I feel for you Rusty. I remember the first time I ventured out to a strip club at the tender age of 18, and the stripper selected me to “de-bra” her. Well, my trembling two left hands couldn’t for the life of me work the clasps - much to the deriding jeers of the crowd. I’ve been married for 3 years and I still have problems. 
I use the old pinch and slide. I grab the clasp between thumb & forefinger and slide the fingers back toward the base of the thumb.
Whenever a woman is goodly enough to let me do it, I try not to F-up!!! That being said, what the hell is up with bra’s that unhitch from the front? Screw that, how are we supposed to know when we are reaching around your back that the bra has a front clasp?