[quote]KBgal wrote:
Got my goblets done this past weekend. Quarter of the way through the challenge as of Saturday. Wasn’t easy, as whatever bug I have has taken hold, but I knocked them out. Will see how far I can go. 
Warning: Rest of this post has nothing to do with training, so if you’re the type who prefers to read only about that, then you’ll want to leave now…
So, Friday night, I had a dream that I attended a business meeting at which I’ve been a regular for eons (in real life, I’ve been away for several weeks for personal reasons. These mtgs. have nothing to do with the day job but rather, are related to a biz I’m building alongside others in the industry). My dear friend and mentor, the woman who’s been running this particular meeting for a decade or so, called me to the front of the room to essentially take over her presentation for that night. I hesitated, since I’ve been away, but she smiled and said, “You got this.” I sailed right thru, easy-peasy.
Yesterday, she passed away. She fought bravely for some time against the stage IV breast cancer that was attacking her body. She was in her 40s and had a husband and two daughters. For a full year, many of us didn’t even know that she had cancer, despite the fact that she was undergoing treatments at the time. She showed up EVERY week to help us build and move our businesses forward - and on the rare occasions she was away, it was only for a few days, the meetings ran like clockwork, and there was no mention of illness. No excuses. The bracelets we sold to help raise funds for her experimental treatments say “Be an Overcomer!” Not sure that’s even a word, but it was VJ’s mantra.
Just a few weeks ago, I had a conversation with another close friend about death and how people often cry excessively when friends pass. We said that rather than being consumed by sorrow, it’s better to be happy that they feel no pain, and we should celebrate their lives. When we cry, yes, maybe it’s because we feel sorrow for the family that they’ve left behind, but more often, it’s because we’re being selfish and are sad for ourselves, because we miss them in our own lives. Well…I’m going to be selfish today (as evidenced by my eyes that are swollen not just from my cold but from my tears). I miss VJ SO much - but I’m thankful that I recognized while she was here why our paths crossed and that I was supposed to learn from her. I’m thankful, too, that I never failed to give her a hug upon parting ways and always literally said the words “I love you.” Do I do that with all my friends? No, I don’t. I guess I did it with her knowing that it could be the last time I’d see her - but really, isn’t it that way with everyone we see each day? Just sayin’. I may not say those words, but I try to let people know that they’ve made a difference and that they matter to me. Funny, too, how dealing w/death makes me realize again that I better move my ass and get to those things that I was put here to do sooner rather than later.
Have a good one, All. Haven’t known many of you for very long, but I appreciate you. (Ok, done rambling. Perhaps I should have posted this on my FB instead of here, but I’m loopy from meds. and this is the first place I logged on during lunch break. Just needed to unload. Carry on.) :)[/quote]
Thanks for sharing, KB. Life is indeed like a vapour that appears for a little while then vanishes away. There are lessons with every experience we face and I am glad you found nuggets of truth in this one and mined the gold from it.