Why Do Men Get Married These Days?

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]jjackkrash wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
her actions have led me to be concerned for my own financial stability going forward yes. Previously, i was quite confident that my brother and i would be receiving a reasonable inheritance (while i wouldn’t be totally dependent on it, it would definitely help). Now, i am confident most of that money will be blown on health treatments for her, because of the decisions that she is making (chemo is very expensive). My father’s retirement, gone… etc.

as a result, i am looking to get every penny that i can out of this family before it goes into some third party’s hands, for treatment that would have otherwise been completely unnecessary. she has made things this way. [/quote]

It sounds like your mom needs something like a prenup to protect her from leaches who don’t work and just want to take her money.
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if you are going to post complete nonsense, your input really isn’t needed here. [/quote]

What your mom needs is a living will to make sure that if she can’t make decisions for herself she is protected from you and that you don’t get to steal her money. That isn’t nonsense, it is apparent from the face of what you posted above.

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
The fact that you’re more concerned about your inheritance (lets call it what it is) than your mothers health is unusual to say the least. [/quote]

you misunderstand me…

she is purposefully destroying her health by smoking, drinking heavily, and being obese, so she can get very sick (with various cancers), and drain the family finances…in a sort of ‘if I go down, im taking you with me’-kinda way.

I mean seriously…who STARTS smoking at age 56? [/quote]

I think I can guess what ONE of the stressors may be that led her to pick them up. :-/
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if you are inferring that I may be what is stressing her out, I can tell you with confidence that I am not. I do not live with my parents, and when i do come to visit, i help out a lot around the house, and the general ‘stress’ level decreases.

she has nothing to be stressed about… she doesn’t work, so she has no commute and has all day, every day, to do whatever she wants. While her peers are working, she sometimes drives out to the beach to chill and smoke pot (she has a cannabis card, im not so concerned about that).

literally, the least stressed life i can imagine having lol.

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Shouldn’t you still be more concerned with her mental health rather than finances?

but you come across as a selfish, self centered person who only cares about himself.

A typical “what’s in it for me” millenial.
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ive come to realize that there’s nothing i can do for her mental health (trust me, ive tried). you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help, and she isn’t breaking any laws, so legal intervention is not a possibility.

her actions have led me to be concerned for my own financial stability going forward yes. Previously, i was quite confident that my brother and i would be receiving a reasonable inheritance (while i wouldn’t be totally dependent on it, it would definitely help). Now, i am confident most of that money will be blown on health treatments for her, because of the decisions that she is making (chemo is very expensive). My father’s retirement, gone… etc.

as a result, i am looking to get every penny that i can out of this family before it goes into some third party’s hands, for treatment that would have otherwise been completely unnecessary. she has made things this way. [/quote]

What makes you think that you were entitled to any of that money to begin with? [/quote]

are you telling me that it isn’t customary for parents to leave their offspring an inheritance once they pass on?[/quote]

For most of the country, no it isn’t. The whole of most of the people in this countries inheritance consists of some land maybe, a little money left over in a bank account, and some personal items. Most people don’t really have a lot of extra cash lying around after a lifetime of living in the middle class or some golden years enjoying their retirement after working hard their whole lives.

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[quote]jjackkrash wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]jjackkrash wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
her actions have led me to be concerned for my own financial stability going forward yes. Previously, i was quite confident that my brother and i would be receiving a reasonable inheritance (while i wouldn’t be totally dependent on it, it would definitely help). Now, i am confident most of that money will be blown on health treatments for her, because of the decisions that she is making (chemo is very expensive). My father’s retirement, gone… etc.

as a result, i am looking to get every penny that i can out of this family before it goes into some third party’s hands, for treatment that would have otherwise been completely unnecessary. she has made things this way. [/quote]

It sounds like your mom needs something like a prenup to protect her from leaches who don’t work and just want to take her money.
[/quote]

if you are going to post complete nonsense, your input really isn’t needed here. [/quote]

What your mom needs is a living will to make sure that if she can’t make decisions for herself she is protected from you and that you don’t get to steal her money. That isn’t nonsense, it is apparent from the face of what you posted above. [/quote]

perhaps i should explain what i meant when i said ‘get every penny out of this family etc.’ so you don’t make anymore incredibly asinine posts.

