Best Martial Art to Enroll Daughters In?

[quote]WRATHfight69 wrote:
For all out there that agreed with Bjj for your girls, I would now have to warn against it to an extent. my nephew and daughter were playing in our front yard and my nephew (3) jumped on my daughters (25mnths) back. well She is very found of watching daddy practice and watches me in my bjj classes with mommy. Wich is great motivation not to get my ass kicked but i digress to the latter story!

Upon him latching on she amazingly tucked forward and rolled him into a picture perfect armbar! upon shitt’n myself my GF screams at me, punches my shoulder and rushes to my nephews aid. I would have snaped a quick cell pic but i was far to busy starring in awe, But after my nephew stopped crying i realized something that i already knew CHILDREN ARE INFLUENCEABLE!

But this put a whole new spin on it this was straight out the door fuckn awesome, but i now have to decide for myself if she should continue watching daddy role with the big boys cause shes already taken them down in play not defense…but in all reality it was the shit you shoulda seen it damn i love my baby girl she got the gift waaahooo! [/quote]

Why on earth would this scenario be a reason to not allow her to watch any more? Play is practice for the real thing, and if she trains your little kitten is going to grow up to be a beautiful, strong, confident tiger! I think the difficult & important thing at such a young age is teaching them how to stop before they actually snap the arm or joint. I would have loved to have seen a picture of her taking that kid down!

Ok, I swear I am not trying to start shit with this question: Would you be as hesitant to let her continue to watch if she were a boy?

Not trying to continue arguing, just thought the post was interesting.

The title covers a typical exchange between the MMA and traditional martial art crowds when they start arguing. Usually, the arguments are something like this:

You need to know how to fight at all ranges, including the ground.
MMA is â??realâ?? because there are minimal rules and traditional arts suck because they donâ??t fight for â??realâ??.
Traditional arts are better because they focus on fighting without rules and the techniques used are ultra-mega-instantly lethal.
MMA doesnâ??t protect you against multiple opponents or weapons. In fact, MMA tactics get you killed in those situations.
And so on ad nauseam. If you want to read a typical example, try this at your own risk. Now at face value, all of these points are valid. Thereâ??s something to be said for each of them and to a degree, you canâ??t really fault the logic behind. Thereâ??s only one thing: theyâ??re all totally missing the point. As in, missed it by a mile. More on that later.

It reminds me of the old arguments of judo vs wrestling or boxing about 50-60 years ago. Later on karate hit the scene and it was compared to those too. This happened with every â??newâ?? martial art or combat sport to hit the big time over the decades. Just page through a few MA rags of 20-30 years ago and read the articles. Youâ??ll find itâ??s all there.

With the rise of the Internet, it got worse. Iâ??m old enough to have been training in the arts before there were chat rooms and bulletin boards. If you are too, you know what I mean. If youâ??re not, hereâ??s some perspective: It used to be a big ass argument about who would beat the other in a real fight: Bruce Lee or Chuck Norris. We all know what happened on film at the Colosseum but what if theyâ??d have gone at it for real?

You got long winding arguments that Chuck had fought in and won dozens of tournaments where Bruce never competed in anything so he sucked. The kung fu lovers would counter that Chuck only fought within rules where as Bruce had plenty of street fighting experience where anything goes. These are just two of the arguments and there were many, many more.

But donâ??t they ring a bell? Compare them to the latest fad in martial arts land, MMA, and look at the type of arguments I listed in the first paragraph. Itâ??s the same type of logic, over and over again. The inherent flaw in it is the lack of an overall picture regarding violence. I claim there are a few crucial elements missing in the logic chains. Hereâ??s what I said elsewhere:
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I train mostly in Chinese MAs. I have yet to find one that has anything resembling BJJ or any other ground fighting system. All that Iâ??ve seen is moves to get the other guy off/away from you and get up. Shuai Jiao (Chinese wrestling) has almost no techniques where you go to the ground to throw somebody (I know of only one but there might be more). Everything else is just putting the guy down and not following him.

Sanda/Sanshou matches allow all sorts of striking and throwing but no ground work. You get a penalty if you arenâ??t on your feet in three seconds after a throw, even if youâ??re the one throwing. You also fight on a platform, forcing you to take your environment into account. If you get tossed of the stage twice, you lose the round. And even though there are mattresses around the stage, it can hurt big time to fall off. Iâ??ve seen broken arms and guys flying into their coaches sitting a long way off as they were kicked off the stage.

