Also, felt like a bit of a rant, which may well turn into an ongoing one. This time it started out being about choice, and one day I will probably get round to putting on e-paper my feelings on why people feel they have been given too much choice, rather than address the issues that cause them to be unable or unwilling to make choices. Today though, I’m going to rant a bit about the far less intellectual, but far more irritating “should I bulk or cut” threads that plague these boards.
How do people take these threads seriously?
First of all the biggest issue to me: why are you even lifting if you haven’t got a pretty clear idea why? I can tell you for free that if I didn’t know what I wanted from the gym, I wouldn’t go. Lifting is hard work, or effective lifting is, and without a pressing desire to achieve “it” (whatever your goal currently is), there is no way you will get off your arse to do it (and yes, that is how you spell arse, we made the language, we’ll tell you how it’s spelled). Now I don’t expect everyone to be the Dan John of goal setting, but there must be some sort of burning desire and a sense of urgency to achieve something and therefore to be able to specify, in some way, what that is, and yet no-one on these threads ever specifies what they are hoping to achieve, even when pushed.
“If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there” Dan John.
Let’s assume then that for most of the OP’s, being young males, their primary goal is to look good. Again, this seems like a simple and obvious goal, but is it? Who do you want to look good for? It’s assumed that they want to look good in order to get their noodle wet, and we’ll come onto that in a moment, but first I think it’s important to consider the importance of looking good for other guys. Big guns are a huge status symbol, as are many other aspects of bodybuilding, and we have to acknowledge that being an alpha male is as much about impressing guys as it is about impressing girls (If you still live in the 1800’s and that thought makes you uncomfortable, well good, maybe it’s time to grow up and start applying logic to your beliefs).
Let’s assume you are just lifting to look good for the laydeez (curlz for the gurlz brah), which girls? I’ve met a few of them, I know it’s difficult to believe, and they typically can’t even agree on what colour a dress is (blue and gold or white and gold, who knows? Or cares?). I’ve got news for you: not all girls look for the same thing in guys: true story. Some girls will go for the Rock, others will get their panties in a twist over Justin Timberlake, hell, I’ve met plenty of girls who get all hot and steamy over Colin Firth. Bottom line: not all girls want the same look, and even if they did, maybe an easier way to get in their pants might be to work on some of the other things they find attractive, like a personality, the ability to dress and groom yourself, and, if we’re honest, a hefty bank account.
Add this all up and “looking good naked” suddenly seems much less like a goal and more like something you tell yourself to make yourself feel like you’re achieving something. Maybe you should sack up, get some specific goals that light a fire in you and go for it, instead of asking me to choose your goals for you. Maybe that way, you’ll stand a chance of actually achieving them.