I watched the Crossfit Games the other day and some of the guys there were snatching 300lbs. Made me realise I’m not good enough.
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You weak c*** 
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@jshaving @rroo @dagill2
It’s not just that he published the paper, I like him more because of his work ethic.
A bulk of this work is as done last semester, when he had an overloaded schedule, was TA for two classes, answering my maths questions, and acting as president of ERC
I started feeling a bit over my head taking only 1 hard courses, barely doing any RA work and waiting for my advisor to respond so I could move on with my own project
Right now, I waste a lot of time and don’t really feel like I’m putting full effort into anything, whether that’s research, workouts, maths…
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What does your therapist say?
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Guys, I want the record to show that I have STILL not managed to publish any papers.
Anna, I bet you could make a list of things that you are far better at than your friend is. People are different. Which is why it is tricky when it gets to comparing yourself to others.
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Especially when you self select for that one special individual who’s ahead of you.
There is always someone better than you. There is always someone who’s achieved more, with less. Its not difficult to find those people, all it does is damage your own self image and sense of reality.
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It’s way too easy to compare and feel like you haven’t achieved anything. I remember specifically in 2011 Trevor Bayne won the Daytona 500 at 20 years old and I quite literally had an existential meltdown that I hadn’t achieved anything at the age of 21 even though I was graduating with my Bachelor’s that spring.
After a while I realized this dude had been racing for over 15 years. I to this day have only done one thing consistently for 15 years - lift weights. The constant comparison to others was making me miserable. I still do the comparison thing from time to time, but I am quicker to shut it down realizing that it’s not a productive place to put my energy.
It sounds like this guy is older than you too…that means he has learned to juggle responsibility better. That comes only with time and experience.
She says that I could be burnt out, but my workload is so little that I don’t get how I could be burnt out
@Cyrrex im not sure if the world is ready for what you’d write… 
I’m a marginally better writer, much fitter/stronger(he doesn’t care about fitness and chooses to work instead of workout) and a much better cook (he doesn’t care about food)
@dagill2 @cyclonengineer its not necessarily the achievement, it’s the work ethic behind the achievement. For example on this forum I’m not trying to match flap, pwn or chonglorduno’s numbers/times, I’m trying to match their work ethic and ability to endure suck
Also, he’s the same age as me
The sheer amount of stress you put on yourself will well take care of the gap set by any external stress.
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About me or about you? Not sure what you mean…
That he cares or doesn’t care about those things is immaterial for this discussion in terms of comparing oneself to others.
It might matter because you are in love with him or something ahahaha 
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I am not sure how much more clear I can make it that none of what I do is work ethic.
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Work ethic is a tricky thing anyway. I train 6 and sometimes 7 days a week. It isn’t because I have good work ethic, it is because I love it. It is for sure counter-productive. I should skip days and take deloads, but I don’t. Work ethic my butt.
About you, based on what you’ve revealed about your thinking patterns
LOL that’s way off the table. Other than research stuff, we have very little in common.but yes, I do like him
Despite what people think, this is not a prerequisite for love.
Also, I believe emphasis on “work ethic” above all else is a very American notion. The idea is that one can outwork any circumstance or achieve any level of social status simply by busting one’s hump more than the next person. This is demonstrably false.
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Not sure, my parents and grandparents grew up with this notion too, although back then in China, social mobility was quite real
Curious. I am, by my own thinking, an oddball. There are things I think I am pretty good at, but on the other hand I am keenly aware that for every one of those things, there is someone here who is better, and often times WAY BETTER. I like to be a little bit good at everything, but even if I look just a little bit closer, I am definitely not good at everything. I am okay with this. I think we should be competing with ourselves. Even if I call out @dagill2 in his log and we get competitive about something, it is just in fun and to help motivate. Demand a lot from yourself, but do it for yourself.
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100%
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Thanks for this post
I do workout and cook for myself. That’s why I avoid competitions or even timing myself on conditioning workouts
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I’m just quoting this for emphasis. Stress is exhausting and eats up so much of your body and brain’s resources.
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@Bagsy reads more than I do. But I am further along in my journey and reaping the rewards of all of the books, articles, and research I read so rapaciously at her age.
@T3hPwnisher does more of most things than I do. But I think I enjoy my work more than he does his, and I don’t have to eat icky things because I’m mentally weak, thank God.
@Chris_Colucci has more patience than I have. Oh, wait…that’s not even true. I just remembered what I do. So @Chris_Colucci is better at writing out his patient thoughts than I am. I occasionally get to see people lift off and fly for my efforts, though, and I’m rarely the victim of an attempted emasculation.
My husband has more practical knowledge than I have and is much, much stronger. I believe he may be more intelligent than I am. But I run faster and don’t butcher the English language the way he does.
It’s silly to choose only the areas of perceived deficit when comparing.
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