Totally agree.
Part of borderline is changing of one’s own identity. Going from lesbian to straight is indicative.
That many partners, at 33, is startling to me also.
She also had a history of basically scissoring other girls her age, at 7. This SCREAMS bizarre.
She really needs medical attention coupled with therapy and anti-depressants.
And, brother, the fact that you kept going back just because she was good in bed speaks something about you too. You probably wanted to “rescue her” but some people cant be rescued.
She’s been in counseling for trauma for years. And she’s on 2 antipsychotic meds.
I need to figure out what the draw for me is. I know I cannot fix her.
You prefer the chaos you know vs the chaos of the unknown.
There is something to your comment.
I do find myself thinking who she’s with, or how she’s feeling. That’s kind of common after a break up though I believe.
You have been thinking those things for a while now. It’s a habit. Habits don’t break overnight.
Definitely.
I wish I had the answer of how to break obsessive thoughts.
Time.
You need to delete her number from your phone, delete all texts and pictures and block her number. Then get on Tinder or Bumble or something to see other women
I’m this way too. For me, the best thing is to stay busy and occupied.
Every time you think about her I want you to picture yourself doing time for assault. Picture the prison jumpsuit, the loss of all your assets etc… because that’s what’s going to happen eventually when she tries to hit you with a chair or stab you. I had a buddy who got his protein shakes poisoned.
Evry single time you think about her think of riding in the back of a cop car.
A. This is where I met her; and
B. Already back on.
I’ve never used this so I have to ask, did not say she had kids? Seriously, do you know what it would be like to raise somebody’s children?
Is he sure it wasn’t just the vanilla flavor?
I knew she had kids, but she’s very attractive and I couldn’t help it. In hindsight, I feel guilty for even allowing it to go further than just a couple dates and sex. Lesson learned.
Good to hear. Talking it out here helps too, I’m sure. Lots of us have made mistakes when it comes to women. Its a big ass club, and I’m the president! LOL
Honestly, I’m really battling this right now. The depression is awful. I know it will pass, but still.
It’s not the typical relationship, and not the typical break up. It’s mind twisting.
A change of scenery can help. Can you take a trip or go see family for Christmas? Maybe a cruise or a ski trip? Just something to get out of your routine?
Do you think you should be on a dating site so soon considering this?
What is your ultimate aim with a woman (or women)? Marriage and kids, a rotation of girlfriends, flings?
Nope. You’re right. I agree as I’m no where near ready, mentally.
I should just delete it, but on some level, talking to other women is helpful. But, it leads them on. So I need to consider deleting.