You’ve come a long way in a short time, Spock! I think you’re headed in the right direction.
This guy knew you would be a doormat to his sexual needs from the start. Then he got greedy when he had an opportunity with other girls that wanted to fuck him and he didn’t need to consider your feelings when he was balls deep. It’s DONE silly! He got what wanted, don’t try and rescue this. Fucking him again is a green light that you are okay with being his cum dumpster. Him telling you to find your next boyfriend is him saying he doesn’t see an actual relationship with you and hoping you move on so he doesn’t look bad when makes the other girl is his full time Girlfriend a week from now and you go psycho. You’ve been had.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]hockechamp14 wrote:
Get your street fighter action figure back before you do anything drastic![/quote]
hahaha I know right?! And it was Ryu no less…[/quote]
Whatever, fuckin Ryu was the dumbest. Guile for life.
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]hockechamp14 wrote:
Get your street fighter action figure back before you do anything drastic![/quote]
hahaha I know right?! And it was Ryu no less…[/quote]
Whatever, fuckin Ryu was the dumbest. Guile for life.[/quote]
Asura >>>>> all of SF collectively
When is Tnation going to cover Spock’s love life?
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
You’ve come a long way in a short time, Spock! I think you’re headed in the right direction.[/quote]
X 2[/quote]
X 1000
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]hockechamp14 wrote:
Get your street fighter action figure back before you do anything drastic![/quote]
hahaha I know right?! And it was Ryu no less…[/quote]
Whatever, fuckin Ryu was the dumbest. Guile for life.[/quote]
Asura >>>>> all of SF collectively[/quote]
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[quote]Yogi wrote:
it sounds like you are quite young, you may find guys your age are mostly after the fuck buddy thing.
You’ll find a boyfriend eventually, just don’t give it up so easy next time if you want the relationship not to be based entirely around sex. Not that a relationship definitely would be if you have sex immediately, but there’s definitely more of a chance it will be if you do.
Definitely not a bitch though, don’t worry.[/quote]
This, there’s a balance to it you will learn. Sex is something you can use to keep guys under control, but it’s not something you should have to rely on.
A guy can desire and respect you. If he can’t do both of those things at the same time you should look elsewhere. The bit about what a guy does vs. what he says is some of the best advice you can get, that goes for men and women.
That thing leaving the toy in the bathroom is golden, it’s the sort of play a guy should appreciate if he’s really into you.
I gotta be honest, outside of SmilingPolitely’s post, this is a joke of a thread. You need to go see a professional. Someone who doesn’t have a internet psych degree. One of your biggest issues is wanting/needing attention. You need to get that under control. To post something intimate & expect actual ‘help responses’ is careless. These people who post ‘way to go’, they don’t know you. They don’t have a clue as to what else is going on in your life. To many variables to give a accurate response. You’re a grown woman for fucks sake, act like one.
[quote]Ronan wrote:
I gotta be honest, outside of SmilingPolitely’s post, this is a joke of a thread. You need to go see a professional. Someone who doesn’t have a internet psych degree. One of your biggest issues is wanting/needing attention. You need to get that under control. To post something intimate & expect actual ‘help responses’ is careless. These people who post ‘way to go’, they don’t know you. They don’t have a clue as to what else is going on in your life. To many variables to give a accurate response. You’re a grown woman for fucks sake, act like one.[/quote]
Let me get this right.
The people who have replied, myself included, seem to have set a positive tone and reminded her that these sort of bumps in life happen. I’d call it general advice. I don’t recall anyone going so far as to make a mental diagnosis, that’s for sure.
And we’re internet psychologists, correct?
You, on the other hand, have diagnosed her root condition from afar and concluded that she needs to see a professional (professional what, anyway?) to get her attention-seeking disorder under control.
And you are the voice of reason?
I think the OP can decide for herself to take or leave the advice she’s been given here. And she can certainly decide for herself if she needs professional help. She is a grown woman, for fucks sake.
LOL!
Ya, ya, ya, I need medical attention STAT.
Gimmie all your paxil. Lock me away. Straight jacket, oh fa sho.
I’ve heard it a million times, blah blah.
