There are many things you can do for facial blushing and sweating. Google some techniques to help you if you find it is bothering you. It’s a slow process which you will slip on many times before you get it right but so is resistance training and you got that in the bag…
[quote]Depression Boy wrote:
Just curious, do you also go around trolling online fat chick diet logs telling them why they will fail with a smug smile? Or on anorexic/chain smoker/junkie e-boards telling them they have a psychological issue and need to get help?
Because thats basically what you’re doing in this thread. Feeling stupidly excited about a sweet natured single mother’s self-esteem issues and feeling smug since you’ve actually fucked her a few times ergo you’re vastly superior to the “white knights” telling her how awesome she is.
[quote]Sturat wrote:
Why? Tired of hearing you can’t fix your problem without doing the one thing you don’t want to do? Because I’m too busy telling you the truth to kiss your ass like so many of the guys in the thread who go on and on about how beautiful (true), funny (true on the internet), and confident (also internet true) you are? Because I think the best way to help you is to beat you over the head with the truth until you finally acknowledge it? Because I’d rather see you face the truth and hate me for it than continue to live in a fantasy that never changes but delude yourself into thinking you’re improving your situation?
Nah. . . I’m kind of enjoying this.
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Q.E.D.
Edit: Intended for Sturat, not depression boy.
You guys really do have deep seated problems for which you should seek help. I’m not kidding. Perhaps that help should be more along the lines of a bartender or a willing member of the opposite sex than that of a psychiatrist, but I’m out. See you next time I want lifting advice :o
[quote]K.F.P wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Hello all.
I have decided to get my nipple pierced to build sexual confidence.
It may be years before anyone even sees it, but I’ll know it’s there and it will make me feel bad ass.
Thanks for listening. [/quote]
Anything, ANYTHING BUT to put yourself out there and risk rejection, eh?[/quote]
This dumb **** thinks a haircut,new color,maybe a nipple piercing is somehow away the laws of attraction in her favor. The real issue isn’t her looks, it is how broken on the inside this girl is. Anybody can read past the surface that there is a desperately sad and needy, perhaps unstable girl in there the minute she starts talking. If she cannot get past hello and her default topic of conversation; teenage comic book fantasy worlds. How is any grown man going to truly have interest in someone so juvenile that is in denial about being a grown up Woman?
I still think she presents more warning signs in real life than the cute quirky single mom she presents online.
[/quote]
Are you agreeing with Orion and talking about someone else or are you calling Orion a dumbshit? Btw, it’s perfectly acceptable to say “shit” on this website. I’m pretty sure Orion isn’t saying she need to work on her looks. I’m pretty sure that’s about the last thing he thinks she needs to work on. You’re way out of line assuming she’s that fucked up too. Some people simply feel emotions way stronger than most and it hinders their ability to interact. Some people are just plain shy and shyness isn’t just about lack of confidence like some people think it is. It’s innate for a lot of people.
Sure Spock isn’t the most confident girl in the world but she’s hardly the least confident and she’s hardly broken. She’s about as confident as you can expect of a girl who got knocked up as a teenager, didn’t get to go to college and hasn’t had a lot of luck with men. I think her quirkiness shows in some ways she is very confident. It take a degree of confidence for an adult to go ahead and let people see their inner kid. That’s a strength not a weakness.
She also holds down a full time job, is a good mother to her son and takes good care of herself. I think she might even fit in a little schooling as well. The last thing she is is broken.
Are there any pics of Spock in this thread? Specifically, any that show some fucking pink?
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]K.F.P wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Hello all.
I have decided to get my nipple pierced to build sexual confidence.
It may be years before anyone even sees it, but I’ll know it’s there and it will make me feel bad ass.
Thanks for listening. [/quote]
Anything, ANYTHING BUT to put yourself out there and risk rejection, eh?[/quote]
This dumb **** thinks a haircut,new color,maybe a nipple piercing is somehow away the laws of attraction in her favor. The real issue isn’t her looks, it is how broken on the inside this girl is. Anybody can read past the surface that there is a desperately sad and needy, perhaps unstable girl in there the minute she starts talking. If she cannot get past hello and her default topic of conversation; teenage comic book fantasy worlds. How is any grown man going to truly have interest in someone so juvenile that is in denial about being a grown up Woman?