All that to say this:

Maybe, just maybe thereâ??s a reason why fighting arts in China donâ??t go to the groundâ?¦ The way I learned it, if you fall on the ground, you die. No quarter was given nor expected. You got stomped to death, stabbed, speared, chopped up or run over by horses.

So your goal was not to fall and if you did, to get up as fast as you can. If you wanted to control somebody without hurting, you did the chin na (joint locks) every frikkinâ?? Chinese style forces you to learn.

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The whole key to the previous paragraphs is context. Context is king when fighting is involved. Iâ??ll explain in a bit, hereâ??s some more.
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Rules make the fight. Hereâ??s the list of fouls in the UFC:

Butting with the head.
Eye gouging of any kind.
Biting.
Hair pulling.
Fish hooking.
Groin attacks of any kind.
Putting a finger into any orifice or into any cut or laceration on an opponent.
Small joint manipulation.
Striking to the spine or the back of the head. (see Rabbit punch)
Striking downward using the point of the elbow.
Throat strikes of any kind, including, without limitation, grabbing the trachea.
Clawing, pinching or twisting the flesh.
Grabbing the clavicle.
Kicking the head of a grounded opponent.
Kneeing the head of a grounded opponent.
Stomping a grounded opponent.
Kicking to the kidney with the heel.
Spiking an opponent to the canvas on his head or neck. (see piledriver)
Throwing an opponent out of the ring or fenced area.
Holding the shorts or gloves of an opponent.
Spitting at an opponent.
Funny thing how these are the exact same things many traditional Chinese arts will turn to first against a grappler. They wonâ??t go for a sprawl and turn to a mount position simply because they donâ??t want to be on the ground. Theyâ??ll try to wrench the guyâ??s neck off as they rip his lips off and gouge out an eye. Easy to say then that traditional arts are crap in the Octagon. They werenâ??t made for it. Duhâ?¦

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This is one aspect of context. Now letâ??s follow this line of thinking a bit further:
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The UFC is not the only MMA game around. Take a look at Pride and youâ??ll see differences in the way they fight. The critical difference in rules is this:

Pride allows kicking and kneeing the head of a downed opponent who is on his back. This is considered a foul in the Unified Rules, which only allows kicks and knees to the head of a standing opponent.
Pride allows a fighter to stomp the head of a downed opponent. This is considered a foul in the Unified Rules.
Pride allows a fighter to Spike (piledriver) an opponent. This is considered a foul in the Unified Rules.
As soon as the stomping and soccer kicks start on a downed opponent, you see a totally different fight. The stompee gets into a defensive mode by turtling up or bringing his legs in front, tries to close the distance to grab the stomperâ??s legs and most of all, looks for an opening to get up. Iâ??ve yet to see one of these situations turn into anything but a frantic attempt at not getting knocked outâ?¦ Iâ??d like to offer

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And there it is: change just a couple of rules and the tactics and techniques used change too. Allowing to strike a downed opponent has a huge impact on the fight game. It forces you to react differently when you hit the ground. Pretty much like in a real street fightâ?¦

Now before you MMA fans starts howling for my blood, hereâ??s some more:
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I love MMA and trained in shoot fighting for a while; I had a blast there and would have continued to this day if the teacher hadnâ??t moved. But MAs and combat sport styles (like MMA) are just tools. They work great within a certain context and not so in others. Of course there is overlap but as Randy said, the differences are just as important.

People should get over themselves and learn to live and let live. I donâ??t see any military men arguing that the techniques and tactics for arctic warfare are better/worse/easier/etc. than those employed in the desert or in an urban environment. They seem to instinctively grasp the idea that snowshoes are great to speed up a foot soldier on snowy terrain but not so hot for cruising the streets of Fallujahâ?¦ Iâ??ve yet to see an argument break out over this. But a lot of martial artists seem unable to follow that line of thinking and apply it to their respective fighting arts.

