Why Do Men Get Married These Days?

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Yogi wrote:

[quote]pushharder wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]therajraj wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

this is just another risk of getting married… you’re wife could turn into an obese slob who reeks of cigarettes, and has little consideration for her husband or family in general.
[/quote]

This is why dating around before you tie the knot is extremely important. Dating around not only helps you see with great clarity what your sexual desirability looks like, it also teaches you to recognize green and red flags.

if a chick is thin but food is a focus in her life as opposed to an accessory, chances are she’ll be fat within 10 years.[/quote]

I know your experience is vast, but I would argue just the opposite. Find a girl with a healthy appetite who isn’t afraid to exercise it publicly and you will find a girl with a healthy relationship to food, which translates to a healthy metabolism. Find a girl who simpers about “doesn’t eat very much, usually, just not hungry, really” and you have potentially found a secret binger.

Personally, I don’t entirely trust people who don’t enjoy tucking into a good burger or its equivalent now and then.[/quote]

Agreed.[/quote]

Also agreed. If I’m dating a hot chick and she orders a massive pizza and scrans the whole thing, I have to fight the urge to propose right there and then.

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x3[/quote]

Huh. I think I may have finally figured out what accounts for my rather startling success with men. lol[/quote]
Yep first date with my now wife. She ate appetizers, dinner and dessert. She eats like a grown man, but works out like one also.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Yogi wrote:

[quote]pushharder wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]therajraj wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

this is just another risk of getting married… you’re wife could turn into an obese slob who reeks of cigarettes, and has little consideration for her husband or family in general.
[/quote]

This is why dating around before you tie the knot is extremely important. Dating around not only helps you see with great clarity what your sexual desirability looks like, it also teaches you to recognize green and red flags.

if a chick is thin but food is a focus in her life as opposed to an accessory, chances are she’ll be fat within 10 years.[/quote]

I know your experience is vast, but I would argue just the opposite. Find a girl with a healthy appetite who isn’t afraid to exercise it publicly and you will find a girl with a healthy relationship to food, which translates to a healthy metabolism. Find a girl who simpers about “doesn’t eat very much, usually, just not hungry, really” and you have potentially found a secret binger.

Personally, I don’t entirely trust people who don’t enjoy tucking into a good burger or its equivalent now and then.[/quote]

Agreed.[/quote]

Also agreed. If I’m dating a hot chick and she orders a massive pizza and scrans the whole thing, I have to fight the urge to propose right there and then.

[/quote]

x3[/quote]

Huh. I think I may have finally figured out what accounts for my rather startling success with men. lol[/quote]

Almost no man likes to find themselves eating with a woman on a date, be it a meal in a more typical date setting, splurging at a fair, stopping at a gas station on a road trip, or any host of examples and have the woman look like they are just picking at their food. I always found it awkward and usually took it as a sign that there was a self-esteem issue there. Actually have had this discussion numerous times with friends and always reached the same consensus.

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

yes[/quote]
Cool, so imagine that times a 1000 if you find somebody you want to share your life with. Not talking about puppy dog I want to bone the chick type of relationship. [/quote]

Although having that second part wrapped in is awfully nice, I think.
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That goes with out saying.

The boning part.

Not the puppy dog love.

But the boning[/quote]

The boning should go without saying.

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

yes[/quote]
Cool, so imagine that times a 1000 if you find somebody you want to share your life with. Not talking about puppy dog I want to bone the chick type of relationship. [/quote]

Although having that second part wrapped in is awfully nice, I think.
[/quote]
That goes with out saying.

The boning part.

Not the puppy dog love.

But the boning[/quote]

For me, and this has been true in all of my relationships to date regardless of duration, puppy dog love is not the norm or a steady state, but it does come and go. Sometimes adoration just washes over me, and it’s very waggly and excited and puppy-like.

It’s not just my romantic life. Sometimes I love my job so much it takes my breath away. I dunno, is that weird?

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

yes[/quote]
Cool, so imagine that times a 1000 if you find somebody you want to share your life with. Not talking about puppy dog I want to bone the chick type of relationship. [/quote]

Although having that second part wrapped in is awfully nice, I think.
[/quote]
That goes with out saying.

The boning part.

Not the puppy dog love.

But the boning[/quote]

For me, and this has been true in all of my relationships to date regardless of duration, puppy dog love is not the norm or a steady state, but it does come and go. Sometimes adoration just washes over me, and it’s very waggly and excited and puppy-like.