when i come to visit, i help my parents with their businesses by providing a service that they have neither the patience nor the willpower to do… but it must be done in order for the business to continue (normally they pay their fiends to do it). it pays very, very well.

sometimes, im too tired/unmotivated to do any more work than is absolutely necessary (im on vacation when i visit, so why work?), even though i would be paid to do more than their business required for that given day.

by ‘getting every penny out of this family’ i meant that as of a week or so ago, i have been working away, nonstop, on my vacation, racking up as many hours on their payroll as i possibly can…and will continue to do so when i head back to my hometown. i will be working before i get to work, after i get home from work, and on the weekends.

so, instead of my parents’ friends getting paid, i will be ‘getting every last penny that i can’ out of them… before my mother wastes all of the family funds on medical treatments that are only necessary because of foolish decisions she has made.

make sense? not exactly stealing.

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[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
The fact that you’re more concerned about your inheritance (lets call it what it is) than your mothers health is unusual to say the least. [/quote]

you misunderstand me…

she is purposefully destroying her health by smoking, drinking heavily, and being obese, so she can get very sick (with various cancers), and drain the family finances…in a sort of ‘if I go down, im taking you with me’-kinda way.

I mean seriously…who STARTS smoking at age 56? [/quote]

I think I can guess what ONE of the stressors may be that led her to pick them up. :-/
[/quote]

if you are inferring that I may be what is stressing her out, I can tell you with confidence that I am not. I do not live with my parents, and when i do come to visit, i help out a lot around the house, and the general ‘stress’ level decreases.

she has nothing to be stressed about… she doesn’t work, so she has no commute and has all day, every day, to do whatever she wants. While her peers are working, she sometimes drives out to the beach to chill and smoke pot (she has a cannabis card, im not so concerned about that).

literally, the least stressed life i can imagine having lol.

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Shouldn’t you still be more concerned with her mental health rather than finances?

but you come across as a selfish, self centered person who only cares about himself.

A typical “what’s in it for me” millenial.
[/quote]

ive come to realize that there’s nothing i can do for her mental health (trust me, ive tried). you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help, and she isn’t breaking any laws, so legal intervention is not a possibility.

her actions have led me to be concerned for my own financial stability going forward yes. Previously, i was quite confident that my brother and i would be receiving a reasonable inheritance (while i wouldn’t be totally dependent on it, it would definitely help). Now, i am confident most of that money will be blown on health treatments for her, because of the decisions that she is making (chemo is very expensive). My father’s retirement, gone… etc.

as a result, i am looking to get every penny that i can out of this family before it goes into some third party’s hands, for treatment that would have otherwise been completely unnecessary. she has made things this way. [/quote]

What makes you think that you were entitled to any of that money to begin with? [/quote]

are you telling me that it isn’t customary for parents to leave their offspring an inheritance once they pass on?[/quote]

For most of the country, no it isn’t. The whole of most of the people in this countries inheritance consists of some land maybe, a little money left over in a bank account, and some personal items. Most people don’t really have a lot of extra cash lying around after a lifetime of living in the middle class or some golden years enjoying their retirement after working hard their whole lives. [/quote]

indeed… however my family used to be somewhat wealthy, and my father’s father donated 10s of millions of dollars to charity instead of giving it to the family (he was a…different breed of cat, you could say).

so after hearing my parents lament about his decision for years after all was said and done… it would be kind of ironic if they did not leave anything for my brother and i.

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
are you telling me that it isn’t customary for parents to leave their offspring an inheritance once they pass on?[/quote]

Not only is it customary for most parents not to leave an inheritance I would think most men would not want a dime from their parents. I’ve told my father-in-law on more than one occasion that I hope he spends every single dime he’s saved before he goes. None of his daughters need the money. My wife and I certainly don’t want it unless he has literally checked every single box on his bucket list and just can not spend the money.

My folks have already spent enough money on me. My biggest concern is not being able to pay them back in some form or fashion before they go.

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[quote]usmccds423 wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
are you telling me that it isn’t customary for parents to leave their offspring an inheritance once they pass on?[/quote]

Not only is it customary for most parents not to leave an inheritance I would think most men would not want a dime from their parents. I’ve told my father-in-law on more than one occasion that I hope he spends every single dime he’s saved before he goes. None of his daughters need the money. My wife and I certainly don’t want it unless he has literally checked every single box on his bucket list and just can not spend the money.

