Why Do Men Get Married These Days?

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

Yup… My wife :wink:

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A whole lot of these problems would be solved by having a moral compass slightly superior to that of a billy goat.

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[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
i am definitely afraid that a woman i would be serious about could become like her… im also afraid that she could become like any of the other middle-aged obese women i know (quite a few).

throughout my life… my teachers have been primarily female, and sure enough, after the wedding and a couple kids, they have all ballooned to massive proportions, while the man looks just about exactly the same as he did the day they met…

the men look absolutely defeated. they get up, drive to work where they spend 8 hours of their day, then drive home to their fat wife and completely sexless marriage lol[/quote]
I still maintain that this is primarily a matter of your environment. This may be the norm where you are, but this is by no means the norm everywhere.

That’s not to say that I can’t find it easily if I look for it, but there are also many other people living lives where this isn’t the case.

There are a couple significant moves I’ve made in my life that changed my outlook for the better, simply because I was around better people. I spent a lot of time ruminating over things in my environment I didn’t like, trying to avoid emulating them, but it wasn’t until I just got out of there that things actually got better.

It could be a matter of just changing the people you associate with, or you may be better off with just getting yourself established in a new place.

People everywhere drink and party, but there’s a big difference between the people who work shitty jobs and party just to survive, and people who are ambitious about their careers and party with the same passion they put toward their work.

Go put yourself around some people who live lives that seem surreal and unrealistic to you right now, and keep doing that until their lives seem normal to you. At least that’s been my experience when I’ve made those changes.[/quote]

Great post. This clown had been told quite a few times that his opinions are primarily due to the scum bags he hangs around.

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

yes[/quote]
Cool, so imagine that times a 1000 if you find somebody you want to share your life with. Not talking about puppy dog I want to bone the chick type of relationship. [/quote]

Well, if I found someone like that, of course I would sign a prenup to be with her.

She would of course do the same for me.

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[quote]LankyMofo wrote:

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
i am definitely afraid that a woman i would be serious about could become like her… im also afraid that she could become like any of the other middle-aged obese women i know (quite a few).

throughout my life… my teachers have been primarily female, and sure enough, after the wedding and a couple kids, they have all ballooned to massive proportions, while the man looks just about exactly the same as he did the day they met…

the men look absolutely defeated. they get up, drive to work where they spend 8 hours of their day, then drive home to their fat wife and completely sexless marriage lol[/quote]
I still maintain that this is primarily a matter of your environment. This may be the norm where you are, but this is by no means the norm everywhere.

That’s not to say that I can’t find it easily if I look for it, but there are also many other people living lives where this isn’t the case.

There are a couple significant moves I’ve made in my life that changed my outlook for the better, simply because I was around better people. I spent a lot of time ruminating over things in my environment I didn’t like, trying to avoid emulating them, but it wasn’t until I just got out of there that things actually got better.

It could be a matter of just changing the people you associate with, or you may be better off with just getting yourself established in a new place.

People everywhere drink and party, but there’s a big difference between the people who work shitty jobs and party just to survive, and people who are ambitious about their careers and party with the same passion they put toward their work.

Go put yourself around some people who live lives that seem surreal and unrealistic to you right now, and keep doing that until their lives seem normal to you. At least that’s been my experience when I’ve made those changes.[/quote]

Great post. This clown had been told quite a few times that his opinions are primarily due to the scum bags he hangs around. [/quote]

Makes sense. Walkway prefers his own company.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

yes[/quote]
Cool, so imagine that times a 1000 if you find somebody you want to share your life with. Not talking about puppy dog I want to bone the chick type of relationship. [/quote]

Well, if I found someone like that, of course I would sign a prenup to be with her.

She would of course do the same for me. [/quote]
If you connected with someone to this degree she would in all likely hood have the same mentality as you, so honestly would not be an issue.

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[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Great post. This clown had been told quite a few times that his opinions are primarily due to the scum bags he hangs around. [/quote]

I wonder if a lot of the paranoid views are more the result of selective perception and fantasy, rather than a bad social environment. Some people don’t have much social interaction at all, and rely on their imaginations to fill in those blanks. Little wonder that their imagination justifies their loneliness.

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[quote]nephorm wrote:

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Great post. This clown had been told quite a few times that his opinions are primarily due to the scum bags he hangs around. [/quote]

I wonder if a lot of the paranoid views are more the result of selective perception and fantasy, rather than a bad social environment. Some people don’t have much social interaction at all, and rely on their imaginations to fill in those blanks. Little wonder that their imagination justifies their loneliness.[/quote]

I’ve seen plenty of instances where teenagers who have good parents and even hang in good social circles make terrible life decisions due to poor (blatantly wrong) perception of their own parents. Something I’m keenly aware of since my oldest is now 13.

I also see this regarding teachers and coaches from time to time.

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[quote]therajraj wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

this is just another risk of getting married… you’re wife could turn into an obese slob who reeks of cigarettes, and has little consideration for her husband or family in general.
[/quote]

This is why dating around before you tie the knot is extremely important. Dating around not only helps you see with great clarity what your sexual desirability looks like, it also teaches you to recognize green and red flags.

if a chick is thin but food is a focus in her life as opposed to an accessory, chances are she’ll be fat within 10 years.[/quote]

I know your experience is vast, but I would argue just the opposite. Find a girl with a healthy appetite who isn’t afraid to exercise it publicly and you will find a girl with a healthy relationship to food, which translates to a healthy metabolism. Find a girl who simpers about “doesn’t eat very much, usually, just not hungry, really” and you have potentially found a secret binger.

