Ok so today he said
“hello again”
AGAIN, it was a good word.
I said Hello
Then I said
“how are you?” ← I added a how are you!! I never add how are you’s.
He was good, I think. I don’t remember. It’s all such a blurr
Then I realized I forgot to make him sign in to the sign in duo-tang.
But then he remembered and came back to sign-in.
It was a really great 35 seconds.
Thanks for letting me share.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]Sturat wrote:
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Do yourself a favour, when he comes in next say “So when are we going for coffee?”
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There aren’t enough fans in the world that could blow on me to make me able to say that. Nincompoop.
And stop saying Disney fantasies.
He is never a prince charming in my head and I am never a princess.
I would say more like Luke & Lorelai/Gilmore girl’s ESQ., but whatever. [/quote]
next time you see him just ask him what kind of music does he listen to when he works out. no pressure on you but it gives an opening. common interest leads to easy conversation.
for wtw I think you’re very pretty and seem to have a great sense of humor. the way you talk about how you place your child first speaks of a tender, loving, and strong woman.
I know you want to find someone but DO NOT BECOME A D.S.A.(DESPERATELY SEEKING ANYBODY). don’t settle for a cubic zirconia when you deserve a diamond.
JR
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Ok so today he said
“hello again”
AGAIN, it was a good word.
I said Hello
Then I said
“how are you?” ← I added a how are you!! I never add how are you’s.
He was good, I think. I don’t remember. It’s all such a blurr
Then I realized I forgot to make him sign in to the sign in duo-tang.
But then he remembered and came back to sign-in.
It was a really great 35 seconds.
Thanks for letting me share.
[/quote]
Spock, just figure out what you want in a man and go on a dating site. Take it the fuck away from work and where you normally meet men.
[quote]roybot wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Ok so today he said
“hello again”
AGAIN, it was a good word.
I said Hello
Then I said
“how are you?” ← I added a how are you!! I never add how are you’s.
He was good, I think. I don’t remember. It’s all such a blurr
Then I realized I forgot to make him sign in to the sign in duo-tang.
But then he remembered and came back to sign-in.
It was a really great 35 seconds.
Thanks for letting me share.
[/quote]
Spock, just figure out what you want in a man and go on a dating site. Take it the fuck away from work and where you normally meet men. [/quote]
She’ll be swamped in cesspool-esque vermin, but it’ll give her a good idea and more than likely some dates with decent guys.
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
[quote]roybot wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Ok so today he said
“hello again”
AGAIN, it was a good word.
I said Hello
Then I said
“how are you?” ← I added a how are you!! I never add how are you’s.
He was good, I think. I don’t remember. It’s all such a blurr
Then I realized I forgot to make him sign in to the sign in duo-tang.
But then he remembered and came back to sign-in.
It was a really great 35 seconds.
Thanks for letting me share.
[/quote]
Spock, just figure out what you want in a man and go on a dating site. Take it the fuck away from work and where you normally meet men. [/quote]
She’ll be swamped in cesspool-esque vermin, but it’ll give her a good idea and more than likely some dates with decent guys.[/quote]
She just needs to find a single dad with common interests. I’d match her with RV if he wasn’t crazier than a shithouse rat.
Dear Spock,
I’m not a paleontologist, but I do have a large bone you are welcome to examine.
Regards,
anonym
p.s., dinosaurs are aight, but what is your stance on dragons?
She needs to be able to say more than three words to a male that’s the biggest problem.
I notice that Spock is quick to accept all the advice that doesn’t involve actually talking to people. . . hair? check. Makeup? Check. Wardrobe? Check. Speed dating/toastmasters/going out/joining a club/saying more than 3 works to binder guy? FUCK THAT SHIT!
[quote]Sturat wrote:
She needs to be able to say more than three words to a male that’s the biggest problem.
I notice that Spock is quick to accept all the advice that doesn’t involve actually talking to people. . . hair? check. Makeup? Check. Wardrobe? Check. Speed dating/toastmasters/going out/joining a club/saying more than 3 works to binder guy? FUCK THAT SHIT!
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This is why I think she should follow Roybot’s advise and use a dating site. She’s comfortable behind the keyboard and is very liable communicating that way. She’ll get lots of guys interested, build a rapport with some of them, then can commit to spending time with a few that she feels most comfortable. I don’t know much about how dating sites work (I only use gigolo sites) but it seems to me she could go out with guys and already have things to talk about with them.
[quote]Sturat wrote:
Speed dating/toastmasters/going out/joining a club/saying more than 3 works to binder guy? FUCK THAT SHIT!
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To be fair, Toastmasters can be both intimidating and terrifying, esp. if you have old people who are just incredibly good at giving speeches.
