When Did You Last Cry and Why?

[Spock81]

Wow, I feel like an unber baby for all you people crying over real issues, LOL.

Probably the biggest sob fest in my life was when I found out my kid’s piece of shit father killed a kid in a hit and run accident a couple years ago. He was driving somewhere at like 3am, hit a person, drove away, and the cops didn’t find out it was him until 6 months later. I found out because my friend read it in the news and sent me a facebook message. Around the same time I found out he knocked up some other 19 year old chick and my kid was going to have a sibling in this whole dysfunctional mess.
I just broke down completely because I felt sooo guilty for my kid having to have that person as a dad. Like it was my fault and I owed him so much for this person who is in our lives making things crappy, even though I am well aware my kid wouldn’t even be my kid if it weren’t for him.
I just hugged his PJ pants and sobbed like a baby for a really long time.

Every other cry fest after that point was for stupid girly, hormonal reasons, ha-ha.

[system]

When my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer

Those “Thank you mom” commercials for the Olympics also killed me.

[mgbyrnc]

When I thought about how kind and loving my best friend’s family has been to me for 12 years.

[Lukemonahan]

[quote]FarmerBrett wrote:

Oh well, I guess my hour’s up! Same time next week?[/quote]

Yeah, sure, thanks for chatting mate its nice to have a fresh outlook on the subject.

[Lukemonahan]

[quote]Quiet Warrior wrote:

[quote]Loolu wrote:
Its all due to my Dad leaving when I was 2-3 years old. The thing is I didn’t even know I had an issue with it until about 3 years ago, until me and my girlfriend of the time were talking bout our families whilst sitting in bed. The subject got on to my dad and I spoke about him for like the first time in 16 years and I just broke down into a massive wreck, but I’m so glad I did it felt like a massive weight off my chest and it broke down the mental barrier I had so I could finally talk to my mum about it.

It properly fucked me knowing that he left and didn’t look back, but then I though do I want that man in my life? This is a man whom my only memory of is him promising to take me to the aquarium and then taking me to a garden centre that sold fish, way to disappoint a toddler. Its not all shit though, his absence taught me the importance of being a man and the importance of a close family.
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I know that feeling man, grew up without a real dad. He was treating my mom very bad (even physical violence) and I can’t remember a single moment when he was there for me. My mother got really depressive during my childhood, she had to take prescription drugs and at some point even played with the idea of puting me next to her in the car seat, and driving full speed into a wall. So that my dad would not get me and she would be free. She told me that 4 years before and that hit me like a solid punch. I have dreams about the memories of her getting beaten in front of me, and Im again 5 years old with no fucking way to do something about it.
When I was 14 he returned to us and they both (my mom and him) got into a fight. the moment he was starting to beat her and she started to scream I ran into the room and went nuts. I was punching my own dad in the face with full force. Not trying to say that he was hurt physically but it obviously shocked him that his own son would try to hurt him.
Up to this point I still sort of had hopes like “Im going to see my dad on the weekends, we’re going to have a good time”, but from then on I lost ANY kind of respect or feeling for this man. I know that I cried for a long time that night. It took a couple of therapy sessions util I was able to sleep again. Havent seen my dad for about 5 years now, and LIFE IS GOOD.

Last year a friend of mine got me to talk about that when I was drunk. Completely lost it half way through the story and was sobing my heart out. That was the last time I remember I cried.
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Jeez thats really hard man, it must be really though to talk about it well done dude. To me it shows that while almost anyone can have a child, it takes or makes a man to raise a child. The conversation that lead to the tears always seems to come out the blue.

[system]

I get a little misty eyed everyday, my dad died of cancer in September almost to the day my mom passed after we had to turn off her life support. something will get me thinking about the old man and that he’s me thinking of that last day at the V.A and I’ll tear up. that and my job isn’t working out the way I thought it would so I cut back in everything I could so I got a lot of time to sit and think and well it makes for being a depressed recluse

[orion]

[quote]Chushin wrote:
More good reading:

http://tnation.T-Nation.com/free_online_forum/music_movies_girls_life/the_last_time_you_cried?id=4916795&pageNo=0 [/quote]

"Every deadlift day. Those plates are so cold and uncaring. "

I second that.

[The_Ox_Man]

The last time I cried was just now, after reading some of your stories.