I like my internet friends on here. They help me think about things from a different perspective.
So I truly thank you all who offered opinions.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
LOL!
Ya, ya, ya, I need medical attention STAT.
Gimmie all your paxil. Lock me away. Straight jacket, oh fa sho.
I’ve heard it a million times, blah blah.
I like my internet friends on here. They help me think about things from a different perspective.
So I truly thank you all who offered opinions. [/quote]
Look just take the positives out of this experience and ditch this guy and the rest of it. One thing you did get is, you saw glimmers of the way you want to be treated by a man. At least now you know what that looks like and when the real thing comes along you won’t be so surprised.
[quote]Ronan wrote:
You need to go see a professional. Someone who doesn’t have a internet psych degree.
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[quote]Ronan wrote:
One of your biggest issues is wanting/needing attention. You need to get that under control.[/quote]
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]Ronan wrote:
You need to go see a professional. Someone who doesn’t have a internet psych degree.
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[quote]Ronan wrote:
One of your biggest issues is wanting/needing attention. You need to get that under control.[/quote]
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Honestly, I agree that she should see a professional.
A good massage therapist can do wonders. Stay with the professionals and not the guy on craigslist who will come to your house and massage you for free.
Retirement planning is not something people should go at alone either. Get a professional. There is no better time than now to start planning for your future.
And I don’t think anyone’s ever truly lived until they hire a professional chef for a day.
With 100% of the votes in, the results are?BETTER WOMAN.
Classic TN;
Guy posts relationship problems, get chastised at every turn.
Girl posts relationship problems, gets complemented and told that she is on the right track.
You should have left the dude and quit ALL contact as soon as he told you he cheated on you, any further contact with the guy shows weakness. Accommodating someone who treated you and your feelings poorly, come on man, be strong and move on.
You said you ?weren?t mad, just hurt??. WTF is that?
[quote]twojarslave wrote:
[quote]Ronan wrote:
I gotta be honest, outside of SmilingPolitely’s post, this is a joke of a thread. You need to go see a professional. Someone who doesn’t have a internet psych degree. One of your biggest issues is wanting/needing attention. You need to get that under control. To post something intimate & expect actual ‘help responses’ is careless. These people who post ‘way to go’, they don’t know you. They don’t have a clue as to what else is going on in your life. To many variables to give a accurate response. You’re a grown woman for fucks sake, act like one.[/quote]
Let me get this right.
The people who have replied, myself included, seem to have set a positive tone and reminded her that these sort of bumps in life happen. I’d call it general advice. I don’t recall anyone going so far as to make a mental diagnosis, that’s for sure.
And we’re internet psychologists, correct?
You, on the other hand, have diagnosed her root condition from afar and concluded that she needs to see a professional (professional what, anyway?) to get her attention-seeking disorder under control.
And you are the voice of reason?
I think the OP can decide for herself to take or leave the advice she’s been given here. And she can certainly decide for herself if she needs professional help. She is a grown woman, for fucks sake.[/quote]
Agreed.
We need to go get a beer.
I can’t believe no one said the obvious truth here :
Stop telling everything to your mommy.
Do that and everything will slowly but surely start to fall into place.
Relationships issues will sort themselves out.
Expectations will adjust.
In some cases, slowing down of the biological clock has even been observed
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
With 100% of the votes in, the results are?BETTER WOMAN.
Classic TN;
Guy posts relationship problems, get chastised at every turn.
Girl posts relationship problems, gets complemented and told that she is on the right track.
You should have left the dude and quit ALL contact as soon as he told you he cheated on you, any further contact with the guy shows weakness. Accommodating someone who treated you and your feelings poorly, come on man, be strong and move on.
You said you ?weren?t mad, just hurt??. WTF is that?
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Was going to say something very similar to this.
Look Spock, to answer your original question, you would be a bitch if you told your next man any of the stuff in this post. Keep it to yourself. Withhold sex until you’re in a committed relationship by all means, that seems like the smart course for a woman like you, but whatever you do don’t tell the guy why. The only lesson he will take away will be “douchebagerry = vag and blowjobs, nice guy = must wait 3 months for sex.”