It’s not just my romantic life. Sometimes I love my job so much it takes my breath away. I dunno, is that weird? [/quote]
No, but if you make major life decisions off that feeling then yes that’s weird or more like manic/bipolar :slight_smile:

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[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
The fact that you’re more concerned about your inheritance (lets call it what it is) than your mothers health is unusual to say the least. [/quote]

you misunderstand me…

she is purposefully destroying her health by smoking, drinking heavily, and being obese, so she can get very sick (with various cancers), and drain the family finances…in a sort of ‘if I go down, im taking you with me’-kinda way.

I mean seriously…who STARTS smoking at age 56?

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

yes[/quote]
Cool, so imagine that times a 1000 if you find somebody you want to share your life with. Not talking about puppy dog I want to bone the chick type of relationship. [/quote]

Although having that second part wrapped in is awfully nice, I think.
[/quote]
That goes with out saying.

The boning part.

Not the puppy dog love.

But the boning[/quote]

For me, and this has been true in all of my relationships to date regardless of duration, puppy dog love is not the norm or a steady state, but it does come and go. Sometimes adoration just washes over me, and it’s very waggly and excited and puppy-like.

It’s not just my romantic life. Sometimes I love my job so much it takes my breath away. I dunno, is that weird? [/quote]
No, but if you make major life decisions off that feeling then yes that’s weird or more like manic/bipolar :slight_smile: [/quote]

Nah, not bipolar. Just giving my undivided attention to the positives. Anyway, what major life decisions made in this state do I have to worry about? That I’ll continue coming to work? Start enthusiastically kissing the man I live with? lol

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

yes[/quote]
Cool, so imagine that times a 1000 if you find somebody you want to share your life with. Not talking about puppy dog I want to bone the chick type of relationship. [/quote]

Although having that second part wrapped in is awfully nice, I think.
[/quote]
That goes with out saying.

The boning part.

Not the puppy dog love.

But the boning[/quote]

For me, and this has been true in all of my relationships to date regardless of duration, puppy dog love is not the norm or a steady state, but it does come and go. Sometimes adoration just washes over me, and it’s very waggly and excited and puppy-like.

It’s not just my romantic life. Sometimes I love my job so much it takes my breath away. I dunno, is that weird? [/quote]
No, but if you make major life decisions off that feeling then yes that’s weird or more like manic/bipolar :slight_smile: [/quote]

Nah, not bipolar. Just giving my undivided attention to the positives. Anyway, what major life decisions made in this state do I have to worry about? That I’ll continue coming to work? Start enthusiastically kissing the man I live with? lol[/quote]
That was really not meant for you Em it was more a generalization for the masses.

As in proposing 3 dates in cause she touched your private parts. Or leaving your current job that is paying the bills cause you always wanted to be a rodeo clown.

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[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Yogi wrote:

[quote]pushharder wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]therajraj wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

this is just another risk of getting married… you’re wife could turn into an obese slob who reeks of cigarettes, and has little consideration for her husband or family in general.
[/quote]

This is why dating around before you tie the knot is extremely important. Dating around not only helps you see with great clarity what your sexual desirability looks like, it also teaches you to recognize green and red flags.

if a chick is thin but food is a focus in her life as opposed to an accessory, chances are she’ll be fat within 10 years.[/quote]

I know your experience is vast, but I would argue just the opposite. Find a girl with a healthy appetite who isn’t afraid to exercise it publicly and you will find a girl with a healthy relationship to food, which translates to a healthy metabolism. Find a girl who simpers about “doesn’t eat very much, usually, just not hungry, really” and you have potentially found a secret binger.

Personally, I don’t entirely trust people who don’t enjoy tucking into a good burger or its equivalent now and then.[/quote]

Agreed.[/quote]

Also agreed. If I’m dating a hot chick and she orders a massive pizza and scrans the whole thing, I have to fight the urge to propose right there and then.

[/quote]

x3[/quote]

Huh. I think I may have finally figured out what accounts for my rather startling success with men. lol[/quote]

Almost no man likes to find themselves eating with a woman on a date, be it a meal in a more typical date setting, splurging at a fair, stopping at a gas station on a road trip, or any host of examples and have the woman look like they are just picking at their food. I always found it awkward and usually took it as a sign that there was a self-esteem issue there. Actually have had this discussion numerous times with friends and always reached the same consensus. [/quote]

Agreed. I’ve also found that women who have a healthy appreciation of food often have a similar attitude toward sex and life in general for that matter, which is an obvious plus.

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:

This clown[/quote]

come on Lanky, you’re better than that…[/quote]

You’re right, I’m sorry about that.

Usmc summed up my feelings pretty well.