I lost my older sister in a car accident a few years ago. I really loved her, but the pain I’ve seen my parents go through, especially my mother, is almost on another level. I can’t imagine losing a child

[orion]

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]batman730 wrote:

[quote]FarmerBrett wrote:

[quote]Big Kahuna wrote:

I hate that notion, I can understand it from a strong, leadership perspective, [/quote]

Yeah. I wouldn’t suggest doing it in public.[/quote]

This.

“Men don’t cry” is emotionally crippled B.S. “Men don’t cry in public” (except under truly extraordinary circumstances) is generally pretty solid advice, IMO.

There is a time to keep it together and a time to surrender to the enormity of the moment. A guy oughta know the difference. [/quote]

I think this holds true for women, too.
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Don’t go all feminist on us, women cry over everything. [/quote]

Insurance commercials, I kid you not.

[Schwarzfahrer]

Stop!

[audiogarden1]

I honestly dont think ive full-on cried in at least 3 years. I cant remember the specifics, but its been a while.

Ive gotten teary-eyed during a few powerful movie moments but not what i would call crying.

I think as you get older and take on more responsibility/have more life-experiences, you discover the uselessness of crying. Some people find it therapeutic, i feel only embarrassment if i cry, even if no one else is around. Its a sign of weakness, of breaking down and letting your emotions get the better of you, rather than being proactive about fixing whatever problem it is you are faced with.

A death of a family member or close friend, pet, mentor, etc. is excusable.

[csulli]

[quote]audiogarden1 wrote:
I honestly dont think ive full-on cried in at least 3 years. I cant remember the specifics, but its been a while.

Ive gotten teary-eyed during a few powerful movie moments but not what i would call crying.

I think as you get older and take on more responsibility/have more life-experiences, you discover the uselessness of crying. Some people find it therapeutic, i feel only embarrassment if i cry, even if no one else is around. Its a sign of weakness, of breaking down and letting your emotions get the better of you, rather than being proactive about fixing whatever problem it is you are faced with.

A death of a family member or close friend, pet, mentor, etc. is excusable. [/quote]
Those are my thoughts as well.

[FarmerBrett]

[quote]audiogarden1 wrote:
I think as you get older and take on more responsibility/have more life-experiences, you discover the uselessness of crying. Some people find it therapeutic, i feel only embarrassment if i cry, even if no one else is around. Its a sign of weakness, of breaking down and letting your emotions get the better of you, rather than being proactive about fixing whatever problem it is you are faced with.
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That’s funny, I feel the EXACT opposite.

I was quite emotionally tough when I was younger, but as I’ve aged and taken on more responsibility I have become softer because I have so much more to lose now. I’ve been with my wife for 23 years and couldn’t imagine what I would do without her. This is why hearing about an elderly couple who have been together 50 years and one has just died will almost bring me to tears because I can put myself in that position and imagine how it must feel to lose someone who’s been with you nearly all your life.

That’s why I find the beginning of Up so hard to watch.

Why do you feel embarrassment when you cry and you are on your own? The last time I cried was July 2011 when my dog was put down. I did feel embarrassed because I didn’t want to cry in front of the vet, but if he wasn’t there I couldn’t have given two shits.

[Lukemonahan]

[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]audiogarden1 wrote:
I honestly dont think ive full-on cried in at least 3 years. I cant remember the specifics, but its been a while.

Ive gotten teary-eyed during a few powerful movie moments but not what i would call crying.

I think as you get older and take on more responsibility/have more life-experiences, you discover the uselessness of crying. Some people find it therapeutic, i feel only embarrassment if i cry, even if no one else is around. Its a sign of weakness, of breaking down and letting your emotions get the better of you, rather than being proactive about fixing whatever problem it is you are faced with.

A death of a family member or close friend, pet, mentor, etc. is excusable. [/quote]
Those are my thoughts as well.[/quote]

Its more of a personal thing, I find crying is akin to being sick, while your doing to you hate but afterwards you feel a sense of relief and feel better almost straight away.

[Lukemonahan]

[quote]FarmerBrett wrote:

[quote]audiogarden1 wrote:
I think as you get older and take on more responsibility/have more life-experiences, you discover the uselessness of crying. Some people find it therapeutic, i feel only embarrassment if i cry, even if no one else is around. Its a sign of weakness, of breaking down and letting your emotions get the better of you, rather than being proactive about fixing whatever problem it is you are faced with.
[/quote]

That’s funny, I feel the EXACT opposite.