I believe that context (environment) overrules everything you might think about how a fight should go. One small difference in context can force a totally different set of techniques on you. I really, for the life of me, canâ??t understand why itâ??s so hard to accept that. But apparently the egos and political crap are more important for a lot of folks. To each his own I guess.
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And thatâ??s where it all comes together. Traditional arts come from a totally different time and context. China 500 years ago was not like Boise, Idaho in 2009. You canâ??t just transpose the arts from that era to today. It doesnâ??t work like that, life is different today. Back then the situation was not what we live in: you learned to take care of yourself or you died:

There was no local PD like we have now. You couldnâ??t just call for a bunch of cops to come over and deal with the gang of looters/thieves/pillagers/bandits that came to town. Either you hid/ran and didnâ??t get caught or you fought.
If you fought and lost, you probably died.
If you fell down you probably got trampled by horses, speared, stabbed with a sword or stomped. And probably died.
If the fight with one guy took too long, his buddies would help him out and you probably died.
If you survived and were injured, chances were you ended up crippled or still died. Medicine then was not what it is now.
In event of a natural disaster, you took charge or you died. There was no fire brigade, national guard or rescue team coming.
There was no social security or health care like today. You got sick, injured, ran out of food; you probably died.
When you consider all these bullets (and the list is much longer but I wonâ??t go into it now), think of how stupid it would be for a Chinese guy from that era to spend his time learning a submission fighting system. It wouldnâ??t make any sense at all. If you showed him those moves, heâ??d shake his head and think youâ??re a crazy gwailoâ?¦Simply because in that time and context, fighting on the ground was not what you wanted to do to survive. Survival was a daily concern for most folks in those times. They didnâ??t need adrenal based scenario training because every day life gave them plenty of that already.

The problem with the whole discussion of MMA vs. traditional arts is this: in many many contexts outside of the cage or octagon, you still donâ??t want to go to the ground:

Any type of war or armed conflict involving hundreds/thousands of participants. A soldier never fights alone so going to the ground with one of them gets you killed by his buddies.
Any fight where weapons are involved. Or could be involved because you never know upfront what the other guy brings to the dance. A slit throat while youâ??re going for an armbar is not a good thing.
Any environment that puts you at risk when you go to the ground: rocky terrain, concrete, debris filled terrain, etc. You can hit your head when you slam into the floor, he can slam it into the concrete for you, grab a rock/bottle/whatever to mess you up, etc.
These are just a couple of criteria, the list is longer than that but Iâ??m just trying to make a point here: itâ??s not MMA vs. TMAs. Thatâ??s like arguing if a hammer is better than a screwdriver. Theyâ??re both tools and have their limits/uses. You donâ??t hear carpenters arguing over which is better, right?

In my opinion and experience, itâ??s the same with fighting arts. Theyâ??re tools and useful in some areas, not so much in others. Pick one you like and know where it works well while not ignoring the weaknesses. Feel free to disagree though, Iâ??m OK with my own choices and you should be with yours. Itâ??s your ass on the line when that crazy maniac swings a tire iron at your head, not mine.

Just as a parting shot: A soldier on active duty in a not so nice part of the world, a guy who converts people from living to dead said this:

Anybody know of a weapon (other than the rifle) that is best used from the ground?

That one sentence sums up the whole point I tried to make here. I can think of no personal weapon that is specifically designed to work better from the ground than standing up. Letâ??s expand on that and look at all weapons throughout the history of mankind. I canâ?? t find any examples. So maybe, just maybe, there is a good reason why going to the ground in a violent conflict is not always a good thingâ?¦

Caveat: this is just my opinion and personal experience. I wonâ??t get upset if you disagree with me. However, this blog is my house and so is the comments section. Feel free to share your thoughts and ideas there, youâ??re more than welcome. But rudeness or infantile arguing will not be tolerated. Lifeâ??s too short for that crap.

To fight is to lose…

Especially in the context of this discussion…

[quote]Miss Parker wrote:
WRATHfight69 wrote:
For all out there that agreed with Bjj for your girls, I would now have to warn against it to an extent. my nephew and daughter were playing in our front yard and my nephew (3) jumped on my daughters (25mnths) back. well She is very found of watching daddy practice and watches me in my bjj classes with mommy. Wich is great motivation not to get my ass kicked but i digress to the latter story!

Upon him latching on she amazingly tucked forward and rolled him into a picture perfect armbar! upon shitt’n myself my GF screams at me, punches my shoulder and rushes to my nephews aid. I would have snaped a quick cell pic but i was far to busy starring in awe, But after my nephew stopped crying i realized something that i already knew CHILDREN ARE INFLUENCEABLE!

But this put a whole new spin on it this was straight out the door fuckn awesome, but i now have to decide for myself if she should continue watching daddy role with the big boys cause shes already taken them down in play not defense…but in all reality it was the shit you shoulda seen it damn i love my baby girl she got the gift waaahooo!

Why on earth would this scenario be a reason to not allow her to watch any more? Play is practice for the real thing, and if she trains your little kitten is going to grow up to be a beautiful, strong, confident tiger! I think the difficult & important thing at such a young age is teaching them how to stop before they actually snap the arm or joint. I would have loved to have seen a picture of her taking that kid down!