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
The fact that you’re more concerned about your inheritance (lets call it what it is) than your mothers health is unusual to say the least. [/quote]

you misunderstand me…

she is purposefully destroying her health by smoking, drinking heavily, and being obese, so she can get very sick (with various cancers), and drain the family finances…in a sort of ‘if I go down, im taking you with me’-kinda way.

I mean seriously…who STARTS smoking at age 56? [/quote]

I think I can guess what ONE of the stressors may be that led her to pick them up. :-/

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
The fact that you’re more concerned about your inheritance (lets call it what it is) than your mothers health is unusual to say the least. [/quote]

you misunderstand me…

she is purposefully destroying her health by smoking, drinking heavily, and being obese, so she can get very sick (with various cancers), and drain the family finances…in a sort of ‘if I go down, im taking you with me’-kinda way.

I mean seriously…who STARTS smoking at age 56? [/quote]
Shouldn’t you still be more concerned with her mental health rather than finances?

I know it’s tough to judge these types of scenarios because we don’t know the nuances of your relationships, but you come across as a selfish, self centered person who only cares about himself. A typical “what’s in it for me” millenial.

That’s no way to live, man.

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
she is purposefully destroying her health by smoking, drinking heavily, and being obese, so she can get very sick (with various cancers), and drain the family finances…in a sort of ‘if I go down, im taking you with me’-kinda way.

I mean seriously…who STARTS smoking at age 56? [/quote]

Look, I don’t know the nuisances of your family affairs. I’m not going to pretend I do; however, you bring up an excellent point. Who the hell just starts smoking at 56? My unprofessional guess would be there is some underlying issue that you’re either not sharing, which is perfectly fine, or you don’t know about it.

As far as “purposefully destroying her heath” goes, sometimes people need help and sometimes those same people can not be helped. If that’s your situation then I feel for you. My mother-in-law is in a similar boat except she does have real medical issues (related and unrelated to her weight) on top of her self inflicted health issues. It is extremely challenging to deal with a person that is 50-100lbs overweight, complains about said weight or medical condition non-stop, and has zero motivation to change. So, I understand.

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[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
Look, I don’t know the nuisances of your family affairs. [/quote]

I think I do hehe

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[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
Look, I don’t know the nuisances of your family affairs. [/quote]

I think I do hehe[/quote]

Lol…

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
The fact that you’re more concerned about your inheritance (lets call it what it is) than your mothers health is unusual to say the least. [/quote]

you misunderstand me…

she is purposefully destroying her health by smoking, drinking heavily, and being obese, so she can get very sick (with various cancers), and drain the family finances…in a sort of ‘if I go down, im taking you with me’-kinda way.

I mean seriously…who STARTS smoking at age 56? [/quote]

I think I can guess what ONE of the stressors may be that led her to pick them up. :-/
[/quote]

if you are inferring that I may be what is stressing her out, I can tell you with confidence that I am not. I do not live with my parents, and when i do come to visit, i help out a lot around the house, and the general ‘stress’ level decreases.

she has nothing to be stressed about… she doesn’t work, so she has no commute and has all day, every day, to do whatever she wants. While her peers are working, she sometimes drives out to the beach to chill and smoke pot (she has a cannabis card, im not so concerned about that).

literally, the least stressed life i can imagine having lol.

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Shouldn’t you still be more concerned with her mental health rather than finances?

but you come across as a selfish, self centered person who only cares about himself.

A typical “what’s in it for me” millenial.
[/quote]

ive come to realize that there’s nothing i can do for her mental health (trust me, ive tried). you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help, and she isn’t breaking any laws, so legal intervention is not a possibility.

her actions have led me to be concerned for my own financial stability going forward yes. Previously, i was quite confident that my brother and i would be receiving a reasonable inheritance (while i wouldn’t be totally dependent on it, it would definitely help). Now, i am confident most of that money will be blown on health treatments for her, because of the decisions that she is making (chemo is very expensive). My father’s retirement, gone… etc.

as a result, i am looking to get every penny that i can out of this family before it goes into some third party’s hands, for treatment that would have otherwise been completely unnecessary. she has made things this way.

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
The fact that you’re more concerned about your inheritance (lets call it what it is) than your mothers health is unusual to say the least. [/quote]

you misunderstand me…

she is purposefully destroying her health by smoking, drinking heavily, and being obese, so she can get very sick (with various cancers), and drain the family finances…in a sort of ‘if I go down, im taking you with me’-kinda way.

