not really, it would just be very awkward and I’d have one less friend
Maybe one of these next gym sessions you can just casually drop something like “man, being a voluntarily celibate lesbian sure is a tough lifestyle”.
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Some like sausage. Others prefer eggs. Some like both on the same plate.
Then there’s vegans.
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Not sure if this will turn him down or turn him on lol
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“like” like? Or like you’re surprised again that someone would like you for being you with no additional benefit for themself out of the friendship?
I presume the first one but I can’t be sure here. How does it make you feel and how sure are you about his intent?
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Plus we all know how disgusted and turned off Anna is by dudes who lift and love cooking.
Pretty sure. He asked if he could hug me (I refused)- thank god for covid…
He is very nice and for all intents and purposes meets most of my requirements but if he expects physical contact, then it’s not going to work
Ha!!
I never thought that my friend(that one) actually liked me in a “real” romantic way. When I talk about liking him or wondering if he “likes” me, it’s more in a “I think we would be very productive as coauthors” way. Time spent together or helping each other (admittedly very one sided) is an investment of sorts.
Edit: until I finish grad school, I’m looking for a “we would be productive as coauthors” type relationship
Yeah, odds are he is attracted to you and working up the nerve to ask you out. He probably thinks you are out of his league (let’s be honest, you are a young, in-shape, smart, petite woman - many people will be attracted to you).
If he does ask you out - I suggest saying yes. What’s the worst that happens? You get free dinner?
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Woah, slow down with the dirty talk, it is getting straight up crazy in here.
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Ends up preynit living next door to me in a knife fight over Newports.
Think that’s crazy? Well, it just happened the other night after they ran out of beer.
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I hug all of my female friends and most of my male friends as well. Just saying, haha.
Not to say that you’re wrong.
Also him “liking” you and you turning him down wouldn’t necessarily mean you’ll lose a friend. Friends can overcome that.
I am aware of that and that’s exactly why I asked.
After that you plan to change your whole approach to relationships?
@Cyrrex I did laugh at that, although I’m hesitant to like the comment because I’m not sure if you’re going too far or not with taking the piss (like literally no idea).
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Not to derail her thread… but didn’t you just go through this? How’d that turn out?
I’d agree if Anna had normal attitudes towards relationships.
But she outright stated several times that she is not interested in a romantic relationship.
I’ve asked out a friend who made it indirectly clear through our talks that she’s not interested in any romantic relationship. She accepted and I thought we had a great time. She then rejected me the next time I asked her out and began ignoring me.
In hindsight, I’d much rather prefer if she just rejected me from the start and told me that she’d like to remain friends. I liked talking with her.
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Yep, you’re right. Well, I’d say it turned out somewhat okay. We’re not quite back where we left off as friends tbh. but I think we might be able to get there eventually.
Although what I meant was they CAN overcome but there’s no guarantee, haha.
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maybe. I have no idea.
Even if I WANT to change my approach during grad school, I won’t
great! I have nothing to worry about then
I find @cyrrex funny
Oh me too! I just wasn’t sure if his type of humor, that I very much enjoy, was making you uncomfortable.
You don’t have to. There’s no obligation to ever date. Some people for example are asexual and aromantic and that’s completely fine.
Just consider this: If you’re solely basing this decision on building the “best” possible future Anna (like you’re planning to build a robot for example), you’re going to miss out on learning opportunities that you might not get back in that manner.
I didn’t say that, haha. But you shouldn’t be afraid of open communication.
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Just be clear with him if he makes any sort of romantic overture that you’re not interested in that sort of relationship. If he’s a friend and a decent person, he’ll accept that and move on. If he can’t accept that, he was never your friend and you haven’t really lost anything.
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If she turns this man down and he goes on to get 4 papers published you do realize she’ll be coming for you? Can you handle 103lbs of fury?
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He’s an ECE major who plans on getting hired by a tech company to get a work visa.
you don’t have to worry about that 
The con is that there’s no opportunity for a semi- permanent co- author
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If she were talking about her academics friend I might have to worry about that, but this is her gym friend so I think I’m safe. 
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