I still think she presents more warning signs in real life than the cute quirky single mom she presents online.
[/quote]
Are you agreeing with Orion and talking about someone else or are you calling Orion a dumbshit? Btw, it’s perfectly acceptable to say “shit” on this website. I’m pretty sure Orion isn’t saying she need to work on her looks. I’m pretty sure that’s about the last thing he thinks she needs to work on. You’re way out of line assuming she’s that fucked up too. Some people simply feel emotions way stronger than most and it hinders their ability to interact. Some people are just plain shy and shyness isn’t just about lack of confidence like some people think it is. It’s innate for a lot of people.
Sure Spock isn’t the most confident girl in the world but she’s hardly the least confident and she’s hardly broken. She’s about as confident as you can expect of a girl who got knocked up as a teenager, didn’t get to go to college and hasn’t had a lot of luck with men. I think her quirkiness shows in some ways she is very confident. It take a degree of confidence for an adult to go ahead and let people see their inner kid. That’s a strength not a weakness.
She also holds down a full time job, is a good mother to her son and takes good care of herself. I think she might even fit in a little schooling as well. The last thing she is is broken.[/quote]
I agree with Orion’s comments on here. I think that because Sturat knows Spock personally and they had sex, that portions of what he has shared sheds some light on things also. And by her own comments of repeated failures,of what equates to brief sexual hook-ups. And maybe all the White Knights encouraging her with things she refuses or is incapable of doing is just giving her false hope.Instead Haircuts and piercings are her epiphanies. If none of the men Spock slept with stuck around there has to be a personality flaw that they all ran from. Orion and Sturat are just the counterpoint to the angle of why can’t Spock get men. Sorry we all can’t shove rainbows and sunshine up this girls ass. Good luck to her, I think she needs all the help she can get.
[quote]K.F.P wrote:
If she cannot get past hello and her default topic of conversation; teenage comic book fantasy worlds. How is any grown man going to truly have interest in someone so juvenile that is in denial about being a grown up Woman?
[/quote]
Yeah, I mean really, how awful for a guy to have to talk with a chick about comic books, blah.
You know what else I know a lot about? pokemon. I can name a lot of them. And dinosaurs, video games, OH monster trucks. I fucking love monster trucks.
I also play in those climby gym things even though they’re horribly uncomfortable and I bounce around in bouncy castles even though it makes my hair static-city.
I also never go to Chuckie Cheese without bringing my A-game because tickets MUST. BE.WON.
Guess why I do all these things?
You wanna know why?
Because I decided a long time ago that this was the kind of mom I wanted to be.
A mom that wasn’t bored sitting around watching her kid have fun.
A mom that could carry on actual conversations about the stuff her kid is most passionate about as apposed to just pretending to give a crap.
In all honesty, I hate minecraft. I really do.
But I play it, and I talk about it, and I have a shirt with a fucking creeper on it because it matters.
So fine. I don’t act like a grown up woman most of the time. But I’ve been around grown up women, I’ve listened in on their conversations in the change room and it all sounds really fucking boring.
Oh yes, they’re going to go get things on sale.
Shoes.
Some shoes are on sale and the weather is shitty and they’re renovating their basement and want opinions on hardwood floors.
I’m sorry I would rather talk about Spiderman than that, but that is not something I am willing to change.
I am really starting to dislike this thread…
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]K.F.P wrote:
If she cannot get past hello and her default topic of conversation; teenage comic book fantasy worlds. How is any grown man going to truly have interest in someone so juvenile that is in denial about being a grown up Woman?
[/quote]
Yeah, I mean really, how awful for a guy to have to talk with a chick about comic books, blah.
You know what else I know a lot about? pokemon. I can name a lot of them. And dinosaurs, video games, OH monster trucks. I fucking love monster trucks.
I also play in those climby gym things even though they’re horribly uncomfortable and I bounce around in bouncy castles even though it makes my hair static-city.
I also never go to Chuckie Cheese without bringing my A-game because tickets MUST. BE.WON.
Guess why I do all these things?
You wanna know why?
Because I decided a long time ago that this was the kind of mom I wanted to be.
A mom that wasn’t bored sitting around watching her kid have fun.
A mom that could carry on actual conversations about the stuff her kid is most passionate about as apposed to just pretending to give a crap.