Ok, I swear I am not trying to start shit with this question: Would you be as hesitant to let her continue to watch if she were a boy? [/quote]

I played rough and beat up my cousin ( 11 months younger than me ) who was my childhood playmate - repeatedly.
I never watched any one fight. It was in my nature to challenge and get physical. One day he came back for the school holidays ( he always spent vacation at my house ) and his testosterone had kicked in. He was a lot taller and more muscular but still skinny whereas I was more mass.
I punched him as usual and he punched back as usual. I realized how much more powerful he was then me and told him from then on only I was allowed to punch him as he was now in a position to really hurt me, being superior in power.

As long as the little girl learns that at puberty the name of the game changes and she has to play defensive I would let her be.

Respect for the fact men are superior in strength is what enables a woman to “fight”.

You don’t always have a choice of it going to the ground, especially a woman who is blindsided by a rapist. What if you can’t beat the guy standing? Then what? You either take it to the ground, if it’s feasible, or you run. If you can’t fight on the ground then you just run. Bruce Lee would not beat Tank Abbot in a stand up fight.

[quote]zecarlo wrote:
You don’t always have a choice of it going to the ground, especially a woman who is blindsided by a rapist. What if you can’t beat the guy standing? Then what? You either take it to the ground, if it’s feasible, or you run. If you can’t fight on the ground then you just run. Bruce Lee would not beat Tank Abbot in a stand up fight. [/quote]

Concerning being blind sided (male too but especially female) i have a quote from Kenshiro of the Northern Star:
“You’re already dead”.

Jokes aside: I don’t know of many women who can outrun men. In terms of pure speed and running technique.
Regardless, if a woman is walking somewhere from or to a party or work, chances are is that she will be wearing high heels.
High heels cause your feet to be over pronated (forces heel to land first, always, which is not great for the foot bones, ankles and knees) and their instability is the reason women have many feet problems. It’s not genetics. It’s not age. High heels do terrible things to your feet.
A woman caught in high heels cannot run.

Hopefully she will have the common sense to take the shoe off and use the heel to stick it in his eye ball.
Long nails too to slice the iris, no?

We are talking rape here, right?

[quote]legendaryblaze wrote:
zecarlo wrote:
You don’t always have a choice of it going to the ground, especially a woman who is blindsided by a rapist. What if you can’t beat the guy standing? Then what? You either take it to the ground, if it’s feasible, or you run. If you can’t fight on the ground then you just run. Bruce Lee would not beat Tank Abbot in a stand up fight.

Concerning being blind sided (male too but especially female) i have a quote from Kenshiro of the Northern Star:
“You’re already dead”.

Jokes aside: I don’t know of many women who can outrun men. In terms of pure speed and running technique.
Regardless, if a woman is walking somewhere from or to a party or work, chances are is that she will be wearing high heels.
High heels cause your feet to be over pronated (forces heel to land first, always, which is not great for the foot bones, ankles and knees) and their instability is the reason women have many feet problems. It’s not genetics. It’s not age. High heels do terrible things to your feet.
A woman caught in high heels cannot run.[/quote]

Also, in regard to striking (from a standing position) or using a weapon: it all assumes she will have the opportunity to face him and make a move before he does or have time to reach in he purse and grab a weapon. If a woman looks aware and ready and doesn’t look vulnerable or drop her guard and create an opportunity to get caught by surprise then chances are she won’t get attacked and what she does or doesn’t know is moot.

If she does get attacked then you can assume it’s because she did drop her guard or something and has been caught by surprise and will be grabbed and taken down before she can react. In the case of date and acquaintance rape, the most common by far, her guard will already be down. The major problem with most of the experts on self-defense is that they don’t take into account the unique situation of women and try to make extrapolations and assumptions based on their experiences as men. Again I ask, what martial art or combat sport was made with women in mind? They were all made by men for fighting other men.

[quote]zecarlo wrote:
legendaryblaze wrote:
zecarlo wrote:
You don’t always have a choice of it going to the ground, especially a woman who is blindsided by a rapist. What if you can’t beat the guy standing? Then what? You either take it to the ground, if it’s feasible, or you run. If you can’t fight on the ground then you just run. Bruce Lee would not beat Tank Abbot in a stand up fight.

Concerning being blind sided (male too but especially female) i have a quote from Kenshiro of the Northern Star:
“You’re already dead”.

