your memories. You are still that same scared kid. Pity.

Forgive yourself for being merely mortal, and get on with your life. It’s too short to waste in fantasy land, and those who offended you don’t care.

You don’t have to turn your back on the past, just turn your face toward the future.

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I don’t get why the guy asked you if anything happened, and you told him no and pretended like you didn’t remember anything.

It’s like you’re still scared of him, and you avoided confrontation, and now that you’re on the internet you want to beat his ass. I don’t really get that. Why didn’t you just tell him when he asked that he used to pick on you? He was probably going to apologize or something.

I don’t see why there’s all these glorious plans for revenge when the guy already had one shot and didn’t take it. Now it’s just kinda weird if you don’t move on.

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it’s this easy,

look at yourself, look at him, smile and be happy that you didn’t turn out the same and get over it.

I knew/know a kid who was bullied throughout middleschool and some high school, now the kid is borderline fucking psycho, here’s what happened.

He got tough, punched the kid in the face with a roll of dimes in his fist, busted the other dudes jaw (this was when he was back in high school). well, bully boy gets better and him and a few of his boys get drunk (and probably all sorts of whacked up) one night and come to the one guy’s house. They fuck up his car, his house, everything, and then threaten to kill him and his family. So the kid’s mom calls the cops, they get a restraining order and everything… FAST FORWARD 4 years and the kid who got bullied is now scared, he lives his life in fear. Maybe not of this bully, but just that someone could go nuts on him and beat his ass, so here he is almost 21 years old, and carries brass nuckles and a big knife in his pocket everywhere. Then, on top of that, he’s got a baseball bat in his truck at all times, and in case that isn’t enough, he’s got a crowbar. The kid has lost it. He lives his life in fear because ONE time he got tough with a nutcase, it probably ruined his life.

Go for it and beat your bullie’s ass if you’d like, but honestly, I suggest you get the fuck over it, and if he tries to pull some shit on you, you should know that you can handle him.

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Become best friends with him and then borrow money from him, fuck his wife and leave town.

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[quote]Sabrina wrote:
Yeah, non violence.

I’ll probably just settle for blowing her husband at our high school reunion in a fashion from which he’ll never recover, then spitting his load in her hair on my way out. [/quote]

LMAO!! Amazing

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[quote]Sabrina wrote:
Yeah, non violence.

I’ll probably just settle for blowing her husband at our high school reunion in a fashion from which he’ll never recover, then spitting his load in her hair on my way out. [/quote]

Damn.

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I didn’t get bullied in the clasical sense, but I grew up in a neighborhood where you got the shit kicked out of you until you started kicking back. When you did though, you better make it good, or then you would get realy stomped. It was good practice for when we got older and left the safety of our little area. We either learned to fight or learned not to.
The point is that if you didn’t learn it then, don’t bother now. There would be nothing more demoralizing than getting a head full of steam, thinking that being huge will help, only to have your ass handed to you again.Just because he’s a fat looser doesn’t mean he won’t beat the living shit out of you. You never know, he could be getting in bar fights every week or breaking fingers and noses over petty drug deals.
But if you can’t let it go, and know you can get away with it, beat him to death.

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I got bullied when I was a freshman in high school by a senior who was a freak of nature. We were on the hockey team bus and he saw my older sister and in front of everyone asked me what it was like to fuck her. He got a football scholarship and had everything. He got caught cheating on a test his second year and was expelled, moved back to our small town and has been a landscaper ever since.

I graduated high school at 140#s, went to college, discovered powerlifting and kickboxing, ate, got my degree, got an awesome job, ate some more, lifted some more and am 210#s. Went back to my hometown for the holidays one year and ran into him at a deli. I said hello and asked him if he remembered me. He said no and I explained who I was and that thing he said so many years ago. He told me he was very sorry for that and that he was a real loser back then. I said I was thinking about dragging him out of here and kicking his teeth in. He said he probably deserved that.

We ate our sandwiches on a bench out in front of the deli and had an excellent conversation. He’s a very decent guy. My wife and I have had dinner with his family a few times when we’re back there.
Maybe that guy wants to apologize to you. He remembers you. You’re too old for street fights and he doesn’t need an ass whipping from you now to remind him what a coward he was or maybe still is.

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Had this kid in 1st grade picked on me all the time. Hitting me, always fucking with me. Fast forward to 12th grade, I’m twice his size. I had to turn the table on him. Got him good too. But one thing, it was high school. I don’t think I would of pull the revenge shit on him as a grown adult. That fucker ended up wife and shitload of kids on welfare. I have a good paying job and living life. All I say is let the shit go.

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[quote]Sabrina wrote:
Yeah, non violence.

I’ll probably just settle for blowing her husband at our high school reunion in a fashion from which he’ll never recover, then spitting his load in her hair on my way out. [/quote]

Get the fuck out, that’s nice.