In all honesty, I hate minecraft. I really do.
But I play it, and I talk about it, and I have a shirt with a fucking creeper on it because it matters.
So fine. I don’t act like a grown up woman most of the time. But I’ve been around grown up women, I’ve listened in on their conversations in the change room and it all sounds really fucking boring.
Oh yes, they’re going to go get things on sale.
Shoes.
Some shoes are on sale and the weather is shitty and they’re renovating their basement and want opinions on hardwood floors.
I’m sorry I would rather talk about Spiderman than that, but that is not something I am willing to change.
I am really starting to dislike this thread…[/quote]
I wish you were my Mom. Although kinda in a more Freudian way
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]K.F.P wrote:
If she cannot get past hello and her default topic of conversation; teenage comic book fantasy worlds. How is any grown man going to truly have interest in someone so juvenile that is in denial about being a grown up Woman?
[/quote]
Yeah, I mean really, how awful for a guy to have to talk with a chick about comic books, blah.
You know what else I know a lot about? pokemon. I can name a lot of them. And dinosaurs, video games, OH monster trucks. I fucking love monster trucks.
I also play in those climby gym things even though they’re horribly uncomfortable and I bounce around in bouncy castles even though it makes my hair static-city.
I also never go to Chuckie Cheese without bringing my A-game because tickets MUST. BE.WON.
Guess why I do all these things?
You wanna know why?
Because I decided a long time ago that this was the kind of mom I wanted to be.
A mom that wasn’t bored sitting around watching her kid have fun.
A mom that could carry on actual conversations about the stuff her kid is most passionate about as apposed to just pretending to give a crap.
In all honesty, I hate minecraft. I really do.
But I play it, and I talk about it, and I have a shirt with a fucking creeper on it because it matters.
So fine. I don’t act like a grown up woman most of the time. But I’ve been around grown up women, I’ve listened in on their conversations in the change room and it all sounds really fucking boring.
Oh yes, they’re going to go get things on sale.
Shoes.
Some shoes are on sale and the weather is shitty and they’re renovating their basement and want opinions on hardwood floors.
I’m sorry I would rather talk about Spiderman than that, but that is not something I am willing to change.
[/quote]
I like this post. Enough to just quote it and mention that I do like it.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]K.F.P wrote:
If she cannot get past hello and her default topic of conversation; teenage comic book fantasy worlds. How is any grown man going to truly have interest in someone so juvenile that is in denial about being a grown up Woman?
[/quote]
Yeah, I mean really, how awful for a guy to have to talk with a chick about comic books, blah.
You know what else I know a lot about? pokemon. I can name a lot of them. And dinosaurs, video games, OH monster trucks. I fucking love monster trucks.
I also play in those climby gym things even though they’re horribly uncomfortable and I bounce around in bouncy castles even though it makes my hair static-city.
I also never go to Chuckie Cheese without bringing my A-game because tickets MUST. BE.WON.
Guess why I do all these things?
You wanna know why?
Because I decided a long time ago that this was the kind of mom I wanted to be.
A mom that wasn’t bored sitting around watching her kid have fun.
A mom that could carry on actual conversations about the stuff her kid is most passionate about as apposed to just pretending to give a crap.
In all honesty, I hate minecraft. I really do.
But I play it, and I talk about it, and I have a shirt with a fucking creeper on it because it matters.
So fine. I don’t act like a grown up woman most of the time. But I’ve been around grown up women, I’ve listened in on their conversations in the change room and it all sounds really fucking boring.
Oh yes, they’re going to go get things on sale.
Shoes.
Some shoes are on sale and the weather is shitty and they’re renovating their basement and want opinions on hardwood floors.
I’m sorry I would rather talk about Spiderman than that, but that is not something I am willing to change.
I am really starting to dislike this thread…[/quote]
Will you marry me?
I think your only problem is you aren’t in enough situations to find the kind of guys that would love those things about you. It must be really hard to find the time with your work and a kid. For you, online dating probably would be a good thing to do, I don’t think there is any stigma attached to it anymore, you could even get some of the people here to help you set up your profile. Probably wouldn’t do it publicly though.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]K.F.P wrote:
If she cannot get past hello and her default topic of conversation; teenage comic book fantasy worlds. How is any grown man going to truly have interest in someone so juvenile that is in denial about being a grown up Woman?