Jokes aside: I don’t know of many women who can outrun men. In terms of pure speed and running technique.
Regardless, if a woman is walking somewhere from or to a party or work, chances are is that she will be wearing high heels.
High heels cause your feet to be over pronated (forces heel to land first, always, which is not great for the foot bones, ankles and knees) and their instability is the reason women have many feet problems. It’s not genetics. It’s not age. High heels do terrible things to your feet.
A woman caught in high heels cannot run.

Also, in regard to striking (from a standing position) or using a weapon: it all assumes she will have the opportunity to face him and make a move before he does or have time to reach in he purse and grab a weapon. If a woman looks aware and ready and doesn’t look vulnerable or drop her guard and create an opportunity to get caught by surprise then chances are she won’t get attacked and what she does or doesn’t know is moot.

If she does get attacked then you can assume it’s because she did drop her guard or something and has been caught by surprise and will be grabbed and taken down before she can react. In the case of date and acquaintance rape, the most common by far, her guard will already be down. The major problem with most of the experts on self-defense is that they don’t take into account the unique situation of women and try to make extrapolations and assumptions based on their experiences as men. Again I ask, what martial art or combat sport was made with women in mind? They were all made by men for fighting other men. [/quote]

None! That is because you cannot fight a lion by using sheep. Men are suited for fighting and war. Women are not. There are many reasons women aren’t allowed in infantry roles in many armies around the world.

I am trying to look at it from a woman’s perspective. It’s funny that you were you telling us a minute ago that bjj is perfect for women and now you’re telling us we’re not thinking about women in self defense situations.

If another man were to grab you (thinking as a woman), what would you do in these situations?
-Assuming he has you grabbed from behind.
-Assuming he’s facing you and has hold of your wrists
-Approaching you in a very threatening manner and 5 feet away

You can pick if you are wearing high heels or not. You are carrying a purse but there is nothing in there that can be used as a weapon in any way (unless you have a spray deodorant and lighter).

(If your answer is “throw him and then put him in an arm bar” to any of these questions, you are a dumb ass. lol)

[quote]legendaryblaze wrote:
zecarlo wrote:
legendaryblaze wrote:
zecarlo wrote:
You don’t always have a choice of it going to the ground, especially a woman who is blindsided by a rapist. What if you can’t beat the guy standing? Then what? You either take it to the ground, if it’s feasible, or you run. If you can’t fight on the ground then you just run. Bruce Lee would not beat Tank Abbot in a stand up fight.

Concerning being blind sided (male too but especially female) i have a quote from Kenshiro of the Northern Star:
“You’re already dead”.

Jokes aside: I don’t know of many women who can outrun men. In terms of pure speed and running technique.
Regardless, if a woman is walking somewhere from or to a party or work, chances are is that she will be wearing high heels.
High heels cause your feet to be over pronated (forces heel to land first, always, which is not great for the foot bones, ankles and knees) and their instability is the reason women have many feet problems. It’s not genetics. It’s not age. High heels do terrible things to your feet.
A woman caught in high heels cannot run.

Also, in regard to striking (from a standing position) or using a weapon: it all assumes she will have the opportunity to face him and make a move before he does or have time to reach in he purse and grab a weapon. If a woman looks aware and ready and doesn’t look vulnerable or drop her guard and create an opportunity to get caught by surprise then chances are she won’t get attacked and what she does or doesn’t know is moot.

If she does get attacked then you can assume it’s because she did drop her guard or something and has been caught by surprise and will be grabbed and taken down before she can react. In the case of date and acquaintance rape, the most common by far, her guard will already be down. The major problem with most of the experts on self-defense is that they don’t take into account the unique situation of women and try to make extrapolations and assumptions based on their experiences as men. Again I ask, what martial art or combat sport was made with women in mind? They were all made by men for fighting other men.

None! That is because you cannot fight a lion by using sheep. Men are suited for fighting and war. Women are not. There are many reasons women aren’t allowed in infantry roles in many armies around the world.

I am trying to look at it from a woman’s perspective. It’s funny that you were you telling us a minute ago that bjj is perfect for women and now you’re telling us we’re not thinking about women in self defense situations.

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Yea well don’t forget a Gracie made a rape video with “experts.” So obviously it works.

Don’t bother. He’s a dipshit.

[quote]legendaryblaze wrote:
None! That is because you cannot fight a lion by using sheep. Men are suited for fighting and war. Women are not. There are many reasons women aren’t allowed in infantry roles in many armies around the world.