I was quite emotionally tough when I was younger, but as I’ve aged and taken on more responsibility I have become softer because I have so much more to lose now. I’ve been with my wife for 23 years and couldn’t imagine what I would do without her. This is why hearing about an elderly couple who have been together 50 years and one has just died will almost bring me to tears because I can put myself in that position and imagine how it must feel to lose someone who’s been with you nearly all your life.

That’s why I find the beginning of Up so hard to watch.

Why do you feel embarrassment when you cry and you are on your own? The last time I cried was July 2011 when my dog was put down. I did feel embarrassed because I didn’t want to cry in front of the vet, but if he wasn’t there I couldn’t have given two shits.[/quote]

^THIS. When I was emotionally “tougher” I was unhappy and very insecure, i though to be happy as a "man"you had to be though, and my behavior mirrored this, i would get in fights over nothing, I had a fight that ended in a broke hand my end, and a broken wrist and arm on the other end, over a DIET COKE!!! that’s what not being comfortable with my emotions did to me. Once I came to term with how to show and feel emotions properly I became happier. I am not saying your, insecure or hyper aggressive as i was, but I think that by just talking to someone you love and trust about your emotions you could feel so much better.

[audiogarden1]

[quote]FarmerBrett wrote:

[quote]audiogarden1 wrote:
I think as you get older and take on more responsibility/have more life-experiences, you discover the uselessness of crying. Some people find it therapeutic, i feel only embarrassment if i cry, even if no one else is around. Its a sign of weakness, of breaking down and letting your emotions get the better of you, rather than being proactive about fixing whatever problem it is you are faced with.
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That’s funny, I feel the EXACT opposite.

I was quite emotionally tough when I was younger, but as I’ve aged and taken on more responsibility I have become softer because I have so much more to lose now. I’ve been with my wife for 23 years and couldn’t imagine what I would do without her. This is why hearing about an elderly couple who have been together 50 years and one has just died will almost bring me to tears because I can put myself in that position and imagine how it must feel to lose someone who’s been with you nearly all your life.

That’s why I find the beginning of Up so hard to watch.

Why do you feel embarrassment when you cry and you are on your own? The last time I cried was July 2011 when my dog was put down. I did feel embarrassed because I didn’t want to cry in front of the vet, but if he wasn’t there I couldn’t have given two shits.[/quote]

You and I are in vastly different places in our lives, so itd be hard for either of us to convince eachother one way or the other.

And for the record, i think losing a life-partner, best friend or pet is a darn good excuse to cry.

In a situation like that, you are essentially helpless though, theres nothing left to do but to mourn. Its a lot more understandable to me.

But outside of those scenarios and aside from some other extreme moments in life, i have a hard time rationalizing crying. If life sucks and things arent going your way or you feel like youre hitting rock bottom or your gf of a couple years breaks up with you, you may cry. I would be embarrassed to do so though, because instead of crying there’s almost always something else i could be doing to better my situation and pull myself from whatever slump im faced with. I know all the E-shrinks will start telling me how im not comfortable in my masculinity or some shit but whatever.

Other than that, pain doesnt make me cry. Even when i was a little kid breaking bones and shit i never cried. Maybe i did when i was REALLY little, like 7 or 8, but otherwise ive found that i have no real desire to cry due to physical pain.

Crying from laughing so hard is the only time i cry and wouldnt feel embarrassed about it. I just dont see a reason or use for shedding tears otherwise.

[super_saiyan]

[quote]Lukemonahan wrote:

[quote]FarmerBrett wrote:

[quote]audiogarden1 wrote:
I think as you get older and take on more responsibility/have more life-experiences, you discover the uselessness of crying. Some people find it therapeutic, i feel only embarrassment if i cry, even if no one else is around. Its a sign of weakness, of breaking down and letting your emotions get the better of you, rather than being proactive about fixing whatever problem it is you are faced with.
[/quote]

That’s funny, I feel the EXACT opposite.

I was quite emotionally tough when I was younger, but as I’ve aged and taken on more responsibility I have become softer because I have so much more to lose now. I’ve been with my wife for 23 years and couldn’t imagine what I would do without her. This is why hearing about an elderly couple who have been together 50 years and one has just died will almost bring me to tears because I can put myself in that position and imagine how it must feel to lose someone who’s been with you nearly all your life.

That’s why I find the beginning of Up so hard to watch.