My folks have already spent enough money on me. My biggest concern is not being able to pay them back in some form or fashion before they go. [/quote]
Does not compute. I do not expect anything from my parents. Unless you are a child of Sam Walton who the fuck manages their life with a mentality of winning the “lottery of inheritance”

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
are you telling me that it isn’t customary for parents to leave their offspring an inheritance once they pass on?[/quote]

Not only is it customary for most parents not to leave an inheritance I would think most men would not want a dime from their parents. I’ve told my father-in-law on more than one occasion that I hope he spends every single dime he’s saved before he goes. None of his daughters need the money. My wife and I certainly don’t want it unless he has literally checked every single box on his bucket list and just can not spend the money.

My folks have already spent enough money on me. My biggest concern is not being able to pay them back in some form or fashion before they go. [/quote]
Does not compute. I do not expect anything from my parents. Unless you are a child of Sam Walton who the fuck manages their life with a mentality of winning the “lottery of inheritance” [/quote]

Lol, yep. I would pay my parents mortgage and buy their groceries if I could afford to. They did feed, cloth, and shelter me for 18 years and those are just the basic costs…

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

indeed… however my family used to be somewhat wealthy, and my father’s father donated 10s of millions of dollars to charity instead of giving it to the family (he was a…different breed of cat, you could say).

so after hearing my parents lament about his decision for years after all was said and done… it would be kind of ironic if they did not leave anything for my brother and i. [/quote]

Your parents were not ENTITLED to your grandfather’s money. You and your brother are also not ENTITLED to your parent’s money.

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If my parents want to leave me an inheritance, I see nothing wrong with it.

I do not however expect one

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[quote]usmccds423 wrote:

My folks have already spent enough money on me. My biggest concern is not being able to pay them back in some form or fashion before they go. [/quote]

this.

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[quote]therajraj wrote:
If my parents want to leave me an inheritance, I see nothing wrong with it.

I do not however expect one [/quote]

Ya, I think that’s reasonable outlook.

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[quote]therajraj wrote:
If my parents want to leave me an inheritance, I see nothing wrong with it.

I do not however expect one [/quote]

Nothing wrong with it if that’s what they want to do. However, would you ever consider getting pissed because your Mom might get cancer and ruin your inheritance? What the fuck would he do if they were like yeah, we are going to buy a boat and sail around the Caribbean till we die or run out of money.

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[quote]therajraj wrote:
If my parents want to leave me an inheritance, I see nothing wrong with it.

I do not however expect one [/quote]
Nor pattern your life decisions based on this potential inheritance.

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[quote]therajraj wrote:
If my parents want to leave me an inheritance, I see nothing wrong with it.

I do not however expect one [/quote]

this is pretty much the outlook that i have now. my entire life, they have always said that they will leave my brother and i everything that they can.

now, i view an inheritance as an uncertainty… as a lifetime pessimist, i never fully counted on receiving anything, but now that it is uncertain, im doing all that i can to earn as much of the money through labor as i can.

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:
who the fuck manages their life with a mentality of winning the “lottery of inheritance” [/quote]

Every single one of my jewish friends who will be cut out of the trust fund if they do not marry another jew.

Growing up in a affluent area, if i had a dollar everytime i heard “i dont want to get cut off” or “i dont want to get written out of so-so’s will” I’d have a trust fund of my own to hang over my kids heads.

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Of the unmarried men viewing this thread, how many of you want to get married eventually?

Also, do you plan to have kids?

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[quote]therajraj wrote:
Of the unmarried men viewing this thread, how many of you want to get married eventually?

Also, do you plan to have kids?[/quote]
Yes and yes. The former because of the latter.

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[quote]therajraj wrote:
Of the unmarried men viewing this thread, how many of you want to get married eventually?

Also, do you plan to have kids?[/quote]

yes, although im going to try like hell to avoid a wedding, or atleast have it be as low key as possible.

Kid, at some point, need to find someone to raise it with first ^^

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
as a lifetime pessimist
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Herein lies the crux of so many of your posts on this site.