[/quote]
Yeah, I mean really, how awful for a guy to have to talk with a chick about comic books, blah.
You know what else I know a lot about? pokemon. I can name a lot of them. And dinosaurs, video games, OH monster trucks. I fucking love monster trucks.
I also play in those climby gym things even though they’re horribly uncomfortable and I bounce around in bouncy castles even though it makes my hair static-city.
I also never go to Chuckie Cheese without bringing my A-game because tickets MUST. BE.WON.
Guess why I do all these things?
You wanna know why?
Because I decided a long time ago that this was the kind of mom I wanted to be.
A mom that wasn’t bored sitting around watching her kid have fun.
A mom that could carry on actual conversations about the stuff her kid is most passionate about as apposed to just pretending to give a crap.
In all honesty, I hate minecraft. I really do.
But I play it, and I talk about it, and I have a shirt with a fucking creeper on it because it matters.
So fine. I don’t act like a grown up woman most of the time. But I’ve been around grown up women, I’ve listened in on their conversations in the change room and it all sounds really fucking boring.
Oh yes, they’re going to go get things on sale.
Shoes.
Some shoes are on sale and the weather is shitty and they’re renovating their basement and want opinions on hardwood floors.
I’m sorry I would rather talk about Spiderman than that, but that is not something I am willing to change.
I am really starting to dislike this thread…[/quote]
This is great. My wife is a lot like this too. She got herself a Gameboy and now she and the 3 kids will spend hours playing Pokemon. She seems really into it but I suspect she’s just doing it to have something to do with the kids. I fail miserably at having an interest in all the video games my kids are into. They come to me constantly, excitedly, to show me whatever it is they want to show me on the screen and I’ve got no interest what so ever.
[quote]Sutebun wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]K.F.P wrote:
If she cannot get past hello and her default topic of conversation; teenage comic book fantasy worlds. How is any grown man going to truly have interest in someone so juvenile that is in denial about being a grown up Woman?
[/quote]
Yeah, I mean really, how awful for a guy to have to talk with a chick about comic books, blah.
You know what else I know a lot about? pokemon. I can name a lot of them. And dinosaurs, video games, OH monster trucks. I fucking love monster trucks.
I also play in those climby gym things even though they’re horribly uncomfortable and I bounce around in bouncy castles even though it makes my hair static-city.
I also never go to Chuckie Cheese without bringing my A-game because tickets MUST. BE.WON.
Guess why I do all these things?
You wanna know why?
Because I decided a long time ago that this was the kind of mom I wanted to be.
A mom that wasn’t bored sitting around watching her kid have fun.
A mom that could carry on actual conversations about the stuff her kid is most passionate about as apposed to just pretending to give a crap.
In all honesty, I hate minecraft. I really do.
But I play it, and I talk about it, and I have a shirt with a fucking creeper on it because it matters.
So fine. I don’t act like a grown up woman most of the time. But I’ve been around grown up women, I’ve listened in on their conversations in the change room and it all sounds really fucking boring.
Oh yes, they’re going to go get things on sale.
Shoes.
Some shoes are on sale and the weather is shitty and they’re renovating their basement and want opinions on hardwood floors.
I’m sorry I would rather talk about Spiderman than that, but that is not something I am willing to change.
[/quote]
I like this post. Enough to just quote it and mention that I do like it.
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I am twice as old as you, Spock, and well-married, but I approve whole-heartedly. You go girl…
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]K.F.P wrote:
If she cannot get past hello and her default topic of conversation; teenage comic book fantasy worlds. How is any grown man going to truly have interest in someone so juvenile that is in denial about being a grown up Woman?
[/quote]
Yeah, I mean really, how awful for a guy to have to talk with a chick about comic books, blah.
You know what else I know a lot about? pokemon. I can name a lot of them. And dinosaurs, video games, OH monster trucks. I fucking love monster trucks.
I also play in those climby gym things even though they’re horribly uncomfortable and I bounce around in bouncy castles even though it makes my hair static-city.
I also never go to Chuckie Cheese without bringing my A-game because tickets MUST. BE.WON.
Guess why I do all these things?
You wanna know why?