Plus, I get the feeling that Toastmasters sorta becomes this little group where people are good at giving speeches to that little group, but nowhere else. It boggles my mind how people who seemingly give good speeches at the front fail at holding a basic conversation with me (a visitor) during the break time.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Ok so today he said
“hello again”
AGAIN, it was a good word.
I said Hello
Then I said
“how are you?” ← I added a how are you!! I never add how are you’s.
He was good, I think. I don’t remember. It’s all such a blurr
Then I realized I forgot to make him sign in to the sign in duo-tang.
But then he remembered and came back to sign-in.
It was a really great 35 seconds.
Thanks for letting me share.
[/quote]
I told you this months ago, dont get hung up on one guy, start the process.
It seems you have, because you are now identifying your mistakes and correct them.
Now, go somewhere where you can make more mistakes, faster.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
She’s comfortable behind the keyboard and is very liable communicating that way.[/quote]
I assume that’s a typo? ;-)[/quote]
Yes, I meant to say lickable.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Ok so today he said
“hello again”
AGAIN, it was a good word.
I said Hello
Then I said
“how are you?” ← I added a how are you!! I never add how are you’s.
He was good, I think. I don’t remember. It’s all such a blurr
Then I realized I forgot to make him sign in to the sign in duo-tang.
But then he remembered and came back to sign-in.
It was a really great 35 seconds.
Thanks for letting me share.
[/quote]
This is a rom-com in the making!! 
[quote]Sturat wrote:
She needs to be able to say more than three words to a male that’s the biggest problem.
I notice that Spock is quick to accept all the advice that doesn’t involve actually talking to people. . . hair? check. Makeup? Check. Wardrobe? Check. Speed dating/toastmasters/going out/joining a club/saying more than 3 works to binder guy? FUCK THAT SHIT!
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“FUCK THAT SHIT!”
And are these the three words beyond which she seems unable to go? 
Cos they ARE attention-getters!!
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Ok so today he said
“hello again”
AGAIN, it was a good word.
I said Hello
Then I said
“how are you?” ← I added a how are you!! I never add how are you’s.
He was good, I think. I don’t remember. It’s all such a blurr
Then I realized I forgot to make him sign in to the sign in duo-tang.
But then he remembered and came back to sign-in.
It was a really great 35 seconds.
Thanks for letting me share.
[/quote]
I told you this months ago, dont get hung up on one guy, start the process.
It seems you have, because you are now identifying your mistakes and correct them.
Now, go somewhere where you can make more mistakes, faster. [/quote]
If this ends up like those two really shy people (one of whom was a woman with a mentally ill brother) in Love Actually, I’m going to sulk.
[quote]Sturat wrote:
She needs to be able to say more than three words to a male that’s the biggest problem.
[/quote]
Seconded. I only have this thread to go on, but it really does sound like you are incapable of having a normal, adult conversation with a stranger.
Does this apply to ANY person that you don’t know, or only men that you are attracted to?
Seriously, fixing this one issue would fix 90% of the problem for you.
[quote]Furyguy wrote:
[quote]Sturat wrote:
She needs to be able to say more than three words to a male that’s the biggest problem.
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Seconded. I only have this thread to go on, but it really does sound like you are incapable of having a normal, adult conversation with a stranger.
Does this apply to ANY person that you don’t know, or only men that you are attracted to?
Seriously, fixing this one issue would fix 90% of the problem for you.
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No, it’s only dudes that I’m attracted to.
Actually, it’s not even really that because I have been attracted to guys before, yet still not really cared at all about them or their opinions of me.
I get hung up on guys that I THINK might be interested in me. Not like they’ve given any real indications that that is the case, just feelings I get for whatever reason.
I think, hmm, I am starting to get the sense that this person may like me or be attracted to me.
I fall for them in about 20 seconds… 
I don’t know how I am supposed to control my feelings? How do I un-like a person or force myself to like MORE people at one time if it just doesn’t happen?
I have also wasted 133 dollars on Eharmony and never again will I do that.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
I have also wasted 133 dollars on Eharmony and never again will I do that.
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Oh I was thinking Okcupid or some shit like that.
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
Oh I was thinking Okcupid or some shit like that.[/quote]
Okcupid is where I met my lady friend. Its not bad for a free site. POF on the other hand is trash city.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
No, it’s only dudes that I’m attracted to.
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Having known you in person, this statement is not entirely true. You’ve already said you don’t make eye contact with patrons, or talk to them beyond what’s required to do your job. Really my dear you need to learn to talk to people, you may or may not have feelings but you can still talk to them. It’s a skill, it takes practice! What you need to do is force yourself to practice.
If you think binder boy has any sort of attraction ask him for coffee, hell just ask him if he likes coffee and if he says “yes” respond with “me too. . .” and leave it hanging, no guarantee he’ll pick up on it but it’s got to be easier than asking him.