They’re not bad. Stable.
And stable is good, so good.
Thanks for asking. And hope yours are good too.
Not everyone is along for the ride of the rebirth, and that’s okay. a great way to find out who your ride or die friends are is to get sober. Recovery from anything sheds the weak.
I have said this before, but the girl that crushed me asked me in a bar if I knew who I was.
And I had no clue.
I am sure the heart issues you are dealing with are similar. Can’t tell you how many times my brother told me “just don’t drink” as he quaffed his fifteenth beer pontificating on his brilliance.
It’s easy for those on the outside to see your flaws without seeing their own. That is what gets me in trouble - I like to point out the hypocrisy, which makes me a hypocrite myself.
Not sure the mods will allow this post, but that is one of the things that wound me up leading to my vacation. I see flaws, failure of people to live in alignment with their values, and it frustrates me because I fail the same way.
My counselor in an anger management class told me years ago that no matter where you go, there will be one asshole that needs his ass kicked. But, I have not been appointed by god to administer that ass kicking. Let god (universe/source) do it.
I have to learn this lesson every day.
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You can’t hang your hat on someone else’s peg. I don’t know how this fits in to shadows and caves but set yourself free.
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This.
I recently watched a video about recent developments at CERN that supports the concept that the universe is sentient and self aware. I am unable to post the link here but the video is on YouTube. Instead I am posting another link that discusses the matter.
My search for answers has been leading me to a similar conclusion.
I don’t comment much anymore because I typically react rather than respond and I am working on being better. Past comments have been hurtful, not intentionally so, and so I figured it best to just lurk rather than comment. It’s been good for me.
There are several threads that call me to comment because I want to help, but realize that my comments might not be welcome, so I figured I would be general here rather than on specific threads. I hope to keep them general and woo woo enough to not offend anyone and to fit with this thread’s main idea.
When I was younger I would struggle with declining invitations and removing myself from situations that did not feel comfortable to me. My mother, who is very bright, told me that I never needed to provide specifics when declining an invitation.
“I’m sorry but I can’t make it, I have other plans” is enough to excuse yourself from something you do not want to participate in.
I had a recent snafu with Alaska Airlines and because I have been in a long term relationship with them, I let them know what my concerns were. I let them know I was frustrated and it was mainly a rant, but I was not happy with their service. I did that because I want to continue my relationship with them and would like them to get better.
But I know, despite being MVP Gold, I carry little or no weight with them. If I had a better option, I would likely take it and move on without saying anything.
When I see people on this site that I have followed for years going through issues with which I am familiar, I want very much to help. Most of what I see is different personality issues based on childhood issues. But that is my lens, has been for a few years.
Losing my father and brother recently just highlights that for me.
Happiness is an inside job.
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It is. I’ve gone back & forth on this with myself many times, and the only resolution I could find was in the answer to the question “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?”.
Being right is easy. I can always find something to be right about, no matter how bittersweet it may be.
Happiness, on the other hand, not so much.
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I thought being right would make me happy.
I was wrong.
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I used to work as a high-ropes instructor in the redwoods. The technical stuff really interested me, but most of the training we got was about team-building psychology. The main guy (John) looked exactly like the dude from The Big Leboskwi.
So one day we’re having coffee and he said something that has stuck with me. “People will die on three hills - to be liked, to be important, or to be right.”
It’s kind of a litmus test for me now.
I appreciate the response, especially from a former Dubsdreadian.
I think this is valid.
But, I no longer care about any of those. It’s been a journey.
It’s not over.
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I forgot we had that connection.
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