[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Sometimes I wish Tyler Durden was my best friend. It would be cool to hang with that dude.
But then one day I’d wake up and realize he was just me the whole time.
See what I just did? ;)[/quote]
Be your own best friend? :)[/quote]
Basically, yes.
It seems there are 2 types of social types: those who NEED the constant company of others, and those who do not. I won’t get into the reasons for that, but a person who is very self confident and self-reliant rarely needs the “strokes” that a well-populated social life offers.
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I agree with this, also.
My wife and I are similar in that we don’t need to be entertained by each other on a constant basis. We can be in the same area, while doing things separately and just enjoy each others company.
Like you, if someone needs a favor, just let me know and i’ll see what I can do. Otherwise, i’ll go out of my way to avoid asking for help. Plus, i’m not the most social person, so I don’t go out of my way to keep with friends on a regular basis.
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Or feel the need to get on G+[/quote]
By “friends”, I meant people that i’ve known IRL for years.
You guys are a different kind of “friend”. I mean that in the nicest possible way, too :)[/quote]
Im just fucking with you IH. [/quote]
Dick.[/quote]
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Thanks for that
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
I’m 49 and have no friends to hang out with either. Like X said, as my friends got married, I barely see them. The one friend I had I haven’t seen in years… even though he lives 20 minutes away. He ONLY calls when he needs some professional advice - which I selflessly give.
But I’m okay with this. My world is small, my wife is truly my best friend, and I really love hanging out with her and her sisters and cousins.[/quote]
I’m very thankful for my true friends. I got to see how that is a blessing when I got hurt. One flew from Michigan just to see me. That’s cool shit right there…and I will always do the same back for him.
I value REAL friends.
It is just that I have found there aren’t that many you can really count on when the shit hits the fan.
The ones you can are more valuable than anything on Earth.[/quote]
If you want to make friends, here’s a simple solution: Join a social club. Something like Toastmasters is an excellent place to start, especially for your age group.
Not really the same age group, but my dad’s friends are the husbands of my mom’s friends. So I guess you could say he’s so whipped that his wife picks his friends -lol.
[quote]Hallowed wrote:
It sounds like you would be happier with one or two closer friends. I suggest that you go ahead and make some. How? Well you have a friend by being a friend. Pretty simple. Of your acquaintences, are there one or two that you especially like? That you have things in common with? That you respect as men? If so I suggest inviting one of them to do something together on a one on one basis like oh say, catch a game or grab a beer or something. Start investing some time and see if you can develop a friend from an acquaintance.
Maintaining close friendships over years takes serious committment. I have one friend that I’ve had since third grade and we have both made sacrifices and invested time and resources into maintaing our relationship. I have made several close friends more recently and it was through the process of BEING a friend. [/quote]
Yeah but then you make friends and things are awesome and then you find out that she’s in love with you and wants to run away and marry you and you would rather stay married to your husband and are pretty sure you aren’t even into girls (damn you college) and everything is ruined and so I just pretend to have internet friends.
I’ve got one close non-family friend, and I’m closer to her than most of my family, mainly because we went through a lot of trauma together.
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
I’m 49 and have no friends to hang out with either. Like X said, as my friends got married, I barely see them. The one friend I had I haven’t seen in years… even though he lives 20 minutes away. He ONLY calls when he needs some professional advice - which I selflessly give.
But I’m okay with this. My world is small, my wife is truly my best friend, and I really love hanging out with her and her sisters and cousins.[/quote]
We can hang out if you do not mind me lording over you from my great height.
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