Because I decided a long time ago that this was the kind of mom I wanted to be.
A mom that wasn’t bored sitting around watching her kid have fun.
A mom that could carry on actual conversations about the stuff her kid is most passionate about as apposed to just pretending to give a crap.
In all honesty, I hate minecraft. I really do.
But I play it, and I talk about it, and I have a shirt with a fucking creeper on it because it matters.
So fine. I don’t act like a grown up woman most of the time. But I’ve been around grown up women, I’ve listened in on their conversations in the change room and it all sounds really fucking boring.
Oh yes, they’re going to go get things on sale.
Shoes.
Some shoes are on sale and the weather is shitty and they’re renovating their basement and want opinions on hardwood floors.
I’m sorry I would rather talk about Spiderman than that, but that is not something I am willing to change.
I am really starting to dislike this thread…[/quote]
Regarding grownup women, I think you’re generalizing polite acquaintance chit-chat for what women like and are interested in. I will engage in social niceties of that sort, but my friends and I relate on very different terms. We don’t talk about sales. We might talk about renovations, but so will you if/when you’re doing one. The weather is what you talk about to strangers and near-strangers. I can speak of kid things with people interested in that, product for curly hair with women who also have it, diet and exercise with people interested in that (and can target myself to their level of fitness/interest), how to play trampoline tag, sport bras, gear for outdoor play, whether hot air ballooning seems fun or stupid, children’s and adult books - and so on.
If you saw me having a polite locker room conversation, it would be about the shitty weather. I’m not really going to announce to someone I run into occasionally at the gym that I think my sex drive may be higher than average or that I’ve broken my glasses a half dozen times smashing into my opponent on the trampoline.
I bet trampoline tag conversations and sportbra conversations go hand in hand. We play trampoline dodge ball when we go to Sky High. Definitely have to try out tag. Never thought of that before.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
That reminds me that I haven’t seen any naked female trampoline tag competitions in awhile.
That is not a good thing.[/quote]
I concur.
More nekkid women on trampolins would make the world a better place.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Guess why I do all these things?
You wanna know why?
Because I decided a long time ago that this was the kind of mom I wanted to be.[/quote]
While I find the way you embrace your role in your child’s life very endearing, I’m confused: do you do all of these things because you love them (like with the monster trucks) or because (as you said) you want to be a great mom who could carry on conversations about things her kid is passionate about?
I only ask because childhood passions are fickle and fleeting (your kid likely will not give a shit about pokemon and 90% of that other shit a few years from now)… so if your answer leans towards the latter, what’s the game plan, really? Immerse yourself completely in every interest and hobby your child has until he leaves the nest, just so you can get along with him? When you’re now a 30-40-something with no idea of who you are outside of your child’s buddy?
If you love all of that, great (I’m guessing you don’t masturbate to Loki because your kid has a crush on the Little Mermaid). More power to you. As a single guy the same age as you, a whole lot of this ain’t my cup of tea (e.g., aquariums are superior to zoos and I want a gf I can leave alone for a second without having to worry about her sticking a fork in an electrical socket), but I can respect that there are some people out there who would view your shtick more favorably.
All I know is that I manage to have great rapport with people much older than me without having to resort to what you stereotype as “adult” conversation (Emily already addressed this, and I’ll leave it to someone else to pry into your social life to discuss this perception of yours further), and I have certainly managed to avoid becoming a stuffy, lame adult without having to live my life trapped in the developmental equivalent of Pee-wee’s Playhouse.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
This screams volumes about who you are as a person and a “man.”
I can amost smell the stench way over here.[/quote]
While I’m confused about the auditory/olfactory vacillation in this post, and also not sure about the unstable/needy part, all it really projects is that he has a blunt delivery. I absolutely agree that there are likely more red flags than what we are privy to online.
Spock – I don’t know if anyone bothered to address this, but a person who cannot even make eye contact with herself in the mirror, much less name the color eyes any member of her immediate family has, is a woman with issues that a nipple piercing won’t fix.
Between that and the crippling disablement you find yourself subjected to in basic social interactions, I would recommend seeking professional help to figure out what’s going on under the surface and how you REALLY need to go about addressing it. I think this is a shitty environment for such an exploration and I’d bet most of the info you will find here will remain useless until that is resolved.