I mean seriously…who STARTS smoking at age 56? [/quote]

I think I can guess what ONE of the stressors may be that led her to pick them up. :-/
[/quote]

if you are inferring that I may be what is stressing her out, I can tell you with confidence that I am not. I do not live with my parents, and when i do come to visit, i help out a lot around the house, and the general ‘stress’ level decreases.

she has nothing to be stressed about… she doesn’t work, so she has no commute and has all day, every day, to do whatever she wants. While her peers are working, she sometimes drives out to the beach to chill and smoke pot (she has a cannabis card, im not so concerned about that).

literally, the least stressed life i can imagine having lol.

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Shouldn’t you still be more concerned with her mental health rather than finances?

but you come across as a selfish, self centered person who only cares about himself.

A typical “what’s in it for me” millenial.
[/quote]

ive come to realize that there’s nothing i can do for her mental health (trust me, ive tried). you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help, and she isn’t breaking any laws, so legal intervention is not a possibility.

her actions have led me to be concerned for my own financial stability going forward yes. Previously, i was quite confident that my brother and i would be receiving a reasonable inheritance (while i wouldn’t be totally dependent on it, it would definitely help). Now, i am confident most of that money will be blown on health treatments for her, because of the decisions that she is making (chemo is very expensive). My father’s retirement, gone… etc.

as a result, i am looking to get every penny that i can out of this family before it goes into some third party’s hands, for treatment that would have otherwise been completely unnecessary. she has made things this way. [/quote]

What makes you think that you were entitled to any of that money to begin with?

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
her actions have led me to be concerned for my own financial stability going forward yes. Previously, i was quite confident that my brother and i would be receiving a reasonable inheritance (while i wouldn’t be totally dependent on it, it would definitely help). Now, i am confident most of that money will be blown on health treatments for her, because of the decisions that she is making (chemo is very expensive). My father’s retirement, gone… etc.

as a result, i am looking to get every penny that i can out of this family before it goes into some third party’s hands, for treatment that would have otherwise been completely unnecessary. she has made things this way. [/quote]

It sounds like your mom needs something like a prenup to protect her from leaches who don’t work and just want to take her money.

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[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
The fact that you’re more concerned about your inheritance (lets call it what it is) than your mothers health is unusual to say the least. [/quote]

you misunderstand me…

she is purposefully destroying her health by smoking, drinking heavily, and being obese, so she can get very sick (with various cancers), and drain the family finances…in a sort of ‘if I go down, im taking you with me’-kinda way.

I mean seriously…who STARTS smoking at age 56? [/quote]

I think I can guess what ONE of the stressors may be that led her to pick them up. :-/
[/quote]

if you are inferring that I may be what is stressing her out, I can tell you with confidence that I am not. I do not live with my parents, and when i do come to visit, i help out a lot around the house, and the general ‘stress’ level decreases.

she has nothing to be stressed about… she doesn’t work, so she has no commute and has all day, every day, to do whatever she wants. While her peers are working, she sometimes drives out to the beach to chill and smoke pot (she has a cannabis card, im not so concerned about that).

literally, the least stressed life i can imagine having lol.

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Shouldn’t you still be more concerned with her mental health rather than finances?

but you come across as a selfish, self centered person who only cares about himself.

A typical “what’s in it for me” millenial.
[/quote]

ive come to realize that there’s nothing i can do for her mental health (trust me, ive tried). you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help, and she isn’t breaking any laws, so legal intervention is not a possibility.

her actions have led me to be concerned for my own financial stability going forward yes. Previously, i was quite confident that my brother and i would be receiving a reasonable inheritance (while i wouldn’t be totally dependent on it, it would definitely help). Now, i am confident most of that money will be blown on health treatments for her, because of the decisions that she is making (chemo is very expensive). My father’s retirement, gone… etc.

as a result, i am looking to get every penny that i can out of this family before it goes into some third party’s hands, for treatment that would have otherwise been completely unnecessary. she has made things this way. [/quote]

What makes you think that you were entitled to any of that money to begin with? [/quote]

are you telling me that it isn’t customary for parents to leave their offspring an inheritance once they pass on?

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[quote]jjackkrash wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
her actions have led me to be concerned for my own financial stability going forward yes. Previously, i was quite confident that my brother and i would be receiving a reasonable inheritance (while i wouldn’t be totally dependent on it, it would definitely help). Now, i am confident most of that money will be blown on health treatments for her, because of the decisions that she is making (chemo is very expensive). My father’s retirement, gone… etc.

as a result, i am looking to get every penny that i can out of this family before it goes into some third party’s hands, for treatment that would have otherwise been completely unnecessary. she has made things this way. [/quote]

It sounds like your mom needs something like a prenup to protect her from leaches who don’t work and just want to take her money.
[/quote]

if you are going to post complete nonsense, your input really isn’t needed here.