Happiness is a warm bed in a snug cabin in a place like the above, naked and pressed up against my guy, with a nice, full day behind us.
Iāve spent years dealing with depression. One of the things I had to figure out was that I was the one driving it. I was causing it to happen to myself. And once I recognized what was happening, I found I could stop it in itās tracks. It took work, but I have improved immensely.
One of the things I learned was that happiness is a choice. Too often we put restrictions on our happiness. āIāll be happy whenā¦ā or āIf only this would happen, then I would be happy.ā
I decided to choose to just be happy. Screw what happens to me, or around me. Doesnāt matter if the world has problems, or my neighbor does. Doesnāt matter of that person cut in front of me. Sure I can still get pissed, but I still maintain my happiness. Because itās a choice. A decision I made for myself.
Although being happy doesnāt mean Iām satisfied. I keep that drive to improve myself. To get stronger, healthier, and wealthier. (Personal goals.) Neither am I satisfied with the way the world is. Thereās a drive to make the world a better place, even if only on a small scale.
Too many people think happiness is the goal. I say itās the journey.
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Yep. Happiness is a choice.
You can spend your whole life chasing the elusive āhappinessā or simply choose to find joy in the journey.
We were going to try to do Glacier last year - itās still on our list - but couldnāt arrange his travel schedule with my work stuff. Someday. Luckily I have mountains in my backyard, too, though theyāre not as grand as that. Still, my days are full and my bed warm and Iām pretty much plumb happy all the time.
I think itās important to be content with oneās life. I do think it pays for some people to be ambitious, but I am not into the whole relatively new ādivine discontentā/ānever satisfiedā/āpositive dissatisfactionā crap.
Iām virtually allergic to trendy packaging but I use these concepts all the time. In the context of recovery from substance abuse they are great tools to keep you on your toes and continue to ameliorate character defects.
The most you can have is nothing. This is all any of us ever have, and this is all that is required for hapiness.
Iāve started getting into meditation again (first explored it back in college). I can understand people writing meditation off as bs, but if you are open enough to learn a little more about it, a great book is:
āZen Trainingā - by Katsuki Sekida (1893-1987).
Samadhi is an intersting state that I would call a form of natural, obtainable happiness.
This is a great book that goes over the practice and also introduces enough science to make the reader a true believer. Itās like $14 on amazon.
Iām a freelancer, and when a new job comes in and I know itās going to keep my mind off of money for a couple of months I feel a sense of peace and calm. Iām working on making sure I have that feeling all of the time around the clock.
So not being stressed about money is at the top of the list.
Also, wrapping your arms around a hot South American girl will work wonders for happiness.
I maintain that if all you want out of life is to be happy, you should forget about fulfillment and hierarchies of needs and just concentrate on taking MDMA as much as possible. Thereās like a study of something.
Most of us want more out of life than that. Getting things done. Achievements. Relationships.
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Personally I like to concentrate on the fulfilment etc then every now and then take MDMA with some good friends of mine.
Best of both worlds, I feel.
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Seems like an emninetly sensible plan.
Iāve actually read infantile posts on Facebook and Instagram in which ridiculous women state that āall I want is a life of happinessā or āa life of laughterā. I wish them luck and Iām glad I donāt have this ridiculous view on life and the world.
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My wife has requested I stay off Facebook so I wonāt lose respect for some of her friends and their husbands.
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Seriously, as of late, I am disgusted by Facebook, literally! I canāt stay on it for more than about five minutes, if that.
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