You guys are really going off too much on this. I can’t believe I read you talking about “rape” and “spousal abuse”. First of all, this all hapenned over 10 years ago. Also, as soon as the pain died down, even that same night, when I told her I felt guilty and weird that I was coming while she was screaming, she told me she did not feel anything bad toward me, and she agreed that it had to happen eventually, and now we can go on with life. I also brought it up again with her recently and she said the same thing. She has said many times that her problems with sex and touching have nothing to do with me personally or anything I’ve done. It’s just a thing she has with men in general. I can’t believe you guys are making such a big deal of this virginity experience. I’m not happy that it hurt her and she bled but it’s totally normal, and I’d like to know what the hell I could have done different, besides going on with the aborted attempts 100 more times and then it would have been the same anyway, just delayed! Or would you rather I just gave up and left her a virgin? Sheesh.
Um… CopsFan? Ripping the hymen has nothing to do with ‘proving virginity’ sorry. The hymen tears with sex, or by falling down, or my any of a number of differnt ways. Some women don’t even have one. A doctor cutting some tissue doesn’t take virgiity any more than a tampon does. You were misguided 10 years and you remain so. I think you are upset because now you feel guilty again. HELLO!!! You BOTH need therapy. Take that from someone who has had lots of it herself! She ‘has a problem with men’ that would indicate a need for therapy. And yes, when someone is telling you to stop and you force sex on them it IS rape. Weither she is your wife or not.
That is so FUCKED UP! I don’t know what else to say. If you guys split up she is ruined for the rest of us? No, that’s not right either. Get help, now, fast, faster still. Write to Oprah and see if Dr. Phil can fix your shit. Man, that’s fucked up.
from my experience, some girls bleed alot, some girls bleed a little and some none at all… ive seen from basically ruining the whole bed, sheets covers matress, to none at all. its not like all girls were made from the same mold. but my guess is you should be concerned if your girl is bleeding for days? definitely goto the doc. better safe than sorry
I know Mark Coleman is a wrestler (Ohio State NCAA champ at 190 in '88). He definitely used some “supplements” to get to his leaner-than-ever 250 pounds. I was not referring to Ron Coleman. He can win three things: The Olympia and, the “Man With the Largest GH Gut,” and the “Man With No Internal Organ Smaller than a Casaba Melon.”
Well, as I said, this was all 10 years ago, and I don’t remember it perfectly. Now that I think about it more, I don’t think she actually said anything about stopping on that particular night. I remember that we spoke beforehand about how we’ve got to stop doing the same thing over and over and kind of agreed that we’d try to get through it that night. I know she was in pain and making noises right before I started applying extra pressure but I’m not sure if she said to stop or take it out. I don’t think she did.
Cops-fan I don’t want to critisize or patronize you, but I do feel sorry for you. After I read your torrid tale (I felt like I was reading some smutty novel) I have come up with to conclusions: 1. you are making this up or 2. you have some serious problems. Reasons, that story was WAY!!! too indepth for you to remember off the bat like that unless, it really did scar you, or you did copy it from a book. Reread your post, if it truely was 10 long years ago like you said, how can you remember it so vividly, unless one of the above is correct? The fact is, what you so vividly described IS considered rape (by even the most liberal of laws) and your wife and you are STILL having problems with it today. If it wasn’t such a big deal, why would you feel the need to bring it up again and again on these message boards? This is truely my last reply to you (about any of your marrital problems) on this board or any others. The people have given you all the support in the world and then some. Now it is up to you. You can work on these issues, with a therapist, or anyone, for that matter, but you’ve reached the extent that a message board can help. And if you’re making this up, I hope you’re satisfied, you just wasted a lot of caring people’s time. Either way, I am done hearing your whines and “stories”.