I wasn’t calling you anti social. It’s hard for a female married 38 year old to get lifting parters that get a stamp of approval from my hubby. He doesn’t lift so he’ll spot me only if I lift at home. I’d always had trainers spot me. So, it gets a little frustrating at times
Oh no I’m not saying you were lol.
Yeah my wife used to train with me when I started lifting again. Then she realized she didn’t like lifting weights and only goes for the cardio kickboxing and yoga classes now.
Alot of this not talking to stranger is an American/Western thing. Apart from the gym, when i first came to Israel from Canada i was amazed that random people would talk to me on the bus and they werent wackos.
Same thing if your walking in the street or in a store or anything, people are more free to talk.
In the gym you can talk to mostly anyone here even biggest bodybuilders since they grew up in this society.
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Can you explain this statement? Do you believe millinials popped out as demon spawn? You realise it was (probably) your generation that raised them… Or perhaps it’s just your personal mechanism to generalise and blame shit on other people?
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I am a gym talker in between sets . My new gym is not very social. Still you can usually find someone to talk but not for too long , you don’t want to cool down.
I don’t go to the gym to socialize except tease friends by being Cheeky. I’m a hard ass and when it comes towards anything athletic, nothing is ever satisfying for me except gains. Small talk with strangers would take away my focus. When it comes to my health I am 100% goal oriented. I’m there to train not trade lifting “secrets” like women and recipes. I know it is demeaning to some but they’ll get over it.
You just have to be able to change up to serious very quickly. I feel like a lemon waiting 3 mins between sets . Do too many mobility drills and you get tired and lose focus on the set.
No, that was us, the Gen Xers. You guys are just girly men. 
j/k
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Congrats
I’m a gen Y ya cheeky bastard
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I don’t purposely try to be a bitch. It’s just so many trolls or not serious about bein there (view as a social club)and I try to remain focused. I go in with a “plan” and “execute it”.
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I’ve only ever lifted at friends or my own gym/basements, which is great if you like getting/busting balls. Like when your bud walks up to the bar and says “Let me help with that” and starts taking plates off or starts humping you when your set up real tight for a bench PR.
You gotta have fun sometimes. Focused is good. Intense is good. But so is goofing off a little. You can’t hit a dead lift pr and finish it with a triple snap in the Z formation in a gym full of hard core super serious strangers.
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I guess I should elaborate cuz my drs allowed me one hour in gym starting in 2017. I was at 83 lbs and had to be 100 before I could exercise. They composed my workouts. So, at first I was very shy and weak, felt embarrassed. But ekgs kept coming back good so more and more freedom. However, two weeks ago was the first time I was approved to not use my Kardia (2 lead ekg) after working out and sending results to drs. So, I kinda was forced to be that way. Before I lifted with a trainer and my team. There was lots of cheekiness. Edit 125-128 now
That wasn’t directed at anybody in particular. Its just something fun we used to do at my one friends house to see who cracks and loses it first.
I understand that people do what they do to optimize their own experience of something. One friend of mine is like super intense fly fishing guy. Thats his thing. Every cast is the one that is going to start an epic battle between him and a fish.
Its all good.
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Headphones are the real cause of an antisocial gym atmosphere. However, the true reason for headphones is the fact most gyms play terrible music at all hours of the day…that and to block out the gym grunter. That guy sucks.
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Tee hee hee
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I’m going with the demon spawn train of thought. Didn’t really consider that one but now you mention it, everything makes sense.
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This is a cell phone / ear bud thing. Look at people waiting in a line, grocery shopping, going to the gym, or any other task. They are largely locked into their instagram feed, and would rather “like” tweets than talk to anyone. I don’t see this as a gym-specific behavior.
I believe this 100% is the main reason. Sure you can still talk to someone with them and I see it all the time, but the opportunities are less. I also see very serious people with and without headphones and the serious gym people are always chatting at some point in their workout. This attitude of “I’m here to train and not socialize” is kind of B.S. It sounds correct in theory but in practice some of the most social people at the gym at the “serious” or dedicated ones simply because they are there daily and its kind of weird NOT to talk to someone you see daily.
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The gym is for working out, not socializing. Go to a bar or cafe for that
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