T-Vixens, I need your help! When a girl has sex for the first time, how long should she bleed for, and what happens if its done a day after her period? I really really need some help here ladies. Thanks.
Should only bleed immediately following sex, as far as I recall. It’s not an “open the floodgates” kind of thing. Bleeding after sex should not go on for days. If it’s a day after her period has finished(?), then perhaps it’s just her period continuing an extra day or two because of the new activity. If she’s having excessive bleeding that is unusual, she should go see her doctor. Being “deflowered” should not result in copious bleeding, just a little bit after the event.
Not every woman bleeds in the first place, so any bleeding after a day is something to be concerned about. Stress can change a woman’s cycle a bit, so she could be spotting. The bleeding is caused by tearing the hymen and/or small tears in the vaginal lining, in normal cases both heal VERY quickly.
If the guy was any good at least 3 weeks!!
This has nothing to do with the post, but with the poster’s name. Would system listener mean you listen to system of a down by any chance?
With my wife, we didn’t complete the act until after trying a few times (on different nights) because I kept being afraid of hurting her. So it was about a week into the marriage before I actually “broke through”. When I finally did, my wife bled quite a bit and it hurt so much, she actually called out “Mommy, mommy!”. Quite weird.
I felt a bit guilty, because at the same time she was screaming “Mommy, mommy” in pain, I was having an intense orgasm, pent up after all those times that we didn’t quite complete the act. It’s a weird situation to have the pain there for the woman, while the man has pleasure, but it’s only the first time.
I think there was a little blood and pain the next time or so that we had sex, but then it stopped.
As did the sex according to one of your other posts.
No, the sex didn’t stop. Just the good sex.
I’m wondering if anyone else has felt guilty about having sex with a virgin, because you’re getting extreme pleasure at the same time she’s getting extreme pain, like I felt with my wife.
Unless you’re donkey rigged and/or brutally inept at lovemaking, the pain should not be unbearable the first time. Yes, it hurts, but not unbearably so. If you’re gentle and take it slow, it shouldn’t hurt that much.
Copsfan - her first time was brutally painful? You have answered your own questions… she probably has no interest in sex because of that. Therapy may actually be your answer. I’m no shrink, but if she’s crying for her mom because of pain - sexual or otherwise - I would guess there is something VERY signifigant in her past that you don’t know about and she may not remember.
As for pain, it MAY be completely unbearable the first time. A 'full' hymen would be brutally painful for her, all that skin has to tear away completely... and it's not exactly in an insensitive area. Blood should still be relatively minimal though.
My girl still bleeds from time to time after sex. She told me the doc said I broke it he he he. Nevertheless they always come back for more. Enough about me back to you, no more than a couple of days. Unless he tore something else other than your hymen.
Well, I wouldn’t say it was brutal! That’s a pretty mean term to use. I think I was really patient. After the wedding, while I was watching her take off her white wedding dress, I was thinking, “Oh man, I can’t wait, we’re finally going to do it now.” I spent a long time rubbing her all over until finally I couldn’t stand it any more, and I really wanted to be inside her. But then when I put it in her, I hardly got in an inch or so and she said, “It hurts… take it out.” Well, I didn’t want to hurt her so I did. Then we waited a few days till we tried it again and the same thing hapenned. I would enter her, going into her as much as I could and then her saying “take it out” and me doing as she said. After 2 or 3 times of that, I decided to do it differently. Instead of pressing myself into her until it started hurting, I just put myself into her a little bit, pulling out a little and then back in a little, never hitting the point where it hurt, and she didn’t say “take it out”. Well doing that got me very hot after a while, much more than before. I don’t think I ever got that hot before. I had a really really intense desire to finally get all the way in her. So I pressed forward more and as usual she said “take it out”. But this time, I just could not stand another aborted attempt! So I just grabbed her body to hold her in place, and kept pushing forward harder and harder. Then she started really wailing and screaming loudly. But it was so hard to get through, I thought I was not going to have the strength. But finally it gave way and suddenly I was all the way in her, and that’s when she screamed “mommy mommy”. The feeling of being so hot and then finally being all the way in her was just so overwhelmingly pleasurable that I cried out something like “oh wow… man!” really loud… I can’t remember what, and I immediately starting coming really long and hard. Then afterwards, I suddenly felt totally wiped out and exhausted so I kind of rested on top of her for a few seconds and I could hear her crying. Then when I got my strength back I got up and we looked down at the towel and it was covered with blood with a big glob of semen. Then I started feeling very guilty. I talked with her about my guilt feelings then and the next day, but it didn’t seem to have really bothered her, and she seemed OK once the pain stopped.
I’ve refrained from commenting on your plight to this point, but with this last post, I’ve just got to chime in. Am I the only one who sees this? It seems almost obvious to me. She says she wasn’t abused, but you description of what you did sounds alot like spousal abuse to me. How long ago was that? I don’t think she has forgiven you. That “mommy mommy” thing, while a little on the wierd side for me, should have been a clue. Your guilt is a little late at that point. While this is water under the bridge for you, this can be a warning to any one else who might be near this sort of situation – the hymen CAN be surgically broken in cases where it’s particularly thick and/or tough. The flip side of it is that the hymen CAN break from just strenuous activity (not just sex) in cases where it’s fragile. It’s an individual thing. Guys – if it’s that painful for her the first time, get a medical opinion!
Burtal is a ‘mean’ term to use? Looking at your last post, I’m sorry, but it sure doesn’t seem mean to me. You’re ‘hot’ and she is in pain and says to stop. But you ‘could not stand another aborted attempt’ so you grab her to hold her still and force your way into her, putting her in incredible pain, and while she’s screaming you’re having an orgasm. I am 100% sure you did not intend to harm her, but you did and your guilt is not going to fix that or erase her memory of that first time. As someone else said - RUN do not walk to therapy.
Now I feel terrible. But I never never intended to hurt her, that’s the honest truth! I just thought, she’s a virgin and needs to be opened up, and that’s what I’m supposed to do, I’m her husband. I’m sure she expected me to do that. What else were we going to do, not have sex our whole lives so she can stay a virgin her whole life? It’s normal for a virgin to have pain, isn’t it? Isn’t what I did normal? I never knew about surgery, but that doesn’t seem right. A woman should lose her virginity on her wedding night not in some doctor’s office. It’s something special that her new husband should do. I was very proud of her that she really was a virgin, on the wedding night when I first put it in her, and she said it hurt, and I could feel that she was still closed up and all pure. And when I saw so much blood that was another proof and I felt good that I married a virgin. Getting it cut out by a doctor would eliminate all that.
She was pretty young when we got married, still immature, and that’s probably why she said “mommy mommy”, but you’re right it is weird.
To Copsfan:
You sure that you were in the right hole??
System is truly excellent. Chop Suey is one of the best songs of last year. I can’t wait to pick up Toxicity.
Wow CopsFan, I think they call that rape.
Copsfan, you are on dumb MoFo, SERIOUSLY!!!
You make barbarians look like Romeos and the best part is you think there’s something wrong with your wife!!!
THERAPY,MAN,THERAPY!