I am trying to look at it from a woman’s perspective. It’s funny that you were you telling us a minute ago that bjj is perfect for women and now you’re telling us we’re not thinking about women in self defense situations.

If another man were to grab you (thinking as a woman), what would you do in these situations?
-Assuming he has you grabbed from behind.
-Assuming he’s facing you and has hold of your wrists
-Approaching you in a very threatening manner and 5 feet away

You can pick if you are wearing high heels or not. You are carrying a purse but there is nothing in there that can be used as a weapon in any way (unless you have a spray deodorant and lighter).

(If your answer is “throw him and then put him in an arm bar” to any of these questions, you are a dumb ass. lol)[/quote]

Did I say BJJ is perfect? I said that it will be a grappling and ground fight so BJJ is the practical option.

The answer to all 3 is use dim-mak. It works so well for men.

[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:
Yea well don’t forget a Gracie made a rape video with “experts.” So obviously it works.

Don’t bother. He’s a dipshit.[/quote]

Better than someone whose knowledge comes from bar fights. The hockey clinch move will really work for a woman. Of course, she has to be tall enough to reach the hood and obviously he’ll need to be wearing one.

And he’s a dipshit who would beat you, in a bar, on a beach, in a plane, in your dreams and anywhere else. You know this.

[quote]zecarlo wrote:
legendaryblaze wrote:
None! That is because you cannot fight a lion by using sheep. Men are suited for fighting and war. Women are not. There are many reasons women aren’t allowed in infantry roles in many armies around the world.

I am trying to look at it from a woman’s perspective. It’s funny that you were you telling us a minute ago that bjj is perfect for women and now you’re telling us we’re not thinking about women in self defense situations.

If another man were to grab you (thinking as a woman), what would you do in these situations?
-Assuming he has you grabbed from behind.
-Assuming he’s facing you and has hold of your wrists
-Approaching you in a very threatening manner and 5 feet away

You can pick if you are wearing high heels or not. You are carrying a purse but there is nothing in there that can be used as a weapon in any way (unless you have a spray deodorant and lighter).

(If your answer is “throw him and then put him in an arm bar” to any of these questions, you are a dumb ass. lol)

Did I say BJJ is perfect? I said that it will be a grappling and ground fight so BJJ is the practical option.

The answer to all 3 is use dim-mak. It works so well for men.[/quote]

Very funny.
Answer the questions.

[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:
legendaryblaze wrote:

Very funny.
Answer the questions.

That is useless. I asked numerous questions of him and he didn’t answer one, simply kept repeating the same mantra over and over. Typical of the MMA brotards who think that BJJ is the answer to everything.[/quote]

Shut the fuck up. What do you know? You’ve only been in street fights and have tons of experience concerning fights.
What good is that? Arm chair warriors is what it’s all about.
BJJ is totally the answer to everything.
Duh.

[quote]legendaryblaze wrote:
zecarlo wrote:
legendaryblaze wrote:
None! That is because you cannot fight a lion by using sheep. Men are suited for fighting and war. Women are not. There are many reasons women aren’t allowed in infantry roles in many armies around the world.

I am trying to look at it from a woman’s perspective. It’s funny that you were you telling us a minute ago that bjj is perfect for women and now you’re telling us we’re not thinking about women in self defense situations.

If another man were to grab you (thinking as a woman), what would you do in these situations?
-Assuming he has you grabbed from behind.
-Assuming he’s facing you and has hold of your wrists
-Approaching you in a very threatening manner and 5 feet away

You can pick if you are wearing high heels or not. You are carrying a purse but there is nothing in there that can be used as a weapon in any way (unless you have a spray deodorant and lighter).

(If your answer is “throw him and then put him in an arm bar” to any of these questions, you are a dumb ass. lol)

Did I say BJJ is perfect? I said that it will be a grappling and ground fight so BJJ is the practical option.

The answer to all 3 is use dim-mak. It works so well for men.

Very funny.
Answer the questions.
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What I would do would vary according to the specific circumstances. What I do know is that biting, palm strikes, eye pokes, and other strikes wouldn’t be first on the list. In fact, in the first two scenarios they would be impossible. In short, a grappling response would be the initial reaction. In the last scenario, thinking I am a woman and thus smaller, weaker, etc., I would think about getting the hell away. Even if I had a weapon, 5 feet doesn’t give me enough time to get it out if it’s in my purse. The problem is that 5 feet is very close so to turn and run from there is not really much of a head start so I would end up giving my back up. So ideally I would want to stand my ground and maybe hit him first but I wouldn’t count on it incapacitating him enough to give me the chance to run. It could happen but I couldn’t rely on that and should be ready for a fight in which he will be able to take me down.