Personally, I don’t entirely trust people who don’t enjoy tucking into a good burger or its equivalent now and then.

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

yes[/quote]
Cool, so imagine that times a 1000 if you find somebody you want to share your life with. Not talking about puppy dog I want to bone the chick type of relationship. [/quote]

Although having that second part wrapped in is awfully nice, I think.

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[quote]LankyMofo wrote:

This clown[/quote]

come on Lanky, you’re better than that…

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:

This clown[/quote]

come on Lanky, you’re better than that…[/quote]

no, you’re pretty much a clown. The sad part is, everyone knows it except you.

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[quote]StevenF wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:

This clown[/quote]

come on Lanky, you’re better than that…[/quote]

no, you’re pretty much a clown. [/quote]

what makes you say that?

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[quote]pushharder wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]therajraj wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

this is just another risk of getting married… you’re wife could turn into an obese slob who reeks of cigarettes, and has little consideration for her husband or family in general.
[/quote]

This is why dating around before you tie the knot is extremely important. Dating around not only helps you see with great clarity what your sexual desirability looks like, it also teaches you to recognize green and red flags.

if a chick is thin but food is a focus in her life as opposed to an accessory, chances are she’ll be fat within 10 years.[/quote]

I know your experience is vast, but I would argue just the opposite. Find a girl with a healthy appetite who isn’t afraid to exercise it publicly and you will find a girl with a healthy relationship to food, which translates to a healthy metabolism. Find a girl who simpers about “doesn’t eat very much, usually, just not hungry, really” and you have potentially found a secret binger.

Personally, I don’t entirely trust people who don’t enjoy tucking into a good burger or its equivalent now and then.[/quote]

Agreed.[/quote]

Also agreed. If I’m dating a hot chick and she orders a massive pizza and scrans the whole thing, I have to fight the urge to propose right there and then.

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it seems we may have found a reason for Walkway’s weird attitude to sex: mommy issues.

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[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]StevenF wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:

This clown[/quote]

come on Lanky, you’re better than that…[/quote]

no, you’re pretty much a clown. [/quote]

what makes you say that?[/quote]

I don’t think you’re a clown. I actually think you’re relatively intelligent. You are; however, ignorant, disingenuous, and down right pathological about women. Specifically about how they, in your mind, subvert men in all areas and phases of life.

I really think you should talk to a professional about your issues. For example, you’re concerned your mom might use up the “family fund” when/if she gets sick. The fact that you’re more concerned about your inheritance (lets call it what it is) than your mothers health is unusual to say the least.

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[quote]Yogi wrote:

[quote]pushharder wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]therajraj wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

this is just another risk of getting married… you’re wife could turn into an obese slob who reeks of cigarettes, and has little consideration for her husband or family in general.
[/quote]

This is why dating around before you tie the knot is extremely important. Dating around not only helps you see with great clarity what your sexual desirability looks like, it also teaches you to recognize green and red flags.

if a chick is thin but food is a focus in her life as opposed to an accessory, chances are she’ll be fat within 10 years.[/quote]

I know your experience is vast, but I would argue just the opposite. Find a girl with a healthy appetite who isn’t afraid to exercise it publicly and you will find a girl with a healthy relationship to food, which translates to a healthy metabolism. Find a girl who simpers about “doesn’t eat very much, usually, just not hungry, really” and you have potentially found a secret binger.

Personally, I don’t entirely trust people who don’t enjoy tucking into a good burger or its equivalent now and then.[/quote]

Agreed.[/quote]

Also agreed. If I’m dating a hot chick and she orders a massive pizza and scrans the whole thing, I have to fight the urge to propose right there and then.

[/quote]

x3

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[quote]jbpick86 wrote:

[quote]Yogi wrote:

[quote]pushharder wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]therajraj wrote:

[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:

this is just another risk of getting married… you’re wife could turn into an obese slob who reeks of cigarettes, and has little consideration for her husband or family in general.
[/quote]

This is why dating around before you tie the knot is extremely important. Dating around not only helps you see with great clarity what your sexual desirability looks like, it also teaches you to recognize green and red flags.

if a chick is thin but food is a focus in her life as opposed to an accessory, chances are she’ll be fat within 10 years.[/quote]

I know your experience is vast, but I would argue just the opposite. Find a girl with a healthy appetite who isn’t afraid to exercise it publicly and you will find a girl with a healthy relationship to food, which translates to a healthy metabolism. Find a girl who simpers about “doesn’t eat very much, usually, just not hungry, really” and you have potentially found a secret binger.

Personally, I don’t entirely trust people who don’t enjoy tucking into a good burger or its equivalent now and then.[/quote]

Agreed.[/quote]

Also agreed. If I’m dating a hot chick and she orders a massive pizza and scrans the whole thing, I have to fight the urge to propose right there and then.

[/quote]

x3[/quote]

Huh. I think I may have finally figured out what accounts for my rather startling success with men. lol

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]comus3 wrote:
What if you get married and your wife is completely game and lady like and it’s all good. But she gets cancer and you spend all your money on her treatment. Is that a different risk and different judgment than if she divorced you?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]
Orion serious question. Do you have a best friend? I mean a guy that you trust with your life and will help you bury the body? Guy that is going to be sitting next to you in jail after a night bar hopping? [/quote]

yes[/quote]
Cool, so imagine that times a 1000 if you find somebody you want to share your life with. Not talking about puppy dog I want to bone the chick type of relationship. [/quote]

Although having that second part wrapped in is awfully nice, I think.
[/quote]
That goes with out saying.

The boning part.

Not the puppy dog love.

But the boning