I have no doubt he woke up and cracked a beer.
It is sad because he has a seven and ten year old. My kids cousins. They both follow my son around like he is the pied piper.
But I am the asshole, lol, because I quit drinking.
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That is a very insightful post. When I attended high school I do not know the breakdown, but our staff was at least 50% male. I am willing to bet that we had veterans from WWII, Korea and Vietnam on staff. These guys were tough. I went to college because my English teacher told me to. I came from a family with no college graduates. He asked, “What are you doing next year after high school?” Of course I did not know. “Go to college. Teach high school!” he said. I was still like, “I don’t know?” Then he said the magic words, “The money isn’t to bad when you teach, but you get June, July and August off!” Summers off! I have not had a summer off in ten years. I just keep grinding.
I think our county high school where I live has about a 50-50 male to female ration. The elementary schools, and middle school however are all XX. (This has been edited!) The alternative school where I work is 3 men, 4 women. The need for male teachers, is necessary. Though we live in a culture where people spout that men as a whole are not necessary.
There is a knack to teaching. Some have it, some do not. But I think more gentlemen, who have that knack at all grade levels would be a plus.
You mean XX? Or are the elementary and middle schools all male teachers?
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Oops, yes XX. 
I do know biology, but not earlier apparently! Thanks for the heads up.
The problem is they don’t want men who will act like men.
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I was talking a guy to a guy who worked as a wrangler once, let’s call him “Jim.” Kind of the soft domestic type, really strived to be what his idea of a gentleman was. He and I were talking in a friend group one night and he mentioned that another wrangler, “Casey” had started a relationship with a woman he liked. Casey was a muscular asshole. We got in fights a couple of times but became friends because of it. So Jim was complaining that he was such a nice guy, and Casey was just a tough guy. A woman at the table said “You can be both.”
Same thing with the Madonna vs. whore dichotomy.
I think young men are trying to assume a polarized role, and being pulled in so many directions that self-actualizing becomes difficult.
So young men need to learn how to be both the “tough” guy and the gentleman.
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The mistake is bloviated views of grandeur vs genuine inner confidence.
Grandeur has a peacock effect, which works when younger or on older women with stunted emotional development, genuine confidence and the strength that comes from it is what they actually want but it takes longer to see.
Both can share aspects at surface level but one is genuine and one is flashy.
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John Milton talked about worshipping an image over the substance.
Seems appropriate for the conversation.
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True, I see a difference in teachers (male) my age and in their 50s, and see a rather large difference in teachers (male) in their 20s and 30s. Male teachers (20s and 30s), many of them, have become enablers. School counselors, same thing. Behaviors are not addressed, consequences become, “One more chance.” We cannot be too rough on them. I now know a mid-30s English teacher (male) who will not read Hemingway, Hemingway is to masculine. I let him know I read Ian Fleming short stories on occasion. I could tell he was rattled a bit. If The Great DiMaggio is part of a “to masculine story”, imagine Bond. These a generalizations of course, but I get where you are coming from.
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Women want fried ice. Once you accept this you will learn exactly how to handle them. Whatever they say they want… be the opposite. Works every time.
Eesh. Lit classes should have a specific level of brutality. But I think you’re making the right point. Bond, Flemming, and Hemingway are icons of masculinity to me, but learning from their lives, their flaws, and how they coded that into their charachters is hugley inspiring. Vulnerable strong men are very different from cockey weak men
I like you, but this is terrible advice. Once you become fried ice (which is possible, I have a recipie) you don’t have to approach a relationship by having to “handle” anyone. This is just negging.
Be a man.
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Yup. Yup yup yup.
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I do what works, sir. But I maintain integrity. It’s just accepting what they’ve shown time and time again.
Then how can you believe you’re doing what works?
Is the goal sub-par women?
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Maybe im wrong on this…
I find it interesting that we have had a generation of males, who have been raised in a environment were traditional masculinity has been frowned on.
Im tempted to say castrated.
Im also finding it interesting that many women from that generation are now asking," where are all the real men at?"
Or at least thats what im starting to see.
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My success rate ?
At what, though? Attracting women who either don’t know or lie about that they want?
What good are they? Just getting you laid?
They serve the purpose they serve. I’m just not naive to how these things go. When I want something of quality I’ll foster that.
I’m going to take a moment to articulate some thoughts - no judgment or advice, just observations.
What is your goal? Target dictates weapons dictates movement. Dating, marriage, being a pussy hound, being a father and husband - all different.
That’s also situational. I actively hold myself to a high standard of personal integrity, but it sometimes falls short of what other people expect. It’s the whole mindset of judging other people by their actions and ourselves by our intentions that causes issues.
Unnecessary side story - I had a buddy named Robert who once claimed “I don’t have morals, but I have standards.” The more I think about it the dumber it gets.
That’s the thing - “they.” I recently reconnected with a buddy of mine from college and he told me several guys had complained that I could pull women without even trying (this is not me trying to brag, and was a surprise to hear btw.) I just focused on improving myself and fostering friendships. There was never a me/they attitude so relationships flowed effortlessly when the time was right.
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Guys, I found the single mom.
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