That’s my point about BJJ; you can’t ignore the ground and have to be ready for it. More likely than not you will end up there.

[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:
legendaryblaze wrote:

Very funny.
Answer the questions.

That is useless. I asked numerous questions of him and he didn’t answer one, simply kept repeating the same mantra over and over. Typical of the MMA brotards who think that BJJ is the answer to everything.[/quote]

No, it depends on the questions. In this case women’s self-defense. Bar fighting does not answer that. And Rorion or Royce would beat you as would most mma fighters. A lot of them have probably been in more fights as well and that includes the street. Renzo was in plenty of fights in a third world country (though NJ can almost qualify) does that mean he knows more than you? I don’t know how you got the impression that BJJ equals mma equals a sport and thus has nothing to do with reality. BJJ was about reality decades before mma ever existed.

[quote]zecarlo wrote:
legendaryblaze wrote:
zecarlo wrote:
legendaryblaze wrote:
None! That is because you cannot fight a lion by using sheep. Men are suited for fighting and war. Women are not. There are many reasons women aren’t allowed in infantry roles in many armies around the world.

I am trying to look at it from a woman’s perspective. It’s funny that you were you telling us a minute ago that bjj is perfect for women and now you’re telling us we’re not thinking about women in self defense situations.

If another man were to grab you (thinking as a woman), what would you do in these situations?
-Assuming he has you grabbed from behind.
-Assuming he’s facing you and has hold of your wrists
-Approaching you in a very threatening manner and 5 feet away

You can pick if you are wearing high heels or not. You are carrying a purse but there is nothing in there that can be used as a weapon in any way (unless you have a spray deodorant and lighter).

(If your answer is “throw him and then put him in an arm bar” to any of these questions, you are a dumb ass. lol)

Did I say BJJ is perfect? I said that it will be a grappling and ground fight so BJJ is the practical option.

The answer to all 3 is use dim-mak. It works so well for men.

Very funny.
Answer the questions.

What I would do would vary according to the specific circumstances. What I do know is that biting, palm strikes, eye pokes, and other strikes wouldn’t be first on the list. In fact, in the first two scenarios they would be impossible.
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Biting and some strikes (knee/kick to the groin/knee cap/inside of ankle, foot stomps, headbutts) would all be not only possible but probably not a bad idea in the second scenario, even if just to weaken his grip to allow you to use some form of grappling manuver to break his grip on one or both hands and continue with a striking assault or run.

In the first scenario you could possibly still footstomp, headbutt and maybe strike the groin (depending on how they grabbed you), but I wouldn’t disagree that trying to create space, lower your center of gravity, possibly hook his calf with your foot to avoid being picked up, and finger locking would all be good options as well.

If an attacker were dumb enough to give their intentions away like the last scenario, then consider yourself lucky as that is not an intelligent or very experienced attacker. Someone smart will not give away their intentions until they are already on top of you.

In such a scenario if I were a woman (and thus justified in using a higher level of force due to the force disparity) I would probably go right for their ability to see (eyes), breath (throat), or think (KO) that is, once they got close enough to where I knew that they wouldn’t be able to react in time to stop me. I would attack visciously and explosively and then get the hell out of there as soon as possible. I wouldn’t be worried about what “style” I was using to defend myself or what arsenal was “better”, I would just use whatever came naturally and presented itself.

Being prepared to be able to fight on the ground is an essential skill IMO (even if it’s just knowing how to get off the ground as soon as possible), but to suggest that more than likely you will end up there I simply don’t agree with. Most people you fight aren’t going to be high level grapplers who are going to execute textbook double and single leg takedowns on you. The average person is likely to do more of a “football tackle”, or just try to grab a hold of you and do some sort of bastardized hip throw or trip. Such techniques can be easily countered with relatively little strength required if you know what you’re doing. Heck, even technically good takedowns can be countered with relatively little to no strength required if you’ve got the technique down.

We were actually practicing a single leg defense (which could just as easily be applied to a double or high crotch) using just one finger of one hand this past weekend. If you know what you’re doing it takes a ridiculously little amount of strength to stop a takedown. Now, would I suggest someone trying to stop a takedown using just one finger for real? No. I’d suggest using both hands, sprawling to further increase your chances of success, and using all of the other basic wrestling skills. The drill was simply to demonstrate that if you’ve got your technique down you don’t need to use brute force to overcome their strength. And anyone, be they man, woman or child could make this technique work supposing that they had the requisite skill.