Why do you feel embarrassment when you cry and you are on your own? The last time I cried was July 2011 when my dog was put down. I did feel embarrassed because I didn’t want to cry in front of the vet, but if he wasn’t there I couldn’t have given two shits.[/quote]

^THIS. When I was emotionally “tougher” I was unhappy and very insecure, i though to be happy as a "man"you had to be though, and my behavior mirrored this, i would get in fights over nothing, I had a fight that ended in a broke hand my end, and a broken wrist and arm on the other end, over a DIET COKE!!! that’s what not being comfortable with my emotions did to me. Once I came to term with how to show and feel emotions properly I became happier. I am not saying your, insecure or hyper aggressive as i was, but I think that by just talking to someone you love and trust about your emotions you could feel so much better. [/quote]

So who got the Diet Coke?

[Loolu]

[quote]Lukemonahan wrote:

[quote]FarmerBrett wrote:

[quote]audiogarden1 wrote:
I think as you get older and take on more responsibility/have more life-experiences, you discover the uselessness of crying. Some people find it therapeutic, i feel only embarrassment if i cry, even if no one else is around. Its a sign of weakness, of breaking down and letting your emotions get the better of you, rather than being proactive about fixing whatever problem it is you are faced with.
[/quote]

That’s funny, I feel the EXACT opposite.

I was quite emotionally tough when I was younger, but as I’ve aged and taken on more responsibility I have become softer because I have so much more to lose now. I’ve been with my wife for 23 years and couldn’t imagine what I would do without her. This is why hearing about an elderly couple who have been together 50 years and one has just died will almost bring me to tears because I can put myself in that position and imagine how it must feel to lose someone who’s been with you nearly all your life.

That’s why I find the beginning of Up so hard to watch.

Why do you feel embarrassment when you cry and you are on your own? The last time I cried was July 2011 when my dog was put down. I did feel embarrassed because I didn’t want to cry in front of the vet, but if he wasn’t there I couldn’t have given two shits.[/quote]

^THIS. When I was emotionally “tougher” I was unhappy and very insecure, i though to be happy as a "man"you had to be though, and my behavior mirrored this, i would get in fights over nothing, I had a fight that ended in a broke hand my end, and a broken wrist and arm on the other end, over a DIET COKE!!! that’s what not being comfortable with my emotions did to me. Once I came to term with how to show and feel emotions properly I became happier. I am not saying your, insecure or hyper aggressive as i was, but I think that by just talking to someone you love and trust about your emotions you could feel so much better. [/quote]

Of topic this is my old account that i had lost the password and email password for, Ive used a different browser today and it turns out this one is logged in on it, but is there a way i can delete my old account???

[Loolu]

[quote]super saiyan wrote:

[quote]Lukemonahan wrote:

[quote]FarmerBrett wrote:

[quote]audiogarden1 wrote:
I think as you get older and take on more responsibility/have more life-experiences, you discover the uselessness of crying. Some people find it therapeutic, i feel only embarrassment if i cry, even if no one else is around. Its a sign of weakness, of breaking down and letting your emotions get the better of you, rather than being proactive about fixing whatever problem it is you are faced with.
[/quote]

That’s funny, I feel the EXACT opposite.

I was quite emotionally tough when I was younger, but as I’ve aged and taken on more responsibility I have become softer because I have so much more to lose now. I’ve been with my wife for 23 years and couldn’t imagine what I would do without her. This is why hearing about an elderly couple who have been together 50 years and one has just died will almost bring me to tears because I can put myself in that position and imagine how it must feel to lose someone who’s been with you nearly all your life.

That’s why I find the beginning of Up so hard to watch.

Why do you feel embarrassment when you cry and you are on your own? The last time I cried was July 2011 when my dog was put down. I did feel embarrassed because I didn’t want to cry in front of the vet, but if he wasn’t there I couldn’t have given two shits.[/quote]

^THIS. When I was emotionally “tougher” I was unhappy and very insecure, i though to be happy as a "man"you had to be though, and my behavior mirrored this, i would get in fights over nothing, I had a fight that ended in a broke hand my end, and a broken wrist and arm on the other end, over a DIET COKE!!! that’s what not being comfortable with my emotions did to me. Once I came to term with how to show and feel emotions properly I became happier. I am not saying your, insecure or hyper aggressive as i was, but I think that by just talking to someone you love and trust about your emotions you could feel so much better. [/quote]

So who got the Diet Coke?[/quote]

Sorry that was old account, and as for the diet coke, it got spilled, which looking back down reduced my risk of aspartame cancer