Sento, I understand what you are saying but when I was talking about it going to the ground I was referring to an assault on a woman. A rapist wants it on the ground and given his size and strength advantage it will be hard for a woman to avoid it. If all she relies on is a quick strike then she is putting all her hopes in one basket.

The thing people get confused about in regard to BJJ is that they think the BJJer wants to be on the ground, that he wants to fight off his back, when the only time you want to go to the ground is when you have no other choice. And by choice I don’t simply mean it’s the only option for the BJJer to take but also when the other guy puts you there. If you are 150 pounds and a 250 pound man wants to beat you senseless and you can’t avoid it what art are you going to want to know?

[quote]legendaryblaze wrote:

If another man were to grab you (thinking as a woman), what would you do in these situations?
-Assuming he has you grabbed from behind.
-Assuming he’s facing you and has hold of your wrists
-Approaching you in a very threatening manner and 5 feet away

(If your answer is “throw him and then put him in an arm bar” to any of these questions, you are a dumb ass. lol)[/quote]

Hmmm…okay, I’m a woman & here’s what I’d do. Well, let’s first assume that I don’t freeze, or cover up & start screaming & crying & begging & panicing. Because that’s maybe what most people would actually do. Here’s what I’ve done in training these exact scenarios & so what I hope I’d actually do in real life:

Grabbed from behind: Bear hug? Base out & start throwing elbows if my arms are free until I can spin around & face him to go into combatives. If my arms are caught base out shift my hips & groin strike backward, strike with the heel, stomp the instep, etc. This is a very bad position for me. Just grabbing my hair, clothes or arm? Spin into the grab with a back hammerfist or elbow(no choice but to go into it if you’re grabbed hard & pulled, which is most likely) & attack w/ strikes to the throat, eyes, throw headbutts, knees, etc. If he really wants to take me to the ground & he’s quite large my basing out probably won’t work because I weigh less than most guys. But my takedown preventions are improving, so who knows?

Facing me & holding my wrists? He’s an idiot for attacking me like this because his hands are occupied as well as mine. For his stupidity, he richly deserves the onslaught of continual kicks to the groin, headbutts, knees & bites he will receive until he lets go & gets an elbow in the face. Or several - my teacher says what will keep me alive is to “keep striking until his fucking face explodes”.

Approaching me in a very threatening manner from 5 feet away? Too late to run, by the time I’ve turned to flee he’ll be on me & have my back. Get into fighting stance, start yelling at him to get back, & if he doesn’t, when he gets into range, strike first, hard, & continually with whatever makes sense from his appoach. Strike until he is no longer capable of striking so I can run away.

If it all goes to hell & we end up on the ground, fight like an animal until I can get up & run away.

Zecarlo, you’ve mentioned several times that most rapes are aquaintance-type situations. But I wonder if its correct to think that such a victim is just pounced on, taken by surprise & taken to the ground, where she must then defend herself. Maybe, but I’m thinking that there will be warnings in such a situation that something very bad is about to go down. We never really talk about these ‘known attacker’ scenarios in class, because its all just combatives, but I think its a good idea to talk about de-escalation & just recognizing the clues that predators give out. A date rape or aquaintance rape/attack is something that should be prevented long before it gets to the crisis point. I think we’ll talk about that in class tomorrow.

[quote]zecarlo wrote:
Sento, I understand what you are saying but when I was talking about it going to the ground I was referring to an assault on a woman. A rapist wants it on the ground and given his size and strength advantage it will be hard for a woman to avoid it. If all she relies on is a quick strike then she is putting all her hopes in one basket.

The thing people get confused about in regard to BJJ is that they think the BJJer wants to be on the ground, that he wants to fight off his back, when the only time you want to go to the ground is when you have no other choice. And by choice I don’t simply mean it’s the only option for the BJJer to take but also when the other guy puts you there. If you are 150 pounds and a 250 pound man wants to beat you senseless and you can’t avoid it what art are you going to want to know? [/quote]

Oh, I’m not disagreeing that a grappling art such as BJJ isn’t going to be beneficial should you wind up on the ground in a self defense scenario. I think that someone should be able to fight from any position they find themselves in; purposely avoiding any position that you may find yourself in a real fight just doesn’t make much sense to me. I personally don’t want to avoid training anything that might one day save my life or the life of a loved one, and I can’t see why